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WWYD? anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 866 posts
Aug 26th '16

Backstory: SO and I found out we were pregnant on Easter sunday. About two weeks later I started bleeding and I miscarried. Our due date was December 1st. We were not trying at the time, but we did get pretty excited after the shock wore off. So fast forward a couple months, I got some follow requests on Instagram from one of SO's really good friends and his girlfriend. I was looking at their profiles and sure as shit, theyre expecting and due December 2nd. Very Sad I'm happy for them, it just really bothers me every time I see their pregnancy updates because that's exactly how far along we would've been by now. SO told me i should follow them since they're following me, but GAWD I hate seeing all her updates and their gender reveal and everything. It kills me. So I guess my question is, is it offensive for me to unfollow them because I seriously hate seeing their updates? Or should I just suck it up and be a good supportive friend? WWYD?

Jenn+5 ❤️ TTC since May 2017; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Town you've never heard of, OH, United States 13470 posts
Aug 26th '16

Honestly, I unfollow people I don't want to see. . Don't do anything that's makes you feel uncomfortable. You are grieving your baby, you don't need reminded by updates. 

We ARE the Crystal gems 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Beach city, CA, United States 17882 posts
Aug 26th '16

It's not selfish. You're still grieving and when you're ready you can follow them.

When I had my loss I did not want to be around pregnant women/ babies. I took off on BG for almost two years until I was pregnant with my rainbow child. It was just so hard seeing these girls who were due the same time as me and their pregnancy was going smoothly. My cousin ended up getting pregnant about 3 weeks after my loss and It felt like i was forced to see her. 

Just remember you're not alone and if you need to talk you can PM me.

user banned 1 child; United States 82 posts
Aug 26th '16

Don't follow them if you're uncomfortable with it. It's honestly not a big deal. I don't follow/unfollow and even block those I don't care to see/interact with. As for your question, for any actual adult, no it's not offensive to not follow back. You need to do what you have to as you grieve. 

~*~Cassi~*~ 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Bar Harbor, ME, United States 1560 posts
Aug 26th '16

I'm sorry you're hurting. :(
I would have a hard time watching someone go through pregnancy too. If it upset me I would choose not to follow them. The nice thing about instagram is they can still see your stuff if you let them follow you even if you don't follow them. So unless she is one of those people that takes the time to look at her followers she probably won't even notice that you're not following her. If she is one of those people, meh not much of a loss there. 

anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 866 posts
Aug 26th '16

Thank you ladies. It makes me feel better to know I'm not being a b***h by not wanting to see her stupid happy pregnancy stuff. It wouldn't bother me so much if she didn't have practically the same due date I did. Watching her updates that were supposed to be my updates too. Ugh. 

dopechickdani. TTC since Aug 2016; 1 child; California 29413 posts
Aug 26th '16

its YOUR Instagram, follow who YOU want to see updates of.

Wouldn'tUlike2know 2 kids; United States 1331 posts
Aug 26th '16

Unfollow for sure, I would do the same thing

anna_allover Due April 3; 1 child; 1 angel baby; United States 866 posts
Aug 26th '16

Yup, I'm gonna unfollow her. At least until she has her baby. Lol. 

Whizkid2 2 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 182 posts
Aug 26th '16

I doubt she would be offended, especially if she knows about your loss. I'd hate to make someone feel bad by looking at my Instagram. 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Aug 26th '16

Quoting anna_allover:
Yup, I'm gonna unfollow her. At least until she has her baby. Lol. 


even after she gives birth, chances are that child may always be a reminder.

user banned 1 child; United States 82 posts
Aug 26th '16
Quoting Bentley Calls Me Mom<3:

even after she gives birth, chances are that child may always be a reminder.


Exclamation This. I was going to say. And that's okay.