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Deleted. ✌ BurgerOven3 Due January 2 (girl); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Cleveland, Tennessee 3219 posts
Nov 23rd '16


 

Consuela* United States 5029 posts
Nov 23rd '16

She could kick rocks. So disrspectful and crazy in front of a 4 year old. 
I wouldn't have left in the first place however. I would have told her to leave or I'd call the cops on her.

Red~Origami 2 kids; United States 5283 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Id say shes lost the "right" to visit with your child right now considering she cant even respect her mother in her own home. nope. would be a hell no fot a while.

bloopbloop♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Illinois 14727 posts
Nov 23rd '16

I wouldn't allow her near my kid. 

MamaM{TTC#4} TTC since Jun 2017; 3 kids; Neverland, LA, United States 473 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Honestly I would have told SO to take DD to her room and I would have whooped MIL ass! Then I would have sat her and her crap on the curb! 

I can't deal with someone getting in my face..


Tell her she can see her grand daughter when she learns how to respect her mother! 

~a girl and a boy~ 2 kids; ,, IA, United States 61170 posts
Nov 23rd '16

No, if she has no respect for you then she can't see your child.  This is a consequence to her actions!  She needs to learn she can't act like that.  Otherwise if you give in, she'll probably do something like this again. 

Royal_Lux United States 2661 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Hasn't been a week since the police and moving situation. No,  I wouldn't suggest any of you to have physical contact quite yet. 

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Nov 23rd '16

I'm confused. Why did you call the cops? SO was there to care/protect if needed.

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Nov 23rd '16

I mean, to me it sounds like the whole situation could've been easily prevented, but whatever. No, I would probably keep away for now, because you both are explosive together. 

BurgerOven3 Due January 2 (girl); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Cleveland, Tennessee 3219 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :
I'm confused. Why did you call the cops? SO was there to care/protect if needed.


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BurgerOven3 Due January 2 (girl); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Cleveland, Tennessee 3219 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Quoting lamb_nodules:
I mean, to me it sounds like the whole situation could've been easily prevented, but whatever. No, I would probably keep away for now, because you both are explosive together. 


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NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Quoting lamb_nodules:
I mean, to me it sounds like the whole situation could've been easily prevented, but whatever. No, I would probably keep away for now, because you both are explosive together. 




this. I would have not called the cops. her father was there to be with their daughter and protect her if needed. the beef was between the op and mil - not SO & mil.


If she wants to see her grandchild (a week later) have SO go with the daughter until the 2 of you have made amends. The daughter has nothing to do with the argument and should be able to see her grandmother (unless the grandmother is violent towards the daughter as well).

trifecta perfecta 3 kids; Somewhere in the Stix, MA, United States 557 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :


this. I would have not called the cops. her father was there to be with their daughter and protect her if needed. the beef was between the op and mil - not SO & mil.


If she wants to see her grandchild (a week later) have SO go with the daughter until the 2 of you have made amends. The daughter has nothing to do with the argument and should be able to see her grandmother (unless the grandmother is violent towards the daughter as well).


I think this is a good solution- a pseudo supervised visitation.

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Quoting *SNG*:

It could have been most definitely. but she came up to me as i was standing at my kitchen  sink with no way to walk away . and shes a follower when she argues. 


Shy Come on now, that's bullshit and you know it. She didn't have you pinned down, shu'up. You left in the end, you could have left before it escalated, but you were already in a fighting mood (SO) and you bit. Btw, you probably shouldn't have been arguing with SO in front of your kid anyway, to begin with. You sound like you have a temper, and so does MIL. I'd work on that. 

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Nov 23rd '16

Quoting NinjaSquirrel :


this. I would have not called the cops. her father was there to be with their daughter and protect her if needed. the beef was between the op and mil - not SO & mil.


If she wants to see her grandchild (a week later) have SO go with the daughter until the 2 of you have made amends. The daughter has nothing to do with the argument and should be able to see her grandmother (unless the grandmother is violent towards the daughter as well).


Yeah, and what was that about? How inappropriate and also a waste of their valuable time, escorting you just on an off possibility your mil might, what? Hold the daughter hostage? Ridiculous. 

I agree with the visits with SO, too.