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Potty training woes... .Bubbles. 3 kids; United States 1718 posts
Jan 12th '17

DD2 is 3.5 and we are trying once again to potty train without any interest on her part. We have tried in the past, but she wasn't receptive, so we put it on hold. A couple weeks ago, I decided I wasn't buying diapers for her anymore, so she's been in underwear during the day (except for naps) and wearing pull-ups at night. Here's the problem: first of all, she doesn't tell me when she needs to go. She hides, then she goes. I ask her every 15-20 minutes, "do you need to go?", but the answer is almost always no. I've implemented a sticker chart. I've bought her new underwear. I let her pick out her pull-ups. I'm trying to get her involved, but she just has zero interest. She's refusing to wear her underwear this morning. I don't want to make this a traumatic experience, but I don't want to have a 4 year old that isn't even close to being potty trained. Help! DD1 was completely day trained by age 2. She was easy. DD2 is a different story. Has anyone has a similar experience with potty training? Any tips, tricks or words of encouragement? TIA!

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Jan 12th '17

My oldest was like this. I tried everything with no luck, but then one day, while we were in Walmart's bathroom,  she just walked right into the stall and used the bathroom.  I was drying my hands when it all went down and I went after her. I screamed Yay so loud that I scared the lady in the other stall lol. She didn't have an accident after that and used the toilet. She had just turned 3. 

I figured out that she didn't like using the potty chair, she wanted to use the toilet. I bought one of those inserts with the handle. 

How have you been? I've been thinking about you!

A.V.N. Due September 4; 2 kids; 4190 posts
Jan 12th '17

It takes a lot of dedication but the 3 day potty training method worked for me when nothing else did.

.Bubbles. 3 kids; United States 1718 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting A.V.N.:
It takes a lot of dedication but the 3 day potty training method worked for me when nothing else did.


What does this entail?

.Bubbles. 3 kids; United States 1718 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting Mαяcєℓιηє:
My oldest was like this. I tried everything with no luck, but then one day, while we were in Walmart's bathroom,  she just walked right into the stall and used the bathroom.  I was drying my hands when it all went down and I went after her. I screamed Yay so loud that I scared the lady in the other stall lol. She didn't have an accident after that and used the toilet. She had just turned 3. 

I figured out that she didn't like using the potty chair, she wanted to use the toilet. I bought one of those inserts with the handle. 

How have you been? I've been thinking about you!


She prefers the potty seat. If I put the insert on the toilet, she stiffens her legs and refuses to sit down, lol. She's a stinker.

I have been well, and you? :)

bloopbloop♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Illinois 14727 posts
Jan 12th '17

I have this problem but my son is almost 4. For some reason he doesn't like his undies anymore...he did recently pick out pull ups...but it's a hit or miss when he wants to use the toilet. 

.Bubbles. 3 kids; United States 1718 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting bloopbloop♥:
I have this problem but my son is almost 4. For some reason he doesn't like his undies anymore...he did recently pick out pull ups...but it's a hit or miss when he wants to use the toilet. 


Yeah, some days she's gung-ho and excited about using the potty, but not today. She just has better things to do, I guess.

A.V.N. Due September 4; 2 kids; 4190 posts
Jan 12th '17

This is the gist of it.  Essentially, you clear your schedule for 3 days so the you are home the entire time.  For a week or two leading up to those 3 days you make sure to tell your LO how yucky using diapers is.  On day one of the three days, when LO wakes up you have her say good bye to diapers and have her throw all of them, including the one she's wearing away.  Give her a big breakfast with lots of liquids and then as soon as she is done have her sit on the potty.  Take her to use the potty every 15 minutes through the day, before bed, and wake her up once at night to go.  It's gonna be tough because there will be accidents but after 3 days, if you are consistent,  and they should have it down.  Reward charts help a lot too!  

.Bubbles. 3 kids; United States 1718 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting A.V.N.:
This is the gist of it.  Essentially, you clear your schedule for 3 days so the you are home the entire time.  For a week or two leading up to those 3 days you make sure to tell your LO how yucky using diapers is.  On day one of the three days, when LO wakes up you have her say good bye to diapers and have her throw all of them, including the one she's wearing away.  Give her a big breakfast with lots of liquids and then as soon as she is done have her sit on the potty.  Take her to use the potty every 15 minutes through the day, before bed, and wake her up once at night to go.  It's gonna be tough because there will be accidents but after 3 days, if you are consistent,  and they should have it down.  Reward charts help a lot too!  


Okay, I have been doing a version of that, but I still put her in pull-ups during naps and at night. It would be really tricky because I work and go to school and have 2 other kids, lol. But I will give it a shot! Thank you for sharing!

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting .Bubbles.:

She prefers the potty seat. If I put the insert on the toilet, she stiffens her legs and refuses to sit down, lol. She's a stinker.

I have been well, and you? :)


I've been ok. Just passing time until Spring lol. 

A.V.N. Due September 4; 2 kids; 4190 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting .Bubbles.:

Okay, I have been doing a version of that, but I still put her in pull-ups during naps and at night. It would be really tricky because I work and go to school and have 2 other kids, lol. But I will give it a shot! Thank you for sharing!


Aww yeah that's the tough part about the method... it is pretty hard to find the time/resources to stay home for 3 days with your focus on one kid lol.  Honestly, I think the thing that may help, even if you can't stay home for 3 days straight, is to throw away the diapers.  We were in a similar cycle where we were potty training for months and pretty much doing a lot of the steps to the 3 day potty training, and I think that's probably what clicked when we officially did the 3 day method.  LO would occasionally pee on the potty, but for the most part would save her pee and poop for the times when we allowed her pull ups.  I understand why this does not sound appealing but I do think getting rid of the diapers/pull ups is the push they need!

bloopbloop♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Illinois 14727 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting A.V.N.:

Aww yeah that's the tough part about the method... it is pretty hard to find the time/resources to stay home for 3 days with your focus on one kid lol.  Honestly, I think the thing that may help, even if you can't stay home for 3 days straight, is to throw away the diapers.  We were in a similar cycle where we were potty training for months and pretty much doing a lot of the steps to the 3 day potty training, and I think that's probably what clicked when we officially did the 3 day method.  LO would occasionally pee on the potty, but for the most part would save her pee and poop for the times when we allowed her pull ups.  I understand why this does not sound appealing but I do think getting rid of the diapers/pull ups is the push they need!


I think I need to do this but I hate all the pee I'm going to have to clean up. I need to, though 

bloopbloop♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Illinois 14727 posts
Jan 12th '17

Quoting .Bubbles.:

Yeah, some days she's gung-ho and excited about using the potty, but not today. She just has better things to do, I guess.


I tried the snack thing after he used the toilet and now he just expects it but did chill out in these recent months. He even used number 2 so I thought we were getting somewhere. I don't like this potty training business lol