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fear of miscarriage ♡angel mommy♡ Due October 21; 1 child; 2 angel babies; somewhere, LA, United States 1032 posts
Jul 17th '16

I had a miscarriage with my 2nd pregnancy. Now I am so afraid I'm going to see blood every time I go to the bathroom. Is that normal? 
Like I am almost scared to go to the bathroom because I'm so afraid. I told my husband and he cried with me, he said he can't even imagine how horrible that fear must be. 
please someone tell me that everything will be okay. I'm so afraid of loosing another baby! 
is their any mom's who would want to form like a rainbow baby support group? Or is their one already? 

Thanks. 

Maja <3 3 kids; United States 889 posts
Jul 17th '16

I am so sorry for your loss. I too, know that fear. It is scary and hard to not be afraid, but keep positive thoughts.
I was like that with this pregnancy and now Im 37 weeks with my rainbow baby :) sending sticky dust and good vibes your way! 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Jul 17th '16

I have that fear every time I'm pregnant. I'd say it's pretty normal. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Jul 17th '16

Quoting bia.:
I have that fear every time I'm pregnant. I'd say it's pretty normal. 


And it doesn't just "stop" at 12 weeks either, I worry right up until I have them, and then even AFTER they are here and healthy. Evil

Bunni♥+4 4 kids; 5 angel babies; ., IL, United States 4196 posts
Jul 17th '16

Ive had four losses, one being in the 2nd trimester. I have that fear all the time. I know I won't feel better until baby is in my arms. I'm 13 weeks now with hopefully my rainbow and I just take it day by day. Do my best to stay positive!

⭐No Apologies Due April 10; Miami, FL, United States 4078 posts
Jul 17th '16

Quoting bia.:

And it doesn't just "stop" at 12 weeks either, I worry right up until I have them, and then even AFTER they are here and healthy. Evil


Pretty much this. I worry the whole pregnancy, and then months after they're born. I literally sit up all night and watch my newb sleep. I honestly worry myself sick. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Jul 17th '16

Quoting No Apologies™:

Pretty much this. I worry the whole pregnancy, and then months after they're born. I literally sit up all night and watch my newb sleep. I honestly worry myself sick. 


It's awful, eh? 

♡angel mommy♡ Due October 21; 1 child; 2 angel babies; somewhere, LA, United States 1032 posts
Jul 17th '16

Thanks yall. 
I just want these weeks to hurry and fly by, I'm scared to tell even my closest friends because I am terrified of loss. 
Its so hard. I went to babies r us yesterday and they had the carseat I want to markdown from $150 to $50 and hubby talked me into buying it. He got a bit upset  when I asked if it was returnable.
I'm scared to get excited about this baby. 

⭐No Apologies Due April 10; Miami, FL, United States 4078 posts
Jul 17th '16

Quoting bia.:

It's awful, eh? 


Terrible. I don't know why I keep getting knocked up and putting myself thru this. 

Angelaaaaa Due March 16 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Somewhere, CT, United States 184 posts
Jul 17th '16

I just had a miscarriage back in May and am not pregnant again. I am so scared about everything I do. I've been trying to be extra careful with everything I do this time around. Everytime I go to the bathroom I also always fear I'm gonna look down and see blood especially since my miscarriage came as such a surprise last time. I'm already farther along right now than I was with my miscarriage so I'm hoping things work out this time. I'm very sorry you're loss it's a terrible thing to have happen to anyone. Fingers crossed for rainbow baby ❤️

browncrayon07 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dixon, Il, United States 2329 posts
Jul 17th '16

Quoting bia.:

And it doesn't just "stop" at 12 weeks either, I worry right up until I have them, and then even AFTER they are here and healthy. Evil


This!

I worried my entire pregnancy that I was going to wipe and see blood. After having 3 miscarriages  (2 in a row) I worried about every little thing. When I was hospitalized for preterm labor, I was constantly asking to be put on the monitors. Baby girl hated it, but I always felt better. 

vonhot United States 53 posts
Jul 17th '16

Yep I worried so much after my miscarriage. I wouldn't allow myself to get too excited until later in the third trimester. But something hat helped was I learned to appreciate the time I had with baby, even if that only meant inside my womb. I took time to soak in the tub, talk to baby, and pray, that way we had that quality time I could always remember. What you're feeling is normal, don't feel guilty, don't worry yourself sick, and also don't let it steal your joy either. You can't prepare for the worse so do try to enjoy what you can. 

Mama Jellyfish Due October 1; 2 kids; Huron, SD, United States 3445 posts
Jul 18th '16

I thought I would be a whole lot less worried once I saw my baby at the ultrasound (I did, and I have a healthy baby!) but I am still freaking out since I am still in my first trimester. Almost done, I know, but still freaking out, always worried and paranoid. I think it won't stop until the baby is born. 

vonhot United States 53 posts
Jul 18th '16

Quoting Momma Jellyfish:
I thought I would be a whole lot less worried once I saw my baby at the ultrasound (I did, and I have a healthy baby!) but I am still freaking out since I am still in my first trimester. Almost done, I know, but still freaking out, always worried and paranoid. I think it won't stop until the baby is born. 


Yes I totally can relate to that. It seems there are always ongoing fears because we at one time were forced to realize just how much of it is out of our control. But it gets easier as the pregnancy progresses, even with underlying fears. 

♡angel mommy♡ Due October 21; 1 child; 2 angel babies; somewhere, LA, United States 1032 posts
Jul 18th '16

It sucks doesn't it.
The fear and worry. I didn't realize how scary pregnancy was with my first born.
I was young, and naïve and had no major problems.
Then I lost my 2nd, and my world turned upside down, this pregnancy- things are looking good so far, I am now 6 weeks along, so chances of miscarriage drop daily. But I am still so scared.