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2nd trimester loss, 2nd miscarriage in the last 2 years... Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 14th '16

 
So on the 29th I started having smelly orange discharge, read online alot of mommas have had it and It was normal so I shrugged it off.. then it turned like water when I got up. It went from orange to pinkish to none at times. I was suffering from some back discomfort and I just shrugged that off too because being pregnant you get back aches.. my b**bs had seemed to have dropped also which I thought was very off.. I have had a miscarriage before but at 13 weeks but I wad only 8 weeks along and this is totally different.. I started bleeding red but hardly none at all so I went to the hospital. The u/s tech was very quiet, kept moving the wand snapping pictures... I knew then my child had passed... the doctor who told me was very ignorant to the situation, he basically just wanted to send me home.
I went for my follow up and they explained to me that since my "embryo" as they called it is @ 14.6 weeks that he wants me to deliver my child in the L&D because the suction part are too small for a baby this big... I'm just so scared and heartbroken and this seems like a nightmare even though I don't want my child torn apart but I need some kind of insight if anyone else has gone through this and how the bereavement process took? Thank you.

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Oct 15th '16

I'm so sorry for your loss! I had a 2nd tri loss 10 months ago. Found out at my 17 week check up my baby passed at 15 weeks. I could be induced or the they would do an d&e. I made the choice to be induced but the night before I was to go to the hospital baby came on her own. I got to spend time with baby and the hospital put together a memory book for me and gave me a keepsake box. Grieving this loss was different than my other losses because I knew the sex and got to hold baby. The hospital offered counseling for grieving parents. Take that offer! My family and close friends were very supportive. I hope you have someone you can lean on during this time! 

Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 15th '16

I'm sorry for your loss. I just don't know if I'm going to be able to mentally be able to deliver the baby... they did not offer me a D&E they didn't tell me why I'm thinking bc it's been gone for a few weeks..I was supposed to be 18 weeks.. how big was your baby if you don't mind me asking? & they won't do a proper burial for my child will they? Thank you so much I will take the counseling because I'm at my lowest right now. 

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Oct 15th '16

Quoting Nathan Jr's Mommy:
I'm sorry for your loss. I just don't know if I'm going to be able to mentally be able to deliver the baby... they did not offer me a D&E they didn't tell me why I'm thinking bc it's been gone for a few weeks..I was supposed to be 18 weeks.. how big was your baby if you don't mind me asking? & they won't do a proper burial for my child will they? Thank you so much I will take the counseling because I'm at my lowest right now. 


Thank you. I know how incredibly hard it is. I'm here to answer any questions if you like. She came the day she would have been 18 weeks. She weighed 1.3oz and 2inches. I had the choice of a private funeral or the hospital would take baby and spread the ashes in a garden near by free of charge. We choose private. 

Ovaryacting Due November 30; 2 kids; United States 2151 posts
Oct 15th '16

Very Sad I'm so sorry.

Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 16th '16

Thanks, trying to stay positive 

Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 16th '16

Quoting Bunni♥2+bump:

Thank you. I know how incredibly hard it is. I'm here to answer any questions if you like. She came the day she would have been 18 weeks. She weighed 1.3oz and 2inches. I had the choice of a private funeral or the hospital would take baby and spread the ashes in a garden near by free of charge. We choose private. 


Thank you, I'm in little physical pain so I don't think my body is doing it on its own.
today I am about 19 weeks. I'm not bleeding very much it's like spotting. I'm just hoping that tomorrow won't take long.
how long did it take to be deliver for you?
with my son I was in early labor for two days before the real labor hit and then it took 4 hours and with my miscarriage @ 8 weeks it was a two- three day process to pass everything naturally. I've never been given cyotec...

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Oct 16th '16

Quoting Nathan Jr's Mommy:

Thank you, I'm in little physical pain so I don't think my body is doing it on its own.
today I am about 19 weeks. I'm not bleeding very much it's like spotting. I'm just hoping that tomorrow won't take long.
how long did it take to be deliver for you?
with my son I was in early labor for two days before the real labor hit and then it took 4 hours and with my miscarriage @ 8 weeks it was a two- three day process to pass everything naturally. I've never been given cyotec...


I had light spotting and was cramping most of the night on 12/15/15 then early in the morning of 12/16 it got stronger by the time I got to the hospital at 4:53am baby was delivered naturally. It took a while to deliver the placenta tho. They had to give me some pitocin. Spent like 12 hours at the hospital. 

Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 16th '16

Quoting Bunni♥2+bump:

I had light spotting and was cramping most of the night on 12/15/15 then early in the morning of 12/16 it got stronger by the time I got to the hospital at 4:53am baby was delivered naturally. It took a while to deliver the placenta tho. They had to give me some pitocin. Spent like 12 hours at the hospital. 


