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Need Advice Asap Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Hey everyone I need advice I have been going through some problems with my husband for the last 8 years for seven years of the eight years he has hit me he stopped hitting me a year ago and he stop drinking because he was a really bad alcoholic and I've tried to forgive him but i can't and he said that im breaking up my family when its not my fault i can't stop crying im so hurt please give me advice im lost

~Nanin~ Due April 28 (boy); 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Colorado Springs, Co, United States 1036 posts
Sep 5th '16

He broke your trust and your sense of safety the first time he hit you. He broke up the family, not you. This is not your fault.

~*~Cassi~*~ 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Bar Harbor, ME, United States 1560 posts
Sep 5th '16

You need to leave him. 
1-800-799-7233 that is the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They are available 24/7 and they can help you find resources in your area. 
You are worth so much more and you do not deserve it. You can get help and support, you don't have to take it. Its not okay. Good luck OP. 

marmarissa 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Ottawa, ON, Canada 8256 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting ~*~Cassi~*~:
You need to leave him. 
1-800-799-7233 that is the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They are available 24/7 and they can help you find resources in your area. 
You are worth so much more and you do not deserve it. You can get help and support, you don't have to take it. Its not okay. Good luck OP. 


All of this.   Call that number and get out of there ASAP.   I'm sorry you're going through that.

lamb_nodules 2 kids; United Kingdom 3728 posts
Sep 5th '16

Leave. Is there even another option?

Royal_Lux United States 2660 posts
Sep 5th '16

Abuse isn't something you can get over. You'll always remember especially if it was 7yrs!, you'll always wonder if there will be another time. Do you have family support? Please reach out to someone or the abuse hotline.

Sure he might be trying to change but doesn't excuse his 7yrs worth of action with physical abuse. That's also mental abuse by telling you that you're breaking up the family. His actions broke your family 7yrs ago!

Consuela* United States 5029 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting ~*~Cassi~*~:
You need to leave him. 
1-800-799-7233 that is the number for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. They are available 24/7 and they can help you find resources in your area. 
You are worth so much more and you do not deserve it. You can get help and support, you don't have to take it. Its not okay. Good luck OP. 


Please call OP.

Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Thanks everyone im just so tired of this shit im ready to be a single parent its time for my kids to be happy and me im just so hurt its sucks

user banned United States 185 posts
Sep 5th '16

You need to leave. While people can change its not likely that he has completely stopped the violence. All it takes is one time for things to get out of hand. One time for him to lose his temper and that could be the end of everything. 

The Original Bob 4 kids; 4 angel babies; <3, CA, United States 38477 posts
Sep 6th '16

It's not something that you can easily get over. I would suggest couples counseling if you guys really wanna try to make it work. There might be free counseling services or sliding scale just google it in your area.