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Can your 19 month old .casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2013 posts
Dec 24th '16

Feed themselves with a spoon/fork? My DS2, even though he has a spoon, refuses to use it and just grabs the food with his hands and shoves it in his mouth. No matter the consistency. Yogurt, stew, porridge etc, all with his hand. Should he be able to use a spoon? How can I get him to use it? He used to, when he first started feeding himself about a month ago. But now he refuses. Which is odd, because any other time of the day he HATES things on his hands Unknown

Drew90 Due December 28; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7424 posts
Dec 24th '16

Dd1 just turned 2 years old in November and she literally just started using utensils.  She still prefers to use her hands even though she knows how to use a spoon and a fork

.Bubbles. 3 kids; United States 1718 posts
Dec 24th '16

He can, but he gets more on himself than in his mouth, lol. I usually just feed him myself. I think, typically, it's a motor skill that is fine tuned after age two.

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2013 posts
Dec 24th '16

Quoting .Bubbles.:
He can, but he gets more on himself than in his mouth, lol. I usually just feed him myself. I think, typically, it's a motor skill that is fine tuned after age two.


He won't let me do it anymore lol I passed him the spoon a month ago to see if he'd do it himself, and he hasn't let me do it since! I know he CAN use the spoon, because he did for like 3 weeks, but now it's as if the spoon just slows him down haha

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4579 posts
Dec 24th '16

Yes, DS is 17m and has been for a few months now although he will sometimes use his hands with certain foods 

❤️E 3 kids; Somewhere, Tx, United States 366 posts
Dec 24th '16

She'll be 2 next month, she can but she rather use her hands lol, she starts eating with a spoon/fork but ends up throwing them away and uses her hands 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Dec 24th '16

DD could. But she was mostly baby led weaned so she was used to feeding herself fairly early. I think she was feeding herself with a spoon around 14 months?

...B... 5 kids; 3 angel babies; .., .., Christmas Island 1314 posts
Dec 24th '16

I would just keep it out and available for him to use if he wants. If he used to use one then he probably has the ability, but just finds his hands easier. I wouldnt worry too much about it, he will eventually use it over his hands. 

My youngest is 14 months and loves using her spoon, but my 3 year old still prefers to use his hands. Even my almost 5 year old goes back and forth with utensils and hands. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102643 posts
Dec 25th '16

Violet is 16 months, and can. She prefers a fork over a spoon for some reason 38 my other kids could at that age as well. Did you do BLW with him??

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2013 posts
Dec 25th '16

Quoting bia.:
Violet is 16 months, and can. She prefers a fork over a spoon for some reason 38 my other kids could at that age as well. Did you do BLW with him??


No but I didn't with any of them. I give him a fork too but he just holds it in one hand and uses his other hand to pick the food up and eat haha crazy baby! I don't think H was feeding himself at this age though, it was about a month later,so perhaps he'll cotton on soon lol

SquirrelyMom 2 kids; Canada, ON, Canada 1565 posts
Dec 28th '16

yeah it sounds pretty typical, they are smart enough to realize that a lot of things are just easier to cram in by hand because a spoon/fork can be hit and miss at this age. If they try to raise the food to their mouth and it falls off, then they may just resort to their hands. My 19 month does pretty good sometimes with scooping her food, but I think pretty much every meal she also uses her hands at some point.

mrs.white8389 TTC since Jan 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Florida 2642 posts
Dec 28th '16

At 19 months ds1 was just beating the table with them.. he's 2 1/2 now and uses them regularly...every once in a blue moon he will use his hands but not often anymore.