See I've had spotting for the past 4 or 5 days with mild cramping but the cramping comes and goes.today it's actually a little worse and more like a black red but that came after I threw up... When she gave the vaginal u/s it made my bleeding worse but there's no clots... I'm afraid it'll be long and I think 12 hours is long.... I just want to wake up from this nightmare. It's comforting talking to someone who's been through this, thank you so much 

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Oct 16th '16

Quoting Nathan Jr's Mommy:

See I've had spotting for the past 4 or 5 days with mild cramping but the cramping comes and goes.today it's actually a little worse and more like a black red but that came after I threw up... When she gave the vaginal u/s it made my bleeding worse but there's no clots... I'm afraid it'll be long and I think 12 hours is long.... I just want to wake up from this nightmare. It's comforting talking to someone who's been through this, thank you so much 


That's just the total time I stayed. Baby came before I even got there and then the placenta was delivered at the hospital. It was mostly watching my bleeding, making sure it wasn't too much. I'm sorry your going through this. Glad I can be there to help. Always good to not feel alone! 

Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 18th '16

Quoting Bunni♥2+bump:

That's just the total time I stayed. Baby came before I even got there and then the placenta was delivered at the hospital. It was mostly watching my bleeding, making sure it wasn't too much. I'm sorry your going through this. Glad I can be there to help. Always good to not feel alone! 


I did it ! He took about 5 hours to come.
they're doing tests but he looked perfect overall. I am actually glad that I chose to be induced it helped me with the emotional pain.. I thought that I'd feel I did all that work just to have a dead baby but it's much different than that and there's more to it. Again thank you for your input.
I'd post a picture of him but idk how to on here..

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Oct 18th '16

Quoting Nathan Jr's Mommy:

I did it ! He took about 5 hours to come.
they're doing tests but he looked perfect overall. I am actually glad that I chose to be induced it helped me with the emotional pain.. I thought that I'd feel I did all that work just to have a dead baby but it's much different than that and there's more to it. Again thank you for your input.
I'd post a picture of him but idk how to on here..


No problem! Glad I could offer some help. Take care and be gentle with yourself. Hope your sweet angel rests in peace

Ladiitt621 1 child; 1 angel baby; The Hamptons, NY, United States 1027 posts
Oct 19th '16

My heart breaks for you. I just recently lost my daughter @ 20weeks. I had went in for my check up the day before and had my anatomy scan scheduled for the following day. My water broke while i was at work and went into PTL.

My baby was alive and she was moving around and perfectly fine in utero - but she could not grow or survive without fluid. I had no choice but to deliver her and know she would not survive. I also got to hold her and touch her after she was born. I am crying just thinking about it.

I dont know that i will ever feel ok with this. There is not a day that goes by that i see a pregnant woman and cry cause all i want is to have my baby back. To feel her in my belly again. 

the doctors did all kinds of tests thinking it may have happened from an infection, but there was nothing. no infections or anything that would have caused this. just bad luck is what i was told. 

My heart goes out to you. lots of hugs n prayers your way. 

Nathan Jr's Mommy 1 child; 2 angel babies; Hanover, Pennsylvania 874 posts
Oct 22nd '16

Quoting Ladiitt621:
My heart breaks for you. I just recently lost my daughter @ 20weeks. I had went in for my check up the day before and had my anatomy scan scheduled for the following day. My water broke while i was at work and went into PTL.

My baby was alive and she was moving around and perfectly fine in utero - but she could not grow or survive without fluid. I had no choice but to deliver her and know she would not survive. I also got to hold her and touch her after she was born. I am crying just thinking about it.

I dont know that i will ever feel ok with this. There is not a day that goes by that i see a pregnant woman and cry cause all i want is to have my baby back. To feel her in my belly again. 

the doctors did all kinds of tests thinking it may have happened from an infection, but there was nothing. no infections or anything that would have caused this. just bad luck is what i was told. 

My heart goes out to you. lots of hugs n prayers your way. 


My eyes are filling with tears for you and your loss I am so sorry for your loss. It's a terrible feeling since there's nothing you can do and there's so much you wish you could do. Your loss must have been so tramatic and devasting again I am so sorry and it deeply saddens me.. I can't begin to imagine the emotional pain, I will pray for strength for you because I know it's hard and it seems like noone understands and you're alone, atleast that's how I feel the after pain seems worse... its been a foggy week for me. 

Ladiitt621 1 child; 1 angel baby; The Hamptons, NY, United States 1027 posts
Oct 24th '16

Quoting Nathan Jr's Mommy:

My eyes are filling with tears for you and your loss I am so sorry for your loss. It's a terrible feeling since there's nothing you can do and there's so much you wish you could do. Your loss must have been so tramatic and devasting again I am so sorry and it deeply saddens me.. I can't begin to imagine the emotional pain, I will pray for strength for you because I know it's hard and it seems like noone understands and you're alone, atleast that's how I feel the after pain seems worse... its been a foggy week for me. 


Thank You. yes a loss regardless must be just heart wrenching. Nobody ever understands unless they have experienced it. I know before I had ever went through this yes i owuld be sympathetic but the pain and hurt and the emotional trauma is just unimaginable. It is just not getting easier for me. I cant stand to see a pregnant woman. i hate to even see a small baby. All i think about is what my little girl would look like now or why God could have taken her from me. I just dont know how to get past the hurt. I dont know how to deal with the pain and missing her. I just want to go back, do something different, make it not happen. I just want her back.