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:) Some Rad Chick 1 child; Los Angeles, California 1930 posts
Apr 29th '17

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Mommyto1girl&3boys 4 kids; United States 1055 posts
Apr 29th '17

Do what is best for you. Don't be pressured by someone because ultimately you have to live with your decision. That being said he may not want to stay around and you may end up raising this baby alone and need to be comfortabke with that decision. Good luck with your decision but maybe have a sit down conversation with him and let him know what your thoughts and feelings are. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102641 posts
Apr 29th '17

Completely agree with doing what's best for YOU. Good luck with whatever you decide. 

Drew90 Due December 28; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7424 posts
Apr 29th '17

You're right, there's a good chance he won't want to stick around.  However, is it more important to you to have him in your life or have another baby?  Don't let him (or societyor family or whatever)  pressure you one way or the other.  You gotta do what's right for you 

fluffyruffruff 5 kids; United States 4727 posts
Apr 29th '17

Dont let fear tell you what to do. Do what YOU can live with, because ultimately, its all on you. 

Some Rad Chick 1 child; Los Angeles, California 1930 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting Mommyto1girl&3boys:
Do what is best for you. Don't be pressured by someone because ultimately you have to live with your decision. That being said he may not want to stay around and you may end up raising this baby alone and need to be comfortabke with that decision. Good luck with your decision but maybe have a sit down conversation with him and let him know what your thoughts and feelings are. 


Thanks so much! It's such a hard decision to make. He said he would do the right thing and want to be part of the child's life if I decided to keep it. I know he is scared,m. First child for him. He is also 37. He is also focus on his career and I think he is not ready to settle down. Which, I respect and wouldn't demand otherwise due to the circumstances. 

Some Rad Chick 1 child; Los Angeles, California 1930 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting bia.:
Completely agree with doing what's best for YOU. Good luck with whatever you decide. 


Thanks so much! What would you do? Do you think I would be judge harshly?

fluffyruffruff 5 kids; United States 4727 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting Some Rad Chick:

Thanks so much! What would you do? Do you think I would be judge harshly?


Im a single mother of *soon to be* 5. My first 4 are with my *soon to be* ex husband whos sitting in jail. This 5th is with someone else... I got pregnant while on the minipill. I know that i would wonder for the rest of my life if i chose to abort. I can live with being a single mother of 5. I dont care what other people think about me or my life. All that matters to me is that my babies are healthy and happy. And tbh, everyone has been a lot more supportive about it than i thought they would be.

fluffyruffruff 5 kids; United States 4727 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting fluffyruffruff:

Im a single mother of *soon to be* 5. My first 4 are with my *soon to be* ex husband whos sitting in jail. This 5th is with someone else... I got pregnant while on the minipill. I know that i would wonder for the rest of my life if i chose to abort. I can live with being a single mother of 5. I dont care what other people think about me or my life. All that matters to me is that my babies are healthy and happy. And tbh, everyone has been a lot more supportive about it than i thought they would be.


My point is that i doubt youll be judged too harshly. And even if you are, you shouldnt let it affect your life in any way. Just do you.

Some Rad Chick 1 child; Los Angeles, California 1930 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting fluffyruffruff:

Im a single mother of *soon to be* 5. My first 4 are with my *soon to be* ex husband whos sitting in jail. This 5th is with someone else... I got pregnant while on the minipill. I know that i would wonder for the rest of my life if i chose to abort. I can live with being a single mother of 5. I dont care what other people think about me or my life. All that matters to me is that my babies are healthy and happy. And tbh, everyone has been a lot more supportive about it than i thought they would be.


Aw! This is very helpful. Thank you. I also think that at my age of 37, this is a blessing. I asked the universe for love and it gave me a baby. Thank you for sharing your story.

Some Rad Chick 1 child; Los Angeles, California 1930 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting Drew90:
You're right, there's a good chance he won't want to stick around.  However, is it more important to you to have him in your life or have another baby?  Don't let him (or societyor family or whatever)  pressure you one way or the other.  You gotta do what's right for you 


Thank you!!

Some Rad Chick 1 child; Los Angeles, California 1930 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting bia.:
Completely agree with doing what's best for YOU. Good luck with whatever you decide. 


Thank you! :)

marmarissa 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, ON, Canada 8256 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting fluffyruffruff:
Dont let fear tell you what to do. Do what YOU can live with, because ultimately, its all on you. 


Exactly this.   Do whatever it is that YOU feel is right.  Best of luck!

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4579 posts
Apr 29th '17

Sounds like you want to keep the baby. No one elses opinion matters. 

browncrayon07 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dixon, Il, United States 2329 posts
Apr 29th '17

Quoting fluffyruffruff:

My point is that i doubt youll be judged too harshly. And even if you are, you shouldnt let it affect your life in any way. Just do you.


This! So much this!

I feel if you have an abortion because that's what society says, that's what the baby's father says, that's what joe blow down the street says, you will regret it. An abortion is something YOU have to live with. No one else. If YOU aren't 100% "committed" to an abortion, it will eat you alive. At least that is what I have heard from every women that has told me THEY didn't want the abortion. 

Good luck with your decision. Nothing is going to make it easy.