so i thought after my m/c on tuesday i was fine, i cried i dealt with the physical pain thought i had handled all the emotions but i guess not.
this morning has been a constant struggle. everything i do, my mind keeps going back to tuesday.
and crying isn't helping, sobbing isn't helping, screaming isn't helping, and now fighting with DH isn't helping. im losing it. and with him leaving on monday (tdy we're airforce) im losing it more.
i can't breathe.....
i cant imagine ur pain - and with the added stress of ur man leaving you. you poor thing. i wish i could just give you a hug and help you deal with each thing one by one until you felt better but the best thing for you to do right now is whatever you feel is workin. try everything. try music, try bg, try movies, try walks, try cooking, anything that helps you think clearly is worth doing over and over until you can grasp things in a way that allows you to push forward. i'll be thinking of you...
I'm so sorry Amber. I really hope it gets easier for you. If you need us, you know we are here for you.
i've been okay up until this morning. but now everything is just catching up with me i suppose......
Amber I'm so sorry. Everything you are feeling is normal, you are going through something that is very emotional. For me I felt good for a couple of days but then it hit me, everything I saw made me think it about it, even if it had nothing to do with a baby, I turned it into something related.
I know its hard but like others have said, time will help heal the pain. You've got all of us here to help and listen.
Everyone else has said it all so I will just add in the *hugs* we love you and are here for you.
I'm so sorry. I never had a miscarriage so I don't know the physical pain. But all I can say is that it does get better BUT it never goes away. It takes time though :(
Eventually you WILL feel better. It will get easier over time, but the pain won't ever completely go away, and that's ok. You will always remember that baby, and that's ok. It doesn't matter how far along you were. You LOVED that baby, and it will always hurt knowing that you lost someone that you loved. It's ok that it hurts, but you'll start to feel better. It's a process though. You need to grieve over the loss before you'll ever start to feel better. Just know that what you're going through is completely NORMAL.
NO ONE is disappointed in you, and you are NOT a failure. There was NOTHING you could have done to prevent this.
thank you ladies. i'm tearing up again but its a comfort thing now. you ladies are the best.