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Diagnosis Day Awkward 5 kids; 2 angel babies; St Cloud, MN, United States 4642 posts
Oct 20th '16

Today was a very anticipated and somewhat frustrating day. I knew in my heart my son was autistic but to hear a professional say those words had a very strange effect on me. He is also dyslexic and the writing equivalent of dyslexic. I forgot the term. He also has adhd and is depressed.
We talk about so much in that hour and a half I am just completely overwhelmed! To medicate or not? Do we try alternative ideas? How much school involment? Which therapy's do we try?
Will we ever be able to figure out how to help him? Will he ever get to a point where he'll be able to be independent?  How much is he going to mature? How do we celebrate every child's achievements individually when some of the younger kids bypass him in maturity, knowledge and skill? His sister is closing that gap quite quickly!
Absolutely nothing has changed and yet everything has changed. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102631 posts
Oct 20th '16

I'm sorry mama, my DD1 is dyslexic, it's hard enough alone (school) I couldn't imagine everything else you guys are going through, keep your head up!

Awkward 5 kids; 2 angel babies; St Cloud, MN, United States 4642 posts
Oct 20th '16

Quoting bia.:
I'm sorry mama, my DD1 is dyslexic, it's hard enough alone (school) I couldn't imagine everything else you guys are going through, keep your head up!


Thank you! It is somewhat of a relief.  I no longer have to blame my parenting for his struggles. It is just everything is so overwhelming!  

MrsKW 3 kids; United States 4579 posts
Oct 20th '16

Aw mama, give it some time to sink in. He's still that same child he was before today. Keep pushing and advocating for your little man so that he can get the best education/therapies possible and know your are doing an awesome job even when it is rough, it's worth it!

Red~Origami 2 kids; United States 5283 posts
Oct 20th '16

Aw, Give it some time. You'l figure out whats best for him now that you have answers. You'll be a good momma and give him the support he needs. 

If it helps, my ex husband is autistic and is extremely smart in some ways and not so much in others. He strugged in social situations yet excelled in school once he got to a point he could cope and learn the way he needed to. He is now a scientist and doing much better in social circumstances before we split. 

He may be struggling right now, but with the right coping and techniques he may be highly functioning autistic. Hug. 

Awkward 5 kids; 2 angel babies; St Cloud, MN, United States 4642 posts
Oct 21st '16

Thanks ladies!

Consuela* United States 5029 posts
Oct 21st '16

Quoting Rock_Candy:
Aw, Give it some time. You'l figure out whats best for him now that you have answers. You'll be a good momma and give him the support he needs. 

If it helps, my ex husband is autistic and is extremely smart in some ways and not so much in others. He strugged in social situations yet excelled in school once he got to a point he could cope and learn the way he needed to. He is now a scientist and doing much better in social circumstances before we split. 

He may be struggling right now, but with the right coping and techniques he may be highly functioning autistic. Hug. 


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DHs cousin is autisic. He is so intelligent, he is literally a rocket scientist. 

Socially he is very awkward, but he is so smart and so nice, I don't think he knows how to be mean to anyone. Everyone has their shining qualities. DH pokes fun at him, but I always put him (DH) in his place about it. DH is VERY social and charming. He's got a good job because of it, but he is no where near as smart as his cousin. Everyone has their strengths. I'm sure your boy will shine :)

hilee18 1 child; United States 691 posts
Oct 21st '16

I thougth I had replied yesterday, sorry. 
My 2 yearold was diagnosed with autism yesterday we were told we can talk to a case manager at the county and we started that. 
Is he doing any OT/PT or speech therapies? 
BTW I'm in the Twin Cities so we might be able to share some resources :) 

Awkward 5 kids; 2 angel babies; St Cloud, MN, United States 4642 posts
Oct 21st '16

Quoting hilee18:
I thougth I had replied yesterday, sorry. 
My 2 yearold was diagnosed with autism yesterday we were told we can talk to a case manager at the county and we started that. 
Is he doing any OT/PT or speech therapies? 
BTW I'm in the Twin Cities so we might be able to share some resources :) 


He is not. He is 8 and pretty high functioning. 
I'm a bit further north than my profile says but I would love to share some resources!

hilee18 1 child; United States 691 posts
Oct 22nd '16

Quoting Awkward:

He is not. He is 8 and pretty high functioning. 
I'm a bit further north than my profile says but I would love to share some resources!


I'm far from expert but I'd start with his school, get an IEP and see if they offer any services. Then I'd call your county and speak about getting a caseworker. ARC also had navigators to help with insurance and getting services rolling.
I'd call your insurance to see what is covered and at what level, whose in network and start calling around for an eval for whatever services you feel he may need. 
It's a LOT but they are so worth it. 
I can also take a peek on Monday at some places maybe in your area, Northern MN right? I work for Allina and have access to the social workers tools so there's great info :)