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Please tell me im not alone on this.. Amber ♥Ryan & Emma 82 kids; Santa Fe, New Mexico 6552 posts
Mar 24th '09

Hi everyone. My hubby and I just lost a baby last week. We didnt even know I was pregnant until Tuesday and on Friday I had a miscarriage. We went trying because of a surgery I had 7 months ago and because my surgeon wanted me to wait until a year to start trying so I had an IUD. But we really wanted another baby.. real bad.

Anyways... just curious.. I know I cant be the only one that has felt like this. Two people I know just found out they are pregnant within the last 2 weeks and One of them had an abortion a few years back and the other one drank so much after she found out she was pregnant she ended up having a miscarriage a few weeks later. Now they are both pregnant for the second time and are keeping the babies.

I know its horrible to feel like this and think like this and im usually not like this, but im so jealous! Im a good mom, my husband is a great dad, were stable, were happy, and we wanted this baby! These girls are so immature and I know its not my place to say if they should have a baby or not, since thats all of gods doing, but seriously.. why me? I know theres no answer to this, but please tell me im not alone, by feeling this way? If it were different circumstances with these girls, it would be different. But they killed thier babies.. I didnt! Why do they deserve a baby and I dont??!?!?!

Sorry.. I know im going to get hate on this one, but really.. im angry and hurt. This usually isnt me, but right now.. it is.

Hot Momma of 3 :) Due September 22 (girl); 34 kids; Cuyahoga Falls, Ohio 4866 posts
Mar 24th '09
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*♥Stacie♥* 33 kids; Rockport, Texas 1365 posts
Mar 24th '09

i felt the same way... sorry for your loss

LexusNexus 2G1B 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Yigo, Gu, Guam 13414 posts
Mar 24th '09

You're not alone! I felt the same way when we lost Hannah... I couldn't figure out why God gave babies to crack addicts and why my husband and I couldn't do it... I must have said a thousand times after my miscarriage "Cats reproduce better than I do".

Altheda+3 35 kids; North Carolina 2316 posts
Mar 24th '09

Aww, honey, I know exactly how you feel. I have had 2 miscarriages, and both times I went through the same shit. I hated to see anyone that was pregnant, especially the ones that I knew. I had a best friend at the time of my first miscarriage that got pregnant the same time I did. She didn't even go to the doctor! She waited until she was showing to go, she smoked the whole time, and she broke it off with the baby's father for no good reason. I hated her so much, but then I just had to tell myself that it was all for a reason. My 2nd miscarriage was almost a year ago, but if it hadn't of happened, I would be pregnant with my little boy now. He's healthy, gorgeous (seen him on 3d..yay!), and without losing the other baby last year, I wouldn't be having Victor right now. So everything works out for a reason, don't be so down, and just try to keep your head up. I know it is hard, but eventually you'll be able to look back and say "So that's why it happened". I'm so sorry for your loss, but I promise, even though it don't seem like it and you don't want to hear it, it will get better.

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Mar 24th '09
Quoting MommyAmbie:
Amber ♥Ryan & Emma 82 kids; Santa Fe, New Mexico 6552 posts
Mar 24th '09

Thanks guys! Your all so awesome! Atleast I know im not alone feeling this way, but I feel bad feeling like this. Ive been so angry and I hate being angry. I keep telling myself I just need to grieve and move on, especially since I already have an awesome lil man. Hubby keeps telling me the same thing.. it happened for a reason. I think the hardest part right now is that, I did want a baby, but before I knew I was pregnant I was ok with waiting until October to start trying.. I wanted another baby, bad, but I knew I had to wait. But now.. I want to try now!! But I cant... I have to wait.. and that right there is going to be soo hard.

Hooah Wifey 18 kids; El Paso, Texas 2418 posts
Mar 24th '09

Girl just like everyone else said you are NOT alone! After I lost my son Isaiah I was almost pissed at all my friends because I felt like I deserved more than them. And a lot of the time its true....and its not fair but its life....Im sorry for your loss baby girl. The ladies on here are awesome and I'm sure will help you a lot.

Chestnut13 50 kids; Trinidad and Tobago 280 posts
Mar 24th '09
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-M@NDIE- 67 kids; New Mexico 26521 posts
Mar 24th '09

i'm so sorry for your loss, i too have lost babies, and it's tough, but i have also been blessed with two little boys, and i see you also have a beautiful son, and you will be blessed again when the time is right.