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Everyone makes me out to be a killer.. my name is [JONAS]3.6.08 TTC since May 2009; 17 kids; Texas 2274 posts
Oct 29th '08

I already posted about having to get the abortion. Not HAVING but getting advised to by 3 doctors. And I decided that's what I wanted to do. My mother said that I am selfish for doing this. I AM selfish, but I'm sorry is it so selfish that I want to DIE?!! Leave my son without a mother? My family without me? I'm almost done with school getting my life started, I'm only 21. I'm excited about the future and to BE THERE when Jonas grows up. It just makes this even harder for me. Now I feel guilty even more. My abortion is 2 days away and my aunt told me if I went through with it she wouldnt talk to me. I told them every detail and that I have blood clot son the outside of my insicion on my uterus because it's already starting to weaken, it's like they don't care, they are all so pro-life they don't care! I'm going through all this shit and they don't CARE! Sorry I had to vent. I already feel horrible enough. I got with a therapist and I will start going to therapy next week, I know I'll need it. I just, I'm pro-choice, but I could never get an abortion and now I have to or die. Why can't life just be easy?

Elizabeth (mountainbaby) 1 child; McLean, Virginia 18837 posts
Oct 29th '08

You need to be here to raise your child. Your family is ignorant.

Bradley's mama 1 child; California 11896 posts
Oct 29th '08

I think you are making the right decision. Yourson needs you and it's not really a choice, but something that you are being advised by Dr's to do. It is really crappy that your family isn't being supportive of you, but it is your life and you have to know that you are making the best decision for you and your son and that's all that really matters.

Miranda <3's AC & JD Due November 11 (boy); 4 kids; Iowa 21669 posts
Oct 29th '08
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WalkingOnAir 16 kids; California 407 posts
Oct 29th '08

People are driven to do things that will help them survive and I don't see making sure you live as a problem especially because you have a son who needs a mom...

Monica♥YASDYARDFR Due February 27 (girl); TTC since Jan 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Beverly Hills, California 57197 posts
Oct 29th '08

I am so sorry your family isn't supporting you. Let your aunt not talk to you for awhile this is your decision to make not hers.

Tit4tat TTC since May 2016; 1 child; 3 angel babies; North Carolina 7483 posts
Oct 29th '08

So i think this is life or death? right? well if it is medical reason yes you ashould but if you are doing this just bc you dont want another one yeah selfish! But medical reasons are good reason for them,....i hope you feel better

` TAY 2 kids; Utah 2738 posts
Oct 29th '08
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Jess MHB/BLB 18 kids; Maryland 30519 posts
Oct 29th '08
Quoting Elizabeth (mountainbaby):
Haleigh's mommy Due February 27; 1 child; Cape Canaveral, Florida 524 posts
Oct 29th '08

you should do everything for your son. Screw your family. They should understand. Your doing the right thing. Good luck

my name is [JONAS]3.6.08 TTC since May 2009; 17 kids; Texas 2274 posts
Oct 29th '08

And my aunt said to me last night "You will regret this forever!" I was like um if I die I can't have regrets! I have been having not bad dreams, but I can't explain it, it's weird. Like when I go to get Jonas out of his crib in the middle of the night to feed him in the dark I swear it's like there's a baby in there that isn't him. I guess I'm just scared

DivasMomma 18 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 8238 posts
Oct 29th '08

I agree with you and everyone else....its not like you are having an abortion just because...you have a real serious reason....tell them to put themselves in that position and try to make the "right" choice! Stay stong for your lil boy

~Cyndi~ Due April 20; 5 kids; Sullivan, Missouri 3443 posts
Oct 29th '08

i'm sorry for your family acting like asses. Everyone has their own opinion and dammit they feel free to share them. You know what's best for your body. My Dr. and most of my family wanted me to abort Bayleigh because I had complete placenta previa and it was endangering both my life and hers. They told me i was selfish for not doing it because who would raise my kids if I died. I chose the best option for me, just like you did for you. You have to trust yourself to know that you're making the right decision. Your son will thank you some day for being there for all of his firsts.

Tippie 3 kids; Salem, Oregon 12579 posts
Oct 29th '08

i am pro-life too but i recognize the difference between choosing to abort your child and doing it for medical reasons. if doctors say you could die,

my name is [JONAS]3.6.08 TTC since May 2009; 17 kids; Texas 2274 posts
Oct 29th '08
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