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... .casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2012 posts
Apr 30th '17

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°•♡Alice♡•° TTC since Jun 2013; 1 angel baby; Wonderland, VA, United States 3693 posts
Apr 30th '17

Geeez. I don't know if that's bullying but that's not normal, I would even go as far as saying sexual harassment. I would definitely be talking to a principal. 

Drew90 Due December 28; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7384 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting °•♡Alice♡•°:
Geeez. I don't know if that's bullying but that's not normal, I would even go as far as saying sexual harassment. I would definitely be talking to a principal. 


This!  

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 48153 posts
Apr 30th '17

I am so livid for you. This is complete BS. I don't know how it works where you live but here, if the teachers/principals don't intervene, we can go right to the school board. I would demand that my child be separated from him at once. I'm so, so sorry that you and your daughter are dealing with this. Very Sad

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2012 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting tinana+2 (21w):
I am so livid for you. This is complete BS. I don't know how it works where you live but here, if the teachers/principals don't intervene, we can go right to the school board. I would demand that my child be separated from him at once. I'm so, so sorry that you and your daughter are dealing with this. Very Sad


It's difficult because she has a few teachers and one of them is the deputy head and he's not done anything. But she's just got a new teacher so I'm going in to speak to her. This boy is a nightmare. We've even got her name down for another school, but it's full and there's a waiting list. I can't believe I have to send my kids to this school, it's awful. I'm especially worried about sending DS1 in September when his speech isn't very good and he won't be able to tell me if something is wrong :(

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting tinana+2 (21w):
I am so livid for you. This is complete BS. I don't know how it works where you live but here, if the teachers/principals don't intervene, we can go right to the school board. I would demand that my child be separated from him at once. I'm so, so sorry that you and your daughter are dealing with this. Very Sad


It depends on the school/area, a lot of it. I can't imagine this happening in DD's school, it's outrageous. Even words like stupid and coward etc are discouraged. Let alone physical violence. 

OP, I would certainly be having a very stern word with the headteacher directly. It speaks volumes about what atmosphere they're cultivating. If nothing changes, I'd change schools, not thinking twice. I wouldn't want my child in the environment where that's how they are allowed to treat each other. 

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2012 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting lamb_nodules:

It depends on the school/area, a lot of it. I can't imagine this happening in DD's school, it's outrageous. Even words like stupid and coward etc are discouraged. Let alone physical violence. 

OP, I would certainly be having a very stern word with the headteacher directly. It speaks volumes about what atmosphere they're cultivating. If nothing changes, I'd change schools, not thinking twice. I wouldn't want my child in the environment where that's how they are allowed to treat each other. 


I have, on more than one occasion. If switching schools was an option I'd do it without a doubt. But it's not that simple because all the schools are full. She's on the waiting list for another school, but a space will probably never become available. It's an awful school, but unfortunately it's our catchment school. We could afford to send her private, but we can't afford to send all 3 kids private, so that's not really an option either. I'll be going in guns blazing on Tuesday though. I've had more than enough. I dread sending her :(

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting .casper.:

I have, on more than one occasion. If switching schools was an option I'd do it without a doubt. But it's not that simple because all the schools are full. She's on the waiting list for another school, but a space will probably never become available. It's an awful school, but unfortunately it's our catchment school. We could afford to send her private, but we can't afford to send all 3 kids private, so that's not really an option either. I'll be going in guns blazing on Tuesday though. I've had more than enough. I dread sending her :(


I'm guessing you can't move to a different catchment area? I'm sure I'm just saying things you've considered yourself, just thinking out loud, really. I would personally consider it, although I know how complicated and difficult that is. Is her school one class per year? Is there another 'year one' class she could transfer to within the school? Can you contact Ofsted? Is that something they do, listen to parents' complaints?

We are so lucky to be living where we live, most schools are outstanding, in reports and reality. DD's school is so nurturing and motivational, I get inspired interacting with the teachers lol. But DH is a Londoner and his whole family lives there, and I know that some areas are simply not such, especially in cities. I hope things change for you, one way or another. It really makes me so sad for your daughter and you, that must hurt your heart so much. 

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4579 posts
Apr 30th '17

What about talking to his parents? Has he had any punishment for his behavior? I would go ape shit on the parents of the kid if a kid was treating my child that way. 

⭐ ⭐No Apologies Due January 3; Miami, FL, United States 4056 posts
Apr 30th '17

That sounds like sexual harassment and forget going to the teacher. They obviously aren't concerned about your complaints. Take it to the school board. Request a conference with the teacher, parents and little boy. Demand that your child be separated from him. Most schools have a sexual harassment and bullying policy. If nothing is done after,  file a complaint with the school district. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting MrsKW:
What about talking to his parents? Has he had any punishment for his behavior? I would go ape shit on the parents of the kid if a kid was treating my child that way. 


I was gonna suggest this as something else to try, too. 

Thinkaboutit 4 kids; United States 2511 posts
Apr 30th '17

He is definitely harassing her. All kids should feel safe at school....how could she?

As for wanting to be friends.....sometimes little kids will want to be friends with their tormentors, I've seen it before. Maybe it's because when. They are little, will tell them to be friends with everyone...idk. Telling other kids not to play with her is bullying.

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2012 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting MrsKW:
What about talking to his parents? Has he had any punishment for his behavior? I would go ape shit on the parents of the kid if a kid was treating my child that way. 


I have spoken to his mum, but again, in her eyes "Boys will be Boys". She's annoying AF, and also sees them as being friends so it mustn't be a problem. I know talking to his mum won't do anything, which is why I need the school to listen  

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 48153 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting .casper.:

I have spoken to his mum, but again, in her eyes "Boys will be Boys". She's annoying AF, and also sees them as being friends so it mustn't be a problem. I know talking to his mum won't do anything, which is why I need the school to listen  


My boys have never behaved like that and we would be horrified if they did. That's disgusting!

Royal_Lux United States 2660 posts
Apr 30th '17

Quoting °•♡Alice♡•°:
Geeez. I don't know if that's bullying but that's not normal, I would even go as far as saying sexual harassment. I would definitely be talking to a principal. 


Exclamation Also shame on that teacher for placing a student, next to a boy in hopes she would tell him what to do. Horrible.