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........ Ohana❤ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nvr, NL, United States 1904 posts
Aug 12th '16

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bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Aug 12th '16

I haven't, but actually yes I would tell them, I think. Once they are at that age...having sex...etc etc.

I dunno what I would say though... Were you on any BC at the time? 

Ohana❤ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nvr, NL, United States 1904 posts
Aug 12th '16

Quoting bia.:
I haven't, but actually yes I would tell them, I think. Once they are at that age...having sex...etc etc.

I dunno what I would say though... Were you on any BC at the time? 


No I wasn't. I knew my mom would have flipped shit if she knew I was even thinking about having sex with the boyfriend.

Also want to add that I was pretty naive and dumb, had the train of thought "it won't happen to me".

Austs_Momma Due June 30; 1 child; 1 angel baby; CD, NY, United States 3814 posts
Aug 12th '16

I haven't had one, but my bestfriend did at 15... And I instantly went to my mom and said I needed BC for my periods! Lmao. Little did my mom know I had already been having sex for a few months. Maybe she did know, we just never discussed it. I think I would discuss this with my kids, if it was me. I don't know if my friend will tell her daughter. (So I can't tell my children, ya know?) she may even pick up on it without us knowing, as it sometimes comes up now that her moms been TTC for over a year. She often wonders if she's being punished. (She has a four year old now.) we have often said its crazy to think she could have a 10 year old right now, so her daughter may catch onto that 


sorry, I rambled, yes.. I think I would. I think it opens up the subject and will make them more comfortable to ask for help if they're having or planning to have sex 

¡VinHaute! Kansas City, MO, United States 47544 posts
Aug 12th '16

I would, when they're older and around that age which regrettable happens so soon. But I think it's important for kids to see their parents as human beings with pasts and lessons hard learned, if it can help them at all. It does nothing for our kids for us to portray ourselves as some kind of infallible creature sitting on a moral high horse. 

My mother shared her own abortion story with me when I was around 15/16. It made me think she'd have my back if I ever found myself in a similar situation, and her regrets had some part to play in why I declined last minute to go through with one.
I wouldn't have gone on birth control if it weren't for her being so communicative about sex.

LittlebuttsMamax3! 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Asheville, North Carolina 17335 posts
Aug 12th '16

My mom told me about the abortion she had at 16 and why she went through with it. Ive never had one but if i did i probably would. I want to have open communication with my kids and i want them to know that shit happens and no matter what,  im here. No judgement.  

Victoria California 2 kids; Central Valley, CA, United States 3190 posts
Aug 12th '16

It's really up to you if you feel comfortable sharing that. I know my mom had one before having me. She didn't tell me herself, though. My aunt did. (She's a hug gossiper) I asked her once though, if she had a miscarriage or an abortion and she said she had both. I think if they ever asked, I would tell them the truth. (I've never had one though) But I'm also not the sharing-of-personal-detail kind of person. If you feel it's something you should do, go for it! Just think about what you're going to say and how you're going to say it.

~*~Cassi~*~ 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Bar Harbor, ME, United States 1560 posts
Aug 12th '16

I was talked into having an abortion when I was 17 by some of my friends because my boyfriend had just gone to jail on felony gun charges and I was using drugs at the time and it was overall an awful time in my teenage life. I plan to tell my daughter when she becomes old enough that we have to discuss birth control. I feel like being able to openly discuss the dark parts of partying and being sexual activity brings it close to home and makes it a more realistic consequence. A lot of people have the mentality that it will never happen to them and its important to know that yes it can so you have to be careful. 

When I got pregnant with my son at 18 my mom and I discussed my options and she actually told me she had also had one after she had me and that its a difficult choice but she would support me if I made it. All I could think was that I wish she had told me about her teenage experiences sooner and we were more open. Maybe I wouldn't feel the need to be sneaky and I may not have ended up in some of the sketchy places I stayed at out of fear of my parents finding out what I was up to.

Wouldn'tUlike2know 2 kids; United States 1331 posts
Aug 12th '16

I had one when I was 19. My son was 8 months old and I accidentally got pregnant again. I had even took plan b but still ended up pregnant. I'm 27 now with a daughter that will be 1 next month. I'm sure by the time she is old enough I will tell her. I don't regret it, but I do feel bad about it. (If that makes sense).
When I found out I as pregnant at 18, my mom confided in me that she had an abortion around that age and regretted it everyday of her life, so she said she would be okay with me keeping my baby. I respected the fact that she told me, and would like to be able to talk to my kids about it too whenever the time comes 

Britny Due August 10 (girl); 4 kids; 2 angel babies; ,, ,, United States 20895 posts
Aug 12th '16

Yes I will tell them about Eden and how much I regretted it and all the counseling and healing process I had to go through.
I was 13.6 weeks and I miss that baby every day
But if it will help my kids someday understand that sex has consequences if you don't do it safely then it's worth sharing and also part of the therapy and healing was them having me name and give my baby an identity since I felt so bad and so I think Eden should be known by his/her siblings 

Ohana❤ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nvr, NL, United States 1904 posts
Aug 12th '16

Thank you all so very much. I have an idea what I might say when the time comes. I will definitely tell my girls when the time is right.

My situation was fucked up. My mother was never supportive. When I do get the chance I might post my story. Thanks again!

♡angel mommy♡ Due October 21; 1 child; 2 angel babies; somewhere, LA, United States 1032 posts
Aug 12th '16

I didn't have an abortion but I would tell my kids. I would make it a family discussion and use it as a teaching tool.

When I was about 15 my mom told me that she had got pregnant at 18 out of wedlock and married her best friend who was gay to hide it from her family. She then got raped by a stranger at the lake one weekend and the trauma and stress caused a miscarriage. She got an annulment and met my dad and the rest is history.
But her being honest and telling me she made a mistake and got pregnant when she was young made me trust her more.
Its hard to talk about for her. But it helped me understand a lot about why she asked me if I thought me and my BF were ready for sex, she took me to the doctor and helped me to get on birth control when I was 16. I waited till I was 18 and had been with my BF 6 years before we ever had sex. We broke up 2 months later. I am glad I waited though, because it made it more special. And I was glad my mom had told me about her struggles because it made it easier to talk to her, and ask for help if I would have needed it.