I got with my ex when I was 19 and had a 1 year old son who didn't know his father so he treated him as his own and my son has always known him as daddy because his own father wanted nothing. He was great when we got together. A year later abuse started. He worked full time whilst I stayed and look after the house. He would come home and if I hadn't made him the right dinner he would punch me or if I talked to him too much he would slap me. He always said sorry and I forgave him.
i fell pregnant a few months later and he abused me psyically and mentally throughout the first 4 months. He would spit on me, hit me, call me names, everything. He would go out for hours and come back showing me videos of him having sex with other people and he would say that's where he had been because I couldn't satisfy him like she could.
Still I stayed. Physical abuse continued until I was showing a bump then he stopped but mental abuse continued. 2 days after I had our daughter he punched me because I said I didn't feel like making dinner tonight. I told no one. He got a new job and made me move with him 6 hours away from anyone I knew. I couldn't fight back, he's 6ft 6 and of a big frame, it was pointless.
He would force me to have sex with him when I didn't want it, he told me he owned me so he could do it when he wanted, I gave up resisting because it would just make him angrier. I went on the pill and he took it off of me. I fell pregnant 4 months after my daughter, I told him. He was so angry, he hit me then took me to the doctors and I had an abortion at 6 weeks pregnant, it was horrible as personally I do not agree with abortion and he knew this. Still I wasn't allowed to go on any contraception. He would make threats and say if he found out I did with out his permission he would hurt my son. Whenever he left the house he would take either my son or daughter with him so he knew I couldn't run away.
I fell pregnant 2 months after the abortion. I kept it secret from him. That was until I was 21 weeks pregnant. He made me strip in front of him and saw my belly was bigger as naturally I'm very skinny. He felt my stomach for awhile and felt something move. He asked me if I was pregnant and I said yes. I got beat up and blows to my stomach. A week later he took me to the doctors and forced me to tell them I wanted an abortion at 22 weeks. He told me if I didn't he would kill my son. I did what he asked and had to give birth to my daughter dead. He didn't let me see her when she came out and when I cried about it after he got angry with me and laughed at me.
I stayed with him for 3 more months before social services got involved as my son said something to my teacher about his daddy beating up mummy. I told them everything and I went back to live with my family and he is not allowed near me or the kids. He is currently going through court to get supervised access to his daughter but I hope he doesn't get it.
I just can't stop feeling guilty for my poor little baby. In an attempt not to abort her before she was born the doctor was telling me how she was a girl and was moving on the screen s*****g her thumb, I just don't know how I will get through this pain.
Oh honey :( I'm so sorry. Hugs.
Oh my... im in tears for you. Im so terribly sorry that you had to go through that. No one should ever have to experience that... im glad you and your kids are safe now. The abortions were nothing you had control over as you did what you thought was best to protect all of you when he threatened you in that way ..
I hope you tell the court ALL of this when he tries to get visitation.
Do you think the doctor could tell you might be being forced? (Did you seem very upset?) Maybe he could be a witnesz? God damn I don't know.
I'm sorry you went through that.
I'm sorry for all that you went through￼ You did what you had to do to survive. I'm glad you and your children are with your family now.
I'm sorry you had to endure that! I'm glad you and your children are safe now.
I have no words.. I am SO sorry that you had to go through any of that. Hugs <3
Thanks for everyone's wishes.
When we went for the abortion he left the kids with his friend, I didn't know this friend as I wasn't allowed to speak to him or meet him, he would just drop the kids there. He told me that his friend was in on it and would hurt the kids (well specifically my son as he isn't biologically his) and that if I did anything wrong he would text his friend and get him to do it. When I went to the doctors I had to be confident for my sons sake. When the police where contacted his friend denied being in on anything and was confused so who knows if he's just trying to shift blame or if he knew nothing about it and was just watching the kids.
i haven't told anyone this yet (apart from close family) I guess I don't want to admit to it because of what happened but I will be bringing it up in court to avoid getting access. He will just try to use her against me to get me back
I am so glad you survived! You are so strong!
I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter. I can't even begin to imagine your pain.
I too have suffered from severe abuse, as well as my child's well being, being threatened for control and want you to know if you need to talk, I am here for you.
I am praying for you and your babies. I hope they deny him custody and charges are brought him for the monster that he is.
Just know you are so strong and you are a survivor! Bless you and your babies! Remember your little girl is always watching over you and her siblings smiling. She is your guardian angel.
That's so sad :'( I'm so sorry *hugs*