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should someone give up their seat? Space Jesus 1 child; United States 159 posts
Nov 1st '16

maybe I'm just a weirdo .. 

someone I am Facebook friends with is about 7 months along .. she had posted about how the only person who had offered her a seat on the subway was a little girl, but she was very upset over it. posted pictures of the crowded train & everything. 

am I wrong for thinking that no one is obligated to give her a seat? I wanted to comment "well, they aren't required to get up for you" but that's probably mean, so I didn't. 

yes, it is a nice gesture. when I'm on public transportation, I'll give up my seat for a pregnant or elderly person. but when I was pregnant, I didn't expect anybody to give their seat up for me .. 

what are your thoughts?

SomeMommy Due June 18; 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 73993 posts
Nov 1st '16

Yea, I get being upset that no one was considerate but it's not shocking nor would I be that upset over it. It would have been the nice, right thing for someone to do but it's not written in law so she needs to just get over it.

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10689 posts
Nov 1st '16

Pregnancy doesn't give you a sit anywhere privilege,  but it was nice of the little girl to do that. 

I would offer out of being polite. 

Captain Bitchface New York, 774 posts
Nov 1st '16

Absolutely not. Being pregnant is not a handicap or a free pass for anything. When I was pregnant I went about my life just like I would not pregnant and expected nothing out of anyone. However out of common courtesy I do let elderly or someone that looks like they would be better off seated have the seat over me because thats how I was raised. 

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 48291 posts
Nov 1st '16

Yeah, no. She's wrong. And she can't possibly know that people sitting didn't also have a condition of one kind or another. Never assume.

SomeMommy Due June 18; 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 73993 posts
Nov 1st '16

Quoting tinana+2:
Yeah, no. She's wrong. And she can't possibly know that people sitting didn't also have a condition of one kind or another. Never assume.


True!

Consuela* United States 5029 posts
Nov 1st '16

Quoting SomeMommy:
Yea, I get being upset that no one was considerate but it's not shocking nor would I be that upset over it. It would have been the nice, right thing for someone to do but it's not written in law so she needs to just get over it.



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Yeah, I would probably have the fleeting thought of how rude people are... but no one HAS to give up their seat. It's just a nice thing to do.

LittlebuttsMamax3! 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Asheville, North Carolina 17335 posts
Nov 1st '16

I hate when pregnant people get so mad over this. If you can't stand that long then stay home or find other transportation. I always give my seat up for pregnant women or the elderly but I'd never expect it out of others. I dont know what they're dealing with. 

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35339 posts
Nov 1st '16

No one is or should be obligated. People should be nice humans because they want to be. Sadly, so many people are selfish a*****es. I would GLADLY give up my seat for an elderly person, small child, pregnant woman. 

Space Jesus 1 child; United States 159 posts
Nov 1st '16

Quoting tinana+2:
Yeah, no. She's wrong. And she can't possibly know that people sitting didn't also have a condition of one kind or another. Never assume.


so true!

I had witnessed this older woman yelling at a man on the train for not getting up for her & said calmly "ma'am, I am handicapped & this is handicapped seating." she kept yelling at him, he pulled out cards & everything .. I forget exactly what it was, something with his legs .. but first glance, I never woulda thought.

but she was a huge b***h about it. 

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35339 posts
Nov 1st '16

Quoting Space Jesus:

so true!

I had witnessed this older woman yelling at a man on the train for not getting up for her & said calmly "ma'am, I am handicapped & this is handicapped seating." she kept yelling at him, he pulled out cards & everything .. I forget exactly what it was, something with his legs .. but first glance, I never woulda thought.

but she was a huge b***h about it. 


That's not right either. :(

tinana+3 3 kids; Orlando, FL, Virgin Islands 48291 posts
Nov 1st '16

Quoting Space Jesus:

so true!

I had witnessed this older woman yelling at a man on the train for not getting up for her & said calmly "ma'am, I am handicapped & this is handicapped seating." she kept yelling at him, he pulled out cards & everything .. I forget exactly what it was, something with his legs .. but first glance, I never woulda thought.

but she was a huge b***h about it. 


A couple of years ago I watched two people in two different cars fighting over a handicapped space. 

A middle aged woman won. I watched her get out and JOG into the store. Then I watched the other car park, and saw what appeared to be a dad walking up the lot with a very clearly handicapped boy walking unsteadily with him. 

Maybe the jogging lady was handicapped or maybe she abuses her permit.. Who knows. But I'll tell you..  I teared up when I saw that little boy struggling. 

SomeMommy Due June 18; 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 73993 posts
Nov 1st '16

Quoting Space Jesus:

so true!

I had witnessed this older woman yelling at a man on the train for not getting up for her & said calmly "ma'am, I am handicapped & this is handicapped seating." she kept yelling at him, he pulled out cards & everything .. I forget exactly what it was, something with his legs .. but first glance, I never woulda thought.

but she was a huge b***h about it. 


Smh some people have no right to go out in public.

Drew90 Due December 28; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7418 posts
Nov 1st '16

Your Facebook friend sounds like she's a little too entitled lol....  It's not a requirement to give pregnant women special treatment... And nobody ever helped me out lol.  It bothered me but I never went so far as to call people out over it, that's just being self-centered.  How does she know other people on the train didn't have disabilities like chronic pain ?  

Austs_Momma Due June 30; 1 child; 1 angel baby; CD, NY, United States 3814 posts
Nov 1st '16

I probably wouldn't have accepted it even at 9 months... But I sat a lot, lol