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so much going through my mind... supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 30th '16

I'm going through my first miscarriage and I don't feel like I'm handling it very well. I'm still crying every day. I can't sleep at night but then want to sleep all day. I feel so guilty and hopeless. But at the same time I feel like people are basically telling me I should get over it because I was only 9 weeks it's not like I was 20 weeks or something. I both want the bleeding to stop so we can get back on track and try again but I'm also terrified. We were not using protection for over a year before we actually got pregnant. What if it takes even longer this time? What if I never get pregnant? What if we finally do and we lose the baby again... Idk if I can go through this a second time... And before we even get to that point.... How am I going to be intimate with my DH without crying? We kissed the other day and it got a little bit more passionate than just a normal kiss and just that made me cry. I'm a mess. All of this is going on in my head and then my sister in law is going through hell with her husband and if they split and he gets custody of my niece I may never see her again... I feel like everything is just crumbing around me. I've been trying so hard to be strong for her and help her get through this but it's hard. And I feel selfish bc all I really want to do is be alone but I can't because she needs me. Please someone tell me things get better

Jenn+5 ❤️ TTC since May 2017; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Town you've never heard of, OH, United States 13470 posts
Jul 30th '16

Many hugs girl. It gets better. You will always wonder what if. It'll get better though. I'm going through my second miscarriage. Everything you just said is normal. Not going to lie, I still have my break down moments. I feel cheated, I should be getting ready to have my first miscarriage the end of August, instead I'm going through my second miscarriage. I know your feelings all too well. Many hugs.

supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting Jenn+4❤️:
Many hugs girl. It gets better. You will always wonder what if. It'll get better though. I'm going through my second miscarriage. Everything you just said is normal. Not going to lie, I still have my break down moments. I feel cheated, I should be getting ready to have my first miscarriage the end of August, instead I'm going through my second miscarriage. I know your feelings all too well. Many hugs.


It just feels so unfair... I never thought I'd be going through this... If it was ever going to happen it probably should have with my first pregnancy. I was so stressed. So not ready at all. I lost 11 lbs and was only 88lbs for the first few months. I wasn't eating or sleeping. I cried all day every day. And even that pregnancy made it. Why this one? I did everything right... We were so happy.. I don't get it



I'm so so sorry for your losses. I can say that now and really know the meaning of it. Like I said I'm struggling with this one I couldnt imagine more than 1. I'm so sorry

Jenn+5 ❤️ TTC since May 2017; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Town you've never heard of, OH, United States 13470 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting supermom(+2.5):

It just feels so unfair... I never thought I'd be going through this... If it was ever going to happen it probably should have with my first pregnancy. I was so stressed. So not ready at all. I lost 11 lbs and was only 88lbs for the first few months. I wasn't eating or sleeping. I cried all day every day. And even that pregnancy made it. Why this one? I did everything right... We were so happy.. I don't get it



I'm so so sorry for your losses. I can say that now and really know the meaning of it. Like I said I'm struggling with this one I couldnt imagine more than 1. I'm so sorry


I agree. It's not fair :( you should be getting to flip weeks with everyone else in your dd group and experience what they are. You shouldn't have an empty wrenching feeling in the pit of your stomach, where your precious little baby that you were promised is supposed to be. No mom should ever have to experience the horrible pain of the loss of their child, no matter how old they were. It doesn't matter if they were still growing in your stomach or outside of your stomach. It's still your child and it's still your child to grieve.

supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting Jenn+4❤️:

I agree. It's not fair :( you should be getting to flip weeks with everyone else in your dd group and experience what they are. You shouldn't have an empty wrenching feeling in the pit of your stomach, where your precious little baby that you were promised is supposed to be. No mom should ever have to experience the horrible pain of the loss of their child, no matter how old they were. It doesn't matter if they were still growing in your stomach or outside of your stomach. It's still your child and it's still your child to grieve.


Such a horrible feeling... The day I actually lost the baby my phone buzzed with an update from my app saying that it was week 9 and I would get to hear the heartbeat. I lost it.

supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 30th '16

How long Will it be before I get a negative test

Jenn+5 ❤️ TTC since May 2017; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Town you've never heard of, OH, United States 13470 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting supermom(+2.5):
How long Will it be before I get a negative test


If you got a DnC it took me three weeks to get a negative test. With this baby I opted to lose it natural and my levels are still at 300. I'm hoping in a couple weeks or less I'll be able to get a negative test. 

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Jul 30th '16

Im sorry for your loss❤ All normal feelings. I've had three early losses and one at 18 weeks. They all broke my heart! You will never forget but you'll get stronger with time. Give yourself time to heal! 

supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting Jenn+4❤️:

If you got a DnC it took me three weeks to get a negative test. With this baby I opted to lose it natural and my levels are still at 300. I'm hoping in a couple weeks or less I'll be able to get a negative test. 


I passed everything naturally.. Didn't even get a choice. So it'll be weeks still? The bleeding is just now slowing down..

supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting Bunni♥2+bump:
Im sorry for your loss❤ All normal feelings. I've had three early losses and one at 18 weeks. They all broke my heart! You will never forget but you'll get stronger with time. Give yourself time to heal! 


I am so so sorry...

Jenn+5 ❤️ TTC since May 2017; 5 kids; 2 angel babies; Town you've never heard of, OH, United States 13470 posts
Jul 30th '16

Quoting supermom(+2.5):

I passed everything naturally.. Didn't even get a choice. So it'll be weeks still? The bleeding is just now slowing down..


Have they been drawing blood? I'd honestly get those .88 tests from Walmart and take one weekly. That's what I did with my first miscarriage.

supermom(+3.5) Due March 7; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 263 posts
Jul 31st '16

Quoting Jenn+4❤️:

Have they been drawing blood? I'd honestly get those .88 tests from Walmart and take one weekly. That's what I did with my first miscarriage.


No they haven't drawn any at all. Even when I went for my first appointment they said I wouldn't need bloodwork until around 15 weeks