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user banned United States 185 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting Vanessa Ford:

First of all it has nothing to do with her doing her job properly teenagers will be teenagers it's not her fault why her fifteen-year-old went out and got pregnant so if you don't have nothing positive to say then just keep your negative comments to yourself because I noticed every post anyone puts all you do is comment negative stuff


Bia is actually very helpful. I can see why she took offense to someone calling a baby a mistake. A surprise maybe but not a mistake. And yes teens are going to try to be grown up and have sex but is innit up to us as parents to be the responsible one for our children. I know I will be up my kids butt when it comes to stuff like this. I will make it very hard for them to have time alone with a boyfriend or girlfriend. No time alone means no time for sex. 

Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting The.silent.one:

Bia is actually very helpful. I can see why she took offense to someone calling a baby a mistake. A surprise maybe but not a mistake. And yes teens are going to try to be grown up and have sex but is innit up to us as parents to be the responsible one for our children. I know I will be up my kids butt when it comes to stuff like this. I will make it very hard for them to have time alone with a boyfriend or girlfriend. No time alone means no time for sex. 


That is true

user banned United States 185 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting Vanessa Ford:

That is true


I mean it happens. I got knocked up at 16. But I was proactive about it. I took on the responsibility of MY child. I had to suffer and sacrifice because I chose to have unprotected sex. I think it's great that the op wants to support her daughter but op, if you really want to help your daughter, give her the bare minimum of help with that baby. Make her grow up and face her responsibility. If you raise that child for her that could start a long road of "I don't have to do it because mommy will" and that's not fair for anyone. Especially you. 

Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting The.silent.one:

I mean it happens. I got knocked up at 16. But I was proactive about it. I took on the responsibility of MY child. I had to suffer and sacrifice because I chose to have unprotected sex. I think it's great that the op wants to support her daughter but op, if you really want to help your daughter, give her the bare minimum of help with that baby. Make her grow up and face her responsibility. If you raise that child for her that could start a long road of "I don't have to do it because mommy will" and that's not fair for anyone. Especially you. 


Yes i also got pregnant at 16 and been the best mom I can to my daughter now I am 23 with 5 kids I have given up a lot for them but I wouldn't change it for the world like the show Teen Mom it just shows all the fun about being a mom it doesn't show all the struggles I mean when you become a mom you have to take full responsibility for your actions you're right they are not mistakes they are blessings but they are unplanned blessing sometimes I just hope when my kids get older they do not become pregnant teenagers because I have 4 girls and one boy I hope I never have to go through this until they're over 21

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting Vanessa Ford:

First of all it has nothing to do with her doing her job properly teenagers will be teenagers it's not her fault why her fifteen-year-old went out and got pregnant so if you don't have nothing positive to say then just keep your negative comments to yourself because I noticed every post anyone puts all you do is comment negative stuff



It IS her job to make sure her f**king teenage daughter is on BIRTH CONTROL!

Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting bia.:


It IS her job to make sure her f**king teenage daughter is on BIRTH CONTROl





You do have a point i have 4 girls and ones they turn 14 there ass are on birth control for sure

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Sep 5th '16


Quoting Vanessa Ford:





You do have a point i have 4 girls and ones they turn 14 there ass are on birth control for sure



For sure, I have 3 myself lol, once they start AF, boom off to the doctor we go. Not having that. 38

Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting bia.:


For sure, I have 3 myself lol, once they start AF, boom off to the doctor we go. Not having that. 38


Lol i know im to young for grand babies 

CrazyMummyTo3 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nottingham, UK, United Kingdom 12 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting Vanessa Ford:

First of all it has nothing to do with her doing her job properly teenagers will be teenagers it's not her fault why her fifteen-year-old went out and got pregnant so if you don't have nothing positive to say then just keep your negative comments to yourself because I noticed every post anyone puts all you do is comment negative stuff


Thank you x

When she had been seeing her BF for a few months I asked her repeatedly if she was having sex or planning on it. She told me that neither of them were ready for that and she promised to talk to me if that changed... I even had a stack of condoms in the house for her to take 'no questions asked', I wasnt going to force her onto birth control when she assured me there was no need. 

user banned United States 185 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting CrazyMummyTo3:

Thank you x

When she had been seeing her BF for a few months I asked her repeatedly if she was having sex or planning on it. She told me that neither of them were ready for that and she promised to talk to me if that changed... I even had a stack of condoms in the house for her to take 'no questions asked', I wasnt going to force her onto birth control when she assured me there was no need. 


Well she lied to you because obviously it was a necessity. Maybe not at the time of the talk but it definitely became a necessity. 
But what's done is done. 

Vanessa Ford 5 kids; Chula Vista, CA, United States 279 posts
Sep 5th '16

Quoting CrazyMummyTo3:

Thank you x

When she had been seeing her BF for a few months I asked her repeatedly if she was having sex or planning on it. She told me that neither of them were ready for that and she promised to talk to me if that changed... I even had a stack of condoms in the house for her to take 'no questions asked', I wasnt going to force her onto birth control when she assured me there was no need. 


Your welcome i understand i have 4 girls

711 2 kids; Wherever my fam goes, WA, United States 344 posts
Sep 16th '16

Quoting The.silent.one:

I mean it happens. I got knocked up at 16. But I was proactive about it. I took on the responsibility of MY child. I had to suffer and sacrifice because I chose to have unprotected sex. 


SAME HERE! I got pregnant at 17 and had my first DD. Then a month later turned 18. 

✨Kati✨ Due May 20; 1 child; Memphis, TN, United States 3268 posts
Sep 17th '16

She can raise that baby and still go to school and you should let her do it. It will help her grow up faster and yes she needs to grow up because she's having a baby! It's great you're being supportive but you
mentioned that you want her to be a normal teen. She still can do that if you made sure she was doing good in school and not messing around.