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♥myfunnyguys♥ 3 kids; Nebraska 20448 posts
Aug 22nd '09

I've never lost a child. I'm sorry for your loss. I think that they are way out of line by asking you that.

JennaDoula[EBFT] Due April 4 (boy); 2 kids; Earlville, New York 12755 posts
Aug 22nd '09

Ive never been in that position but I have to say how sorry I am for you. No one should be asking you that stuff. Thats none of their business and they shouldn't be so insensitive to such a horrible loss.

Hayden'sMommyy 1 child; Louisiana 105 posts
Aug 22nd '09

No its completly understandable i wouldnt be kool with ppl saying that so soon? i mean it may be toosoon to even think about tht kinda stuff.

Brock Obama 1 child; Spain 6372 posts
Aug 22nd '09

I am sorry for your loss. I haven't lost a child but I think it's a bit tactless from your people asking you that, specially when is so recent.

user banned Iran 9386 posts
Aug 22nd '09
Quoting Hayden'sMommyy:
Ariella & Alessia's mommy Due April 28 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; HAMILTON, NJ, United States 1061 posts
Aug 22nd '09

first off, I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your angel.
& I would be so annoyed and irate if people were asking me when I'd be having another baby. hello? it just happened recently...

well for me I lost my baby girl Avania at 21 weeks 4 days, 1/8/06.
& the beginning of my pregnancy with AriellaI was terrified until I passed the 21 week 4 day mark.

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Aug 22nd '09
Quoting Ariella Raine's Mommy:
Ariella & Alessia's mommy Due April 28 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; HAMILTON, NJ, United States 1061 posts
Aug 22nd '09
Quoting ♥ Sie .:
Sherlock Holmes 3 kids; 3 angel babies; United Kingdom 39658 posts
Aug 23rd '09

Im very sorry for your loss



When i lost my twins at 21 weeks 4 days all i wanted to do was get pregnant thats all i could think about, then a few months later i was and i thought id hit the good times until my water's broke at 23 weeks 5 days Zachary live for 9 hours. After i lost him people were asking me when are you going to try again and i said never i was never going to put myself through that again.



Well i lost him in Aug, in the dec me and Mark had had a heart to heart and said we would give it one more shot if we didnt get pregnant within a year we would look into adoption. unknown to me i was already pregnant, thats when it hit me during my pregnancy i did everything i could to set myself up for the big fall that i thought i was going to have, as the weeks went on i tought maybe this baby could make it, as soon as i got to 30 weeks i knew id have a good chance of being a ''real'' mom. When i gave birth to Peyton it was a real bitter sweet moment i was so happy to have a healthy baby but i was so upset that it had taken all the heartache to get her here with me.



I would say to you that you will know when you are ready for another baby, and that you will never foret your daughter she will always be in your thoughts, even now if im out and someone is cutting grass i smile to myself because on the day i had the twins thats what i could smell.

*WishingUponAStar* 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Lawton, Oklahoma 18442 posts
Aug 23rd '09

I am so sorry for your loss hun. I would find people asking me when I am going to have another baby irritated too. After I lost my daughter, the last thing on my mind was having another baby, I wanted HER! My husband ended up talking me into trying again when he was coming home from r&r in Iraq and I told him I was scared and didnt know if I was ready but since we only had 1 chance, I agreed to try, we ended up making our son lol. My pregnancy with him I was so scared, but everything turned out fine and I have my precious son, well 2 now lol. but my daughter is still in my heart and I will never forget her and no one will ever replace her.

Sherlock Holmes 3 kids; 3 angel babies; United Kingdom 39658 posts
Aug 23rd '09
Quoting -Christy-:
Sheri S 20 kids; Missouri 1 posts
Aug 23rd '09

Hi! I am new to the site, but I have four children and one angel. I had my fourth after 6 weeks in the hospital trying to save the pregnancy, and he was born 10 weeks early. We lost him at two weeks, and I was pregnant again within three months. I, too, was worried about every little thing going wrong. I was constantly at my doctor's office thinking something was wrong, and toward the end of my pregnancy I often went to L&D thinking I was going to go into labor. I must say that we had a healthy baby boy 11 and a half months after I gave birth to our angel, Dante. We now have a beautiful baby, but I am really suffering from postpartum because I haven't gotten proper help for my grief yet. My suggestion: wait until you have had some major help. Even if you don't think you need it, it won't hurt. I went through undergrad school during the last three pregnancies, and the added stress was way too hard. I am so happy I have my babies, but I still have a LONG way to go until I am the best mom I can be. It is all I can do from day to day to make sure my kids get changed and fed - even if it is only PB & J or hotdogs. I don't have the mental or physical wherewithall to read to them or cuddle them much, which adds to my depression. I feel like they are so precious that they deserve more. I have a wonderful husband, but it is all he can do to take care of me and the house while working full time, that he has little energy left over to parent to the best of his ability. You do what is right for you, but I feel that for me, help should have been first and foremost - I need it more now than ever.