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.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2013 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting Royal_Lux:

This point, not  reading any of this... you and Casper came in, on about 80+ responses.. clearly knowing back and forth was going on. You want to make yourself a part of it, cool. Dont chime in about not entertaining drama, when both are bottle feeding it and keeping the drama alive. 


I am Casper... and I only came in on 80+ responses because I'm on a different time zone to you, so yeah....

Mom*of*3 ♡ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 77 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :
Just playing devils advocate here but Bia wasn't being a b***h in the alcoholic topic either:







Tossing a baby in the air and dropping him isn't necessarily "abuse" per say but there is definitely an issue. The OP even admitted that "his own mother is clearly in denial that he has a problem".

A drinking problem does not just go away overnight. People were genuinely concerned. And still are.


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Majialin 2 kids; Ontario 435 posts
Apr 5th '17

Yeah... I don't know anything about OP's past threads, so I won't even bother. 

But, my experience as a SAHM, I tend to get my away time by being part of the community band (they take people of all skill levels, so you can learn something new, and it's quite rewarding!). I also tutor students at the University, so I can spend as little or as much time as needed (which is useful if you have to be at home and can't take the time off of work). 

Just my two cents. Best of luck, OP! :)

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting .casper.:

Nope. I don't intend on getting one. But it sounds like OP needs a hobby, not a job. However, since you're besties irl and you're the only person who knows the ins and outs of her life, you should have just put your opinion and not bothered asking anyone else.
if you want to get a job OP, get one. If you think that's what's best for your family then do it( I haven't read your previous post, so I genuinely know nothing about what anyone else is talking about). If it doesn't work, quit, you've nothing to lose. But it sounds like you want to meet new people and get a hobby. I personally would try that first, and then maybe go the job route if the time apart is working out for you all.


Her and I actually spend a good amount of time discussing doing so.

This thread was intended to see what mom's who actually maintain a job while parenting viewed their employment.


and to sum it all up for you, there was a day where I was suppose to go out with MIL and was nervous leaving the boys with their dad if he had planned on coming home and opening a beer before his boots were even off. At the time, he wasn't realizing that he needed to cut back. On the night being mentioned, he refrained from doing so til after I got home.

I'm in no way making excuses for anyone here. It's as simple as I wanted some advise.... and here we are 8 pages later Unknown and all I feel is discouraged over something that isn't even relevant.

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 5th '17

I just want to say thank you to those of you who actually answered my questions Very Sad

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :
OP,  go do yoga or sign up for a class , something you've always wanted to learn. *find a "hobby" that takes place outside of the home?


Community service? There's tons of things you could do for yourself to get yourself out of the house for a couple hours.



ooh, I actually did look into both yoga and Zumba, but everywhere by me only offers Tuesday and Thursday night classes, he works both those nights.

And surprisingly everything I've looked into volunteer wise has super strict requirements.

There's a little retail shop around the block that I'm kind of obsessed with, an associates discount sounds appealing. And hey, if I don't like it, I can quit.

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2013 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting Have Heart:

Her and I actually spend a good amount of time discussing doing so.

This thread was intended to see what mom's who actually maintain a job while parenting viewed their employment.


and to sum it all up for you, there was a day where I was suppose to go out with MIL and was nervous leaving the boys with their dad if he had planned on coming home and opening a beer before his boots were even off. At the time, he wasn't realizing that he needed to cut back. On the night being mentioned, he refrained from doing so til after I got home.

I'm in no way making excuses for anyone here. It's as simple as I wanted some advise.... and here we are 8 pages later Unknown and all I feel is discouraged over something that isn't even relevant.


Plenty of people maintain part time and full time jobs while parenting. If it works and that's what they want, then that's great! I think the only way to really know, is to try it. And if it doesn't work, just walk away, like I said, you've nothing to lose. Good luck in whatever you decide to do!

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting Have Heart:


ooh, I actually did look into both yoga and Zumba, but everywhere by me only offers Tuesday and Thursday night classes, he works both those nights.

And surprisingly everything I've looked into volunteer wise has super strict requirements.

There's a little retail shop around the block that I'm kind of obsessed with, an associates discount sounds appealing. And hey, if I don't like it, I can quit.


This is true. Look online for volunteer websites such as Habitat for Humanity or maybe even the Y. You can meet other parents, adults, discounted membership for your family etc etc.

Here we have a website called "Hands on Atlanta". Its pretty neat. Its filled with volunteer opportunities, I like to sign myself up every once in a while. Go plant flowers, volunteer at our local famers market, read books to children at the library.

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102643 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting Royal_Lux:

Why so mad? 

Go back and read your responses, you should apologize to her,  instead of being enraged with me for saying something. 

1. You made your initial response, she responded and she didn't care to elaborate on explaining herself. 

2. You interjected on a response, that she made to me to make another ill comment about same ordeal.. like he's abusive to their kids. And again, that's called stirring and trying to get a response. Like she's being forced to go into depth with you and other posters about it.  

3. She still didn't  say anything to you, yet you hop onto another's response and again... go into sarcasm, about how things must change overnight. 

Bia, I actually like you. I don't mind, the feelings aren't mutual. The difference is, the OP is a close friend in real life. So when I see, the post is beginning to turn into something that none of you know ins and outs about, I said something. Nobody else was digging. They made one response and or agreed with your intial comment. If you truly cared, your other two comments and or going back with others' about this Op possible circumstances, was not necessary.    The past bottle and laundry comments, I held my tongue because that was you being super petty, others' actually spoke up for this OP.. you don't lay into people, like you do with me. That's fine. When you want to swing and dig into others' relationships on a asking about jobs post, and or have a sarcastic tone, damn right someone should say something. 




No. Body. Cares. Goodbye Lux.

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 5th '17

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :

This is true. Look online for volunteer websites such as Habitat for Humanity or maybe even the Y. You can meet other parents, adults, discounted membership for your family etc etc.

Here we have a website called "Hands on Atlanta". Its pretty neat. Its filled with volunteer opportunities, I like to sign myself up every once in a while. Go plant flowers, volunteer at our local famers market, read books to children at the library.



I'll take a deeper look! Thank you.

We're already active members in our library, and my kids are well knows. I'm already apart of the organization and the people are more excited to see my kids at the adult meetings than anything! haha.