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Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:

I really don't think Bia was trying to be spiteful, she was just concerned. I mean given the facts you posted about your SO being abusive to the kids when he drinks and then next you post about leaving them alone with him to possibly get a PT job. If that other member knows you IRL or not, we don't. We can only go by what you post. 


                            this had nothing to do with their father, bringing their father into it had nothing to do with any of this. Like I have already clarified, he has recognized his drinking is affecting our family and won't do so when he's responsible for the kids. Injuring the baby unintentionally, and being abusive are two different things.

Once again, all I asked for is if any of you ladies worked. All this extra was never needed. for real. omg.

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 38477 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Have Heart:

                            this had nothing to do with their father, bringing their father into it had nothing to do with any of this. Like I have already clarified, he has recognized his drinking is affecting our family and won't do so when he's responsible for the kids. Injuring the baby unintentionally, and being abusive are two different things.

Once again, all I asked for is if any of you ladies worked. All this extra was never needed. for real. omg.


Ok but you clearly stated their father needed time with them so you could work, so yes it did have to do with their father One Eye Don't jump on our asses because of your previous posts. It's not our faults. It would be a concerning thing for anyone. 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:

Ok but you clearly stated their father needed time with them so you could work, so yes it did have to do with their father One Eye Don't jump on our asses because of your previous posts. It's not our faults. It would be a concerning thing for anyone. 


Clearly stated what? I clearly stated that I needed some time to myself. I only indicated the hours he doesn't work, because I'd prefer to work opposite of him.
Hmmm, did you miss the part where y'all jumped on me about some shit?  I'm pretty sure that would fall under the category of "your fault".

Didn't know I needed to give everyone an update about everything that happens in my life on a day to day basis.

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 38477 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Have Heart:

Clearly stated what? I clearly stated that I needed some time to myself. I only indicated the hours he doesn't work, because I'd prefer to work opposite of him.
Hmmm, did you miss the part where y'all jumped on me about some shit?  I'm pretty sure that would fall under the category of "your fault".

Didn't know I needed to give everyone an update about everything that happens in my life on a day to day basis.



You don't have to give everyone an update but you can't expect everyone to know he stopped drinking and being abusive either. You said you wanted a PT job so their father can spend some time with them, it doesn't matter if you edited the OP. You brought your SO into this not us. We're just going by what you have posted in the past. 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:

You don't have to give everyone an update but you can't expect everyone to know he stopped drinking and being abusive either. You said you wanted a PT job so their father can spend some time with them, it doesn't matter if you edited the OP. You brought your SO into this not us. We're just going by what you have posted in the past. 


                            The aftermath of that post was that he realized that he can't drink and be responsible for our boys. If he wasn't willing to be sober and actually parent, I wouldn't be considering getting a job -- nor would I be considering maintaining a relationship. But, this some how all escalated out of hand.

♥Jessie♥ Due June 14; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 14910 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Have Heart:

Clearly stated what? I clearly stated that I needed some time to myself. I only indicated the hours he doesn't work, because I'd prefer to work opposite of him.
Hmmm, did you miss the part where y'all jumped on me about some shit?  I'm pretty sure that would fall under the category of "your fault".

Didn't know I needed to give everyone an update about everything that happens in my life on a day to day basis.



In the original OP (before editing) you stated it was his turn to help out essentially so yes it was very clearly stated. You can't get clearer than that.

Sorry we expressed concern for your kids based off what you posted on BG. Next time we will tell ya what ya wanna hear instead of what we really think.Shy.

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:

In the original OP (before editing) you stated it was his turn to help out essentially so yes it was very clearly stated. You can't get clearer than that.

Sorry we expressed concern for your kids based off what you posted on BG. Next time we will tell ya what ya wanna hear instead of what we really think.Shy.



but the real question.... do you have a PT job?

Royal_Lux United States 2661 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:

In the original OP (before editing) you stated it was his turn to help out essentially so yes it was very clearly stated. You can't get clearer than that.

Sorry we expressed concern for your kids based off what you posted on BG. Next time we will tell ya what ya wanna hear instead of what we really think.Shy.


It wasn't edited. It was implied, he'd watch them. She said, she'd work opposite shifts of when he doesn't work. I get how others' assumed because of not knowing her life.

No matter, If others' want to think the post was edited, the seriousness of what was said, wasn't funny. So when smiley emojis and or lols are being placed (from Bia), with her remarks that's implying stiring shit... If someone's concerned, be concerned... don't laugh about drinking problems and about kids safety...

♥Jessie♥ Due June 14; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 14910 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Have Heart:


but the real question.... do you have a PT job?


Yes. But not the kind where I leave my home each day. Each day around 3 pm I have two boys come to my house and watch them for their moms until they get off work (roughly 3 hours an evening). I also watch them on No School days. So I have them a lot in the summer. I do it for the extra cash versus the me time since I have my own kids at the same time.

I get my me time when I go grocery shopping (DH watches them for this) and a few times a week I take a long bath after DH gets home or watch This Is Us alone in the bedeoom. I interact with adults during school drop offs, etc.

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:

Yes. But not the kind where I leave my home each day. Each day around 3 pm I have two boys come to my house and watch them for their moms until they get off work (roughly 3 hours an evening). I also watch them on No School days. So I have them a lot in the summer. I do it for the extra cash versus the me time since I have my own kids at the same time.

I get my me time when I go grocery shopping (DH watches them for this) and a few times a week I take a long bath after DH gets home or watch This Is Us alone in the bedeoom. I interact with adults during school drop offs, etc.



Well, then reply with the above ^

none of the drama is necessary.

I don't need the cash, I need time with other adults and a purpose of leaving home. My kids aren't school aged. (~3 and 5 months)

♥Jessie♥ Due June 14; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 14910 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Have Heart:


Well, then reply with the above ^

none of the drama is necessary.

I don't need the cash, I need time with other adults and a purpose of leaving home. My kids aren't school aged. (~3 and 5 months)


If you don't need cash then I would develop more friendships and go out for lunch, etc with friends. Every adult needs adult time. You could do a every Wednesday dinner or something.

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:

If you don't need cash then I would develop more friendships and go out for lunch, etc with friends. Every adult needs adult time. You could do a every Wednesday dinner or something.



that's not an obligation though, and the friends I do have are flaky as f**k or live too far. have spent too long in mommy world and need an outlet of meeting people.

Ohana❤ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nvr, NL, United States 1904 posts
Apr 4th '17

I've been working pt and i love it.  My schedule is very flexible but the hours don't change.  630am to 300pm. My dd1 gets out of school at 330 so it works perfect.  Dh is the one who takes her to school and takes care of dd2&3. I get severely depressed when I'm a sahm.  I need the break from my kids just as much as they need a break from me38 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Ohana❤:
I've been working pt and i love it.  My schedule is very flexible but the hours don't change.  630am to 300pm. My dd1 gets out of school at 330 so it works perfect.  Dh is the one who takes her to school and takes care of dd2&3. I get severely depressed when I'm a sahm.  I need the break from my kids just as much as they need a break from me38 


it's been about 4 hrs..... I stopped working after my 1st miscarriage. I need a purpose that doesn't revolve around poopy diapers. I need a reason to get dressed, a reason to disappear and give myself a break and feel like I'm needed elsewhere. ugh.

Ohana❤ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nvr, NL, United States 1904 posts
Apr 4th '17

Quoting Have Heart:

it's been about 4 hrs..... I stopped working after my 1st miscarriage. I need a purpose that doesn't revolve around poopy diapers. I need a reason to get dressed, a reason to disappear and give myself a break and feel like I'm needed elsewhere. ugh.


Oh i know the feeling all too well. I love being a mom but being a working mom makes me see things a little clearer... If that makes sense.  I have an opportunity to miss my girls and they miss me.  I'm a better mom when i work.