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So frustrated Addi&Aria'smama 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 8261 posts
Apr 28th '17

I am so frustrated with DD1 I can't stand it. She doesn't listen for anything. I swear she is 7 going on 17. If I ask her to do anything it is a full melt down. She is currently in her room crying because I asked her to pick up her books and make her bed. She didn't do her homework last week even though I asked her to every day. It would have taken her 20 minutes if she would have just done it. I always offer to help her and explain anything she doesn't understand but she just gets mad when I won't just give her the answer. Everything is a fight and it is so exhausting. I don't know how to get her to listen. She has currently lost all privileges. She no longer has her tablet, tv access and can't go to her extra curriculars until she starts listening and doing her homework. She just says she doesn't care.  All that's left in her room is her bed, dresser and bookshelf.  I have also tried positive reinforcement with her. Telling her what a great job she does when she listens or just does something without me having to tell her but that seems to have little effect on her either. 

I have no idea what I am doing and how to fix this. I need help. Any advice? 

jamm :) Due December 29 (girl); TTC since Mar 2015; 3 kids; Ireland 435 posts
Apr 28th '17

My dd2 is 6 and is pretty similar I've found that I just need to tell her and not ask her to do things. Asking gives them a choice and in some cases they shouldn't have a choice homework chores etc.
My mom would never ask me to do anything when I was younger, we were just told to do it and we did. 


Addi&Aria'smama 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 8261 posts
Apr 28th '17

Quoting jamm :):
My dd2 is 6 and is pretty similar I've found that I just need to tell her and not ask her to do things. Asking gives them a choice and in some cases they shouldn't have a choice homework chores etc.
My mom would never ask me to do anything when I was younger, we were just told to do it and we did. 




Thanks I will try that. I will try anything at this point. I just want her to listen. At this point my 2 year old listens better than she does. 38

Williams and Owen's Mommy 2 kids; Augusta, Georgia 222 posts
Apr 28th '17

My oldest ds is also seven and has similar problems. He does his homework at the kitchen table while I cook but melts down if I don't sit beside him and give him answers. Spelling is a nightmare he wants me to spell the words to him so he won't have to look back and forth from his paper..ugh...