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...... Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Gone. Thanks for the support.  Xx




Strongmom United States 88 posts
Mar 2nd '16

I am so sorry for everything everyone is putting you through and all the weight on your shoulders. You made the right decision. I'm not sure of your complete situation but I believe that if it needs to be done, it needs to be done. Completely up to the parents. I'm not sure of what else to say but that I'm so sorry.. I really hope things get better for you.

goshfeckingdarnit TTC since Nov 2015; 1 child; San Diego, CA, United States 3898 posts
Mar 2nd '16

I'm sorry you're feeling the way you are. I'm sure it's 100% normal especially when you're hearing BS spewed from less then supportive family. Sorry to be crude- but your mother is a f**king b***h for treating you the way she does. It's unfair to you especially when it sounds like it's not a choice you would have made had there been another option. I would see if you can find a counselor to get everything off your chest. 

saageex3 2 kids; New York 6701 posts
Mar 2nd '16

I've never had one but I know people who have felt like they had no other choice given maybe certain things going on in their life, people, money, timing, other children etc. And have been sad about it. 

I don't think abortion is as black and white as people make it out to be. My mom is very religious to and I could only imagine the backfire I would get if I had ever decided to get one. Hang in there! BG is a good place to vent

fluffyruffruff 5 kids; United States 4727 posts
Mar 2nd '16

     

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Gone.

SomeMommy 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 74008 posts
Mar 2nd '16

It's normal. It's been 10 years later this month since my abortion. It still gets me emotional if I allow myself to think about it. I just have gotten so used to being numb, that I don't think about it too often. I spent a good amount of time last year though thinking about it, wondering if I should tell my girls, when or if. Wondering if that was my boy I wanted. I struggle with the thought of having a rough TTC journey for our last and thinking about how I did that and this was now my punishment. It's normal.


I'm sorry the people around you though are difficult to deal with. I never told my parents. No one in my family actually knows. I had 2 good friends with me when it happened and I only told a select few besides them. Each of those people have been supportive and it helps. Anti-abortion propaganda still gets me. I feel pretty terrible about it when I see things like that. Around here, a lot of Catholic churches have crosses outside them for aborted children and I cringe every time I see one. My children are in Catholic school so I worry about how they'll view me later when I DO tell them about my experience. IDK, it's a choice you made and while you don't regret it, it doesn't mean it was an easy choice or one you can live with, you know? Don't let others hurt you. 

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Quoting smASHface: 



SomeMommy 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 74008 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Quoting Rανєη: 


Yea, PP is a sore subject because to me, I'd like for my daughters to have a safe place if they ever need to make this decision. Praying they won't but still, if it happens, we should have safe choices to turn to. I just don't get involved in any of the drama around them bc it is a sore subject. The protesters there that day I had mine done were bad enough.


That's how it should be. You never know what life hands you and sometimes the circumstances make you change your view on things. I don't care for people who judge others. Your opinion is yours, keep it to yourself.


<3 When you have those kind of days, just remind yourself you've got an Angel watching over you. You're still it's mother....just because you had to make a choice doesn't mean you didn't love that fetus. You know what I mean?

MamaK[+2] 2 kids; IDK, SK, Canada 1539 posts
Mar 2nd '16

I had mine almost 7 years ago... I still get upset! 
Im sorry. If you ever wanna talk PM me! 

Tσѕнιε 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Derp, WV, United States 10690 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Quoting smASHface: 


Yes, thank you. It means a lot to me. I feel so much better.  

SomeMommy 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 74008 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Quoting Rανєη:

Yes, thank you. It means a lot to me. I feel so much better.  



<3 No problem. I'm always around if you need to PM and talk. It helps.

Lexie88xO Due August 28; United States 238 posts
Mar 2nd '16

I had DD last April, and I got pregnant again in July. I was struggling with 2, I couldn't afford 3, and I knew I would have no support. I cried the entire time on the way to PP, and when I saw the ultrasound I broke down. It hasn't even been a year and it still bothers me. I would have been due any day now. Don't let anyone make you feel bad, you were being a good mother and thinking of the children you already have. I can't imagine my mother saying awful things to me, I'm sorry you have to listen to that nonsense.

SomeMommy 5 kids; 1 angel baby; Chicago, IL, United States 74008 posts
Mar 2nd '16

I should have added that I ended up pregnant with my oldest daughter later that same year. It made me go through some things again like, why did I do that just to end up pregnant again? Different guys, different situation but I told myself I wouldn't go through another abortion so, that baby is probably the reason I have my girls today.

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102656 posts
Mar 2nd '16

Wow that is SO shitty of your mother, I'm so sorry! <3