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Scared of everything Addi&Aria'smama 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 8261 posts
Feb 17th '17

Dd is 7 and literally scared of everything. She will just break down and cry uncontrollably. Like yesterday she went to the dentist. She had 2 cavities. I told her she was going to need to get them filled like a big girl because I wasn't paying $120 for nitrous oxide. They was $60 per tooth and it isnt covered by insurance. She instantly started shaking and bawling because it might hurt. It took forever to calm her down. Then today she was getting off the bus. I saw her get off the bus but she never came in so I assumed she was playing with the neighbors. Nope she was out on the driveway crying because there were bugs outside and she might touch her if she moved towards the house. 

At first i thought it was a phase because it started at 2. 5 years later I am exhausted and now her younger sister is starting to mimic some of this when she doesn't want to do stuff. I don't know what the eff to do. My compassion for these crying fits and saying she is scared of everything is wearing thin.

tinana+3 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 48329 posts
Feb 17th '17

Her fears sound completely normal. 

It's more worrisome that you went out of your way to tell her she couldn't do nitrous oxide, why bother? Had you not mentioned that part it probably wouldn't have been so scary for her. I'd have paid the money, it's unlikely that the cavities were her fault.

♥Jessie♥ Due June 14; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 14910 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting tinana+2[11w]:
Her fears sound completely normal. 

It's more worrisome that you went out of your way to tell her she couldn't do nitrous oxide, why bother? Had you not mentioned that part it probably wouldn't have been so scary for her. I'd have paid the money, it's unlikely that the cavities were her fault.


Exclamation I agree 100%. OP- How would you feel if you were told you were going to have your cavities filled with no novocaine? That is how no nitrous oxide would seem like to a child.

knottylox 1 child; Baltimore, MD, United States 7351 posts
Feb 17th '17

I mean, you kind of caused the fear with the dentist...and it's not insane that a little girl is scared of bugs. 

Seems like youre being a bit harsh to her feelings and fears rather than being comforting and reassuring her everything is fine. maybe she's being dramatic, maybe she's just a fearful/worrisome kid. Some kids have a lot of fears. Don't be insensitive though that'll make her feel like a jerk for being afraid because for her the fear is real. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting tinana+2[11w]:
Her fears sound completely normal. 

It's more worrisome that you went out of your way to tell her she couldn't do nitrous oxide, why bother? Had you not mentioned that part it probably wouldn't have been so scary for her. I'd have paid the money, it's unlikely that the cavities were her fault.



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bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting ✩ ℒioȵεsȿ:

This. 

And I also wonder how in the world youre okay with your kid not coming inside and just assume she's with the neighbors in today's world. 


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bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting Jackie Burkhart :
I mean, you kind of caused the fear with the dentist...and it's not insane that a little girl is scared of bugs. 

Seems like youre being a bit harsh to her feelings and fears rather than being comforting and reassuring her everything is fine. maybe she's being dramatic, maybe she's just a fearful/worrisome kid. Some kids have a lot of fears. Don't be insensitive though that'll make her feel like a jerk for being afraid because for her the fear is real. 



Girl. I'm 30 and afraid of bugs..Angry

knottylox 1 child; Baltimore, MD, United States 7351 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting bia.:

Girl. I'm 30 and afraid of bugs..Angry


Same here. I can't handle it. Mostly flying bugs and spiders. 

SomeMommy 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 74008 posts
Feb 17th '17
Quoting ✩ ℒioȵεsȿ:

This. 

And I also wonder how in the world youre okay with your kid not coming inside and just assume she's with the neighbors in today's world. 


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⭐No Apologies Due April 10; Miami, FL, United States 4078 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting tinana+2[11w]:
Her fears sound completely normal. 

It's more worrisome that you went out of your way to tell her she couldn't do nitrous oxide, why bother? Had you not mentioned that part it probably wouldn't have been so scary for her. I'd have paid the money, it's unlikely that the cavities were her fault.



Exclamation I'm 29 and terrified of dental work without novacaine. 

And I'm deathly afraid of bugs still. At 29. I think her fears are justified. I think your being a little insensitive. 

Mom*of*3 ♡ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 77 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting ✩ ℒioȵεsȿ:

This. 

And I also wonder how in the world youre okay with your kid not coming inside and just assume she's with the neighbors in today's world. 



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Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Feb 17th '17


Poor kid. The dentist still scares me and I'm 30 lol. 

My oldest is afraid of the dentist too, but i reassure her and stay with her as long as I can. She is also afraid of "everything" but she is just a kid. 

A.V.N. Due September 4; 2 kids; 4190 posts
Feb 17th '17

She sounds like she is a anxious kid, but getting frustrated and trying to toughen her up isn't going to help, it's gonna make it worse.  My advice to you is to go to the library and check out a couple of books about how to deal with a sensitive, anxious child.  Hopefully you'll learn some coping mechanisms to teach her and some for yourself as well so you can feel less irritated and stressed and parent in a way that's better suited to her needs.

Addi&Aria'smama 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 8261 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting ✩ ℒioȵεsȿ:

This. 

And I also wonder how in the world youre okay with your kid not coming inside and just assume she's with the neighbors in today's world. 


Because I watched her get off the bus in front of our house and the neighbors were out front playing. They all get off the bus together. 

Addi&Aria'smama 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florissant, Missouri 8261 posts
Feb 17th '17

Quoting Jackie Burkhart :
I mean, you kind of caused the fear with the dentist...and it's not insane that a little girl is scared of bugs. 

Seems like youre being a bit harsh to her feelings and fears rather than being comforting and reassuring her everything is fine. maybe she's being dramatic, maybe she's just a fearful/worrisome kid. Some kids have a lot of fears. Don't be insensitive though that'll make her feel like a jerk for being afraid because for her the fear is real. 



I have been extremely patient with her for 5 YEARS. This isn't something that developed overnight. I would comfort her. We tried teaching her there was nothing to be afraid of. Nothing has worked. We have been patient for 5 years. It is starting to get old. It isn't getting better. It is getting worse.

I do take responsibility for the dentist thing. We did talk today and we sat and I talked her through the whole procedure and she seemed okay with it once I explained everything in detail. If they could do both teeth at one time fine I would pay it but the fact I have to make 2 separate appointments, am not allowed in the room with her and it is all a money grab pisses me off. I also said I would buy her a new American girl doll outfit if she was a big girl. I am also bringing head phones and music for her to listen to. 

I am just frustrated. It feels never ending. Like she is late for school because a fly flew in front of her and she can't walk out the door now. She refused to go to bed one night for 2 hours because she THOUGHT she saw a bug. This just feels like more than just normal fears. She will refuse to leave the car if it is raining because she is scared to get wet. If she spills something even if it is really tiny on her shirt she freaks out and refuses to wear it. I thought they were suppose to outgrow this stuff. It is draining.