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Signing over rights WhiteZombie 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 772 posts
Jul 18th '17

My sons father called me saying he wants to sign his rights away. This is probably the 4th time now. All because he doesn't want to pay child support. Him and his gf claim hes going to file a petition and want me to file one as well, which isn't going to happen. 

As of now we have shared legal custody, I have primary physical custody and he has visitation every other weekend as well as one day during the week. He skips his visitation quite often. 

As far as I've Read, in VA parents can not sign away rights unless there is another parent to adopt or if there is abuse. So I'm not necessarily worried about his petition being granted, I do worry how all of this effects my son. I'm wondering if I should try and get his visitation taken away and if I even have enough reason in the courts eyes to do so. I in no way WANT for my son to not have his father in his life, but I also do not want my son to grow up with a father who is willing to abandon him over money and only come around when its convient for him. I've tried to co parent with him but he makes it impossible. I just want what's best for my son. 

KayandJay1028 Due July 30; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; valdosta, GA, United States 1194 posts
Jul 18th '17

I would for sure try and strip rights to protect your son! 

fluffyruffruff 5 kids; United States 4725 posts
Jul 18th '17

Idk... If my childs father wanted to sign over his rights and the court would allow it, i would agree to it. While i fully believe that it is a mans responsibility to financially support the children he helped create, i personally would rather go it on my own than force someone to stay in my childs life. They certainly dont need that. I felt like a burden growing up... I never want my children to feel like that 

WhiteZombie 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 772 posts
Jul 18th '17

Quoting fluffyruffruff:
Idk... If my childs father wanted to sign over his rights and the court would allow it, i would agree to it. While i fully believe that it is a mans responsibility to financially support the children he helped create, i personally would rather go it on my own than force someone to stay in my childs life. They certainly dont need that. I felt like a burden growing up... I never want my children to feel like that 


I agree, but I just don't see the courts allowing him to sign his rights away just because he doesn't want to pay. 

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Jul 18th '17

Is he being an a*****e to his son when he has him? If not, it's sort of a jerk move to want to take his visitation and still have out a hand for child support. 

If he's an ass to the kid, f**k him. Take away his visitation. 

WhiteZombie 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 772 posts
Jul 19th '17

Quoting DaniellaEllaElla:
Is he being an a*****e to his son when he has him? If not, it's sort of a jerk move to want to take his visitation and still have out a hand for child support. 

If he's an ass to the kid, f**k him. Take away his visitation. 


I honestly have no idea how he treats my son when he has him, we spend less than a minute together during pick up and drop off and my sons only two so he can't tell me a lot. However my ex does says terrible things about my son when he's mad, probably the worse being that my son who was like 1.5 at the time needed his ass beat, he'll say f**k him, he'll deal with him when he's older and of course wanting to sign his rights away. 

I don't WANT to take away visitation but I'm just starting to wonder if its the best thing. I don't want my son to grow up and feel bad about himself because his dad only comes around when he feels like it and says nasty things about him (Of course I will never tell him his dad has said these things).

Team❤Pink 3 kids; 4 angel babies; Maryland 4721 posts
Jul 19th '17

Quoting WhiteZombie:

I honestly have no idea how he treats my son when he has him, we spend less than a minute together during pick up and drop off and my sons only two so he can't tell me a lot. However my ex does says terrible things about my son when he's mad, probably the worse being that my son who was like 1.5 at the time needed his ass beat, he'll say f**k him, he'll deal with him when he's older and of course wanting to sign his rights away. 

I don't WANT to take away visitation but I'm just starting to wonder if its the best thing. I don't want my son to grow up and feel bad about himself because his dad only comes around when he feels like it and says nasty things about him (Of course I will never tell him his dad has said these things).


If he believes a 1 1/2 yr old "needs his ass beat ", then I'd definitely take that as he needs his visitstion revolked. 
I wouldn't agree to having him sign over his rights because he should still be held responsible for him financially. But I'd address my concerns to the judge about your sons safety while with his dad. What if he resents him so much that one day he loses his temper and something awful happens...?

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102631 posts
Jul 19th '17

Quoting WhiteZombie:

I honestly have no idea how he treats my son when he has him, we spend less than a minute together during pick up and drop off and my sons only two so he can't tell me a lot. However my ex does says terrible things about my son when he's mad, probably the worse being that my son who was like 1.5 at the time needed his ass beat, he'll say f**k him, he'll deal with him when he's older and of course wanting to sign his rights away. 

I don't WANT to take away visitation but I'm just starting to wonder if its the best thing. I don't want my son to grow up and feel bad about himself because his dad only comes around when he feels like it and says nasty things about him (Of course I will never tell him his dad has said these things).


What. The. f**k. I would never ever leave my kid alone with this scum bag, who says that about a baby? His own baby? Huh? He sounds the type to seriously hurt his child to get out of paying support. I would happily let him sign away his rights. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102631 posts
Jul 19th '17

Quoting Team❤Pink:

If he believes a 1 1/2 yr old "needs his ass beat ", then I'd definitely take that as he needs his visitstion revolked. 
I wouldn't agree to having him sign over his rights because he should still be held responsible for him financially. But I'd address my concerns to the judge about your sons safety while with his dad. What if he resents him so much that one day he loses his temper and something awful happens...?


Right.

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Jul 19th '17

Quoting bia.:

What. The. f**k. I would never ever leave my kid alone with this scum bag, who says that about a baby? His own baby? Huh? He sounds the type to seriously hurt his child to get out of paying support. I would happily let him sign away his rights. 


Yeah, after reading that he's a fuckface about the kid, I'd happily toss out that garbage and grant his wish!