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My bd is gay? 12wksnsingle Due April 29; United States 204 posts
Dec 31st '14

Supposedly found out from a friend that it's a rumor that he had a sexual relationship with this guy at work. I was friends with him actually knew him from school and i know that he has a very promiscuous unsafe past and present. I've even heard rumors that that individual had hiv. Also found out that his wife also is like transgender. Like basically wants to transition to live as a man. i had met her a few times she did seem different I thought she was just having maybe a rough time with adjusting with expecting her first child. I have gotten tested and am clean as far as stds really scary the way people live their lives though. I heard their marriage was on the rocks already. I really have wished that he's not the dad at this point. My boss kept thinking he got me pregnant because we had been together before the time I got pregnant. But I assured him it's highly unlikely. I'm now wishing he was the father. Because I told bd it was likely his and he's offered to support my son and I but I don't really feel he'd be an adequate father or a good role model or even safe potentially around my son.

☆ The Flash ☆ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Quahog, VA, United States 7288 posts
Dec 31st '14

So, because he's gay, you don't think he's a good enough parent?

Go Homophobia! 

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Dec 31st '14

Why wouldn't he be a bad father?  

☆ The Flash ☆ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Quahog, VA, United States 7288 posts
Dec 31st '14

Basically, from what I'm gathering from your post:

Gay=Bad
Gay=Pedo
Gay-Unsafe
Gay=STD loaded
Gay=Promiscuous
Gay=Inadequate
Transgender=Bad

Wow. You seriously need some therapy or something. 

12wksnsingle Due April 29; United States 204 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting Bawse:
Because he's gay?   Gay people are unsafe? 


No because of the choices he made and he overall seems like a wreckless person.

plus I never signed up for that. He completely lied to me. And he is a habitual liar. I don't really know anything about him. What's actually true and what's not. Etc...

Klaus 2 kids; Mississippi 27174 posts
Dec 31st '14

Judge much? 

It's "really scary the way people live their lives" yet you are pregnant by a married man and were also sleeping with your boss.

Getting an std check was good,not bc he's gay, but because it sounds like you are both promiscuous.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting 12wksnsingle:

No because of the choices he made and he overall seems like a wreckless person.

plus I never signed up for that. He completely lied to me. And he is a habitual liar. I don't really know anything about him. What's actually true and what's not. Etc...



Or he was in denial that he is gay and was trying to "cure" himself by being with a woman. 

Have Heart 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Western, NY, United States 9013 posts
Dec 31st '14

You got tested specifically because he sex'd a man? Because having sex with a man means you caught something? Lolololl.


☆ The Flash ☆ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Quahog, VA, United States 7288 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting 12wksnsingle:

No because of the choices he made and he overall seems like a wreckless person.

plus I never signed up for that. He completely lied to me. And he is a habitual liar. I don't really know anything about him. What's actually true and what's not. Etc...


What choices? His sexual life is his business, not yours. 

That's his son. You can't keep him from his son. Whether you agree with his choices or not. And many, MANY men stay in the closet for a long time, and it takes the right catalyst to get them to come out of it. 

☆ The Flash ☆ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Quahog, VA, United States 7288 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting Klