how do i get him to stop spending all the damn money?
we get paid this months on the 29th and he already has appoinments to get tattoos, go to a friends batchlers (sp) party, buy tons of shit.. and its just.. we dont have the kind of money where he can go and do what he wants right now. that and the fact that we hae having a kid in just a few weeks.. i dont know if he is going crazy becuase once the kid comes he KNOWS he cant spend like that, or if this is how he is going to act for ever.. its so frustrating when he comes home and tells me 'oh ya i took another hundered out so i could buy stuff today'. and he buys JUNK that he will use once and then he just seems to not need it anymore.. i need to make him realize that this is not okay.. HOW?!?!
Have you tried talking to him.
Showing him a budget and how it doesnt make sense. And that he can still play alittle but within a responsable cost range.
My husband spent a grand on himself alone last month- sickening to watch. He pays cash so at least its not debt., but designer suits, designer watches, sunglasses.., ugh. He travels abroad often and comes home with eyes bigger than his wallet- cause he wants what all his fellow employees have.., his boss uses lois Vutton luggage..,We dont have money like that!! oh- did I mention he bought himself a coach wallet last week? ugh- and we have a 9 month old, and Im prego! ..., they are idiots!
my husband is like that sometimes... a few months ago he was convinced he had to have a boat... we got one.. .but it was only 100 bucks.. which is pretty good for a boat... I just have to tell him - We do not have the money for that! In a sternvoice. This month he was convinced he wanted to get a dog and have it trained to be a drug dog... I don't want to discuss the amount.. but we picked out the pup and will have it next week.. on that though - it is a good thing... for one helps with his safety while on duty and another - gives him better job oppurtunities. He has gotten much better about it though since we met... he used to go get money from the ATM for no reason at all. crazy.
we drew up a budget together justa few weeks ago. and he sayd that he is trying his best to stay on it but that it gets hard when all his friends can spend all they want. He is in the army. his friends DONT have wives, DONT have kids on the way.. i agree.. its just sad to watch because he doesnt realize that eventually, we are going to need every dime that he has spent.. :[ ugh
let him learn the hard way, it will give him a reality check when the baby arrives.
Hmmm... Maybe you should just take some out yourself and put it somewhere for savings. Or take away is card and give himcash.. I know it sounds silly because he is a grown man.... but sometimes you have to do whats best for the family as a whole. I feel silly when I have to call my husband and tell him not to spend any money bc we only have so much in the account. Once he asked me where it all went.. I listed off about 10 bills that had to be paid and things he has done and grocery shopping that I did
Or let him get to the store ready to check out (or the atm) and watch his face when it declines him cause THERE AINT NO MONEY IN THE BANK! I had to do that to my Hubby on purpose just to get him to understand that we need food more than he needed that new shirt or new contraption for his truck! he gets it now that he was fired from his job almost two months ago!
This all sounds too familar. This past Saturday my BF spent $670 on a coat for himself, went to Miami with his friends last month and the month before that got a full back tattoo. I'm due in a few weeks. BUT he says if he can live lavish, his son deserves to live the same way. So I don't worry, really. :?
My husband is in the Army too, and he does the same thing!
I honestly had to show him a budget, and take his card away and give him an "allowance". It sounds silly to do that to a grown man, but he is still in the "single soldier" mentality...that's why I had to take his cards away. It's hard to spend money you don't have access to.
Just spend the money on Baby first. Get the stuff you need and there really won't be too much left over for excess junk. Buy gift cards if you need to. Just do it to make the point that babies cost money...lots of money. bet reality coms crashing down on him really quick.
My husband was like this in the begining. After eight years of marriage, it has gotten better. I finally just had to start telling him no or make him save up for things. It's amazing what they decide the don't really need if it requires saving up the money.
ya i am hoping that things will click for him. he will be getting deployed before the baby comes, so im kinda worried that he still wont think it is "real" that we have a little girl.. i dunno. i have tried to talk to him about it but its like he agrees with everything i say and then his actions are completly different.. imma have to do something creative like that shopping thing lol