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Emotional aftermath Emma and Chloe's Momma Due February 24 (boy); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Plainfield, IN, United States 12896 posts
Jun 23rd '16

i will be 5 weeks tomorrow and the situation is less then ideally. i know that having an abortion would be my best opinion but I don't know if I can handle the emotional effects of it. I know noone can tell me what to do but I'd like to know how hard it was afterwards.

Mel[ish] 7 angel babies; United States 1055 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Every situation is different, just like every termination. The key is having a great support system and someone to talk to before, during and after the procedure. Do you have a friend to go with you or pick you up afterwards?

Emma and Chloe's Momma Due February 24 (boy); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Plainfield, IN, United States 12896 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Quoting ☄Butterfly's oases☄:
Every situation is different, just like every termination. The key is having a great support system and someone to talk to before, during and after the procedure. Do you have a friend to go with you or pick you up afterwards?


I don't have any family here. My assistant manager knows the situation and said she would be there for me. Other then that I dont have anyone.

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Yes every situation is different. I had an abortion when I was 15 (maybe 16 - 37 now) and honestly I do not regret it. It wasn't emotional hard after the procedure because I knew in my heart that it was the best for all.

Emma and Chloe's Momma Due February 24 (boy); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Plainfield, IN, United States 12896 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Thanks ladies. I know it would be best for the situation but I'm about 98% sure I cant handle it afterwards. I have an appointment at a pregnancy crisis center to get a verifaction test. I believe they have counslers there that I will talk to too.

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Quoting Emma and Chloe's Momma:
Thanks ladies. I know it would be best for the situation but I'm about 98% sure I cant handle it afterwards. I have an appointment at a pregnancy crisis center to get a verifaction test. I believe they have counslers there that I will talk to too.



Follow your gut no matter what anyone says.

trifecta perfecta 3 kids; Somewhere in the Stix, MA, United States 557 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Would it make a difference if you knew one way or another who the father was?


If I remember correctly you were concerned it could be a one-time fling as opposed to your boyfriend? I'm not sure how these things work but if you were able to find out that it was belonging to one man or another would that change your decision?

~*~Cassi~*~ 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Bar Harbor, ME, United States 1560 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Best of luck to you. 
If you are sure in your decision the aftermath is tolerable but if you have any doubt I'm not sure how you'll feel after. 
I had one when I was 16 and I don't regret it but I was also 100% sure that what I thought was the best option for me at the time, however I still felt some sadness over it despite the awful circumstance that led to it.

Emma and Chloe's Momma Due February 24 (boy); 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Plainfield, IN, United States 12896 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Quoting --Laura--:
Would it make a difference if you knew one way or another who the father was?


If I remember correctly you were concerned it could be a one-time fling as opposed to your boyfriend? I'm not sure how these things work but if you were able to find out that it was belonging to one man or another would that change your decision?


Yes it was a t*******e situation. The guy I was seeing had already decided youd be the father. He became very violent and kicked me out so he could have "female friends" over. I have cut all ties and he will have no part of it.

RubyStoneBaby 1 child; Suburbs, NA, United States 801 posts
Jun 23rd '16

If you don't think you can emotionally handle it afterwards then don't force yourself to do it. It does sound like its the best fitted option for you, but your mental health is important.

NinjaSquirrel United States 8146 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Quoting Emma and Chloe's Momma:

Yes it was a t*******e situation. The guy I was seeing had already decided youd be the father. He became very violent and kicked me out so he could have "female friends" over. I have cut all ties and he will have no part of it.



Don't let this break you!!

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 23349 posts
Jun 23rd '16

Quoting Emma and Chloe's Momma:
Thanks ladies. I know it would be best for the situation but I'm about 98% sure I cant handle it afterwards. I have an appointment at a pregnancy crisis center to get a verifaction test. I believe they have counslers there that I will talk to too.


Be careful with going to a crisis pregnancy center, many are veiled pro-life agencies and often will attempt to talk you out of abortion even if you're set on it. 

Good luck w/ whatever you decide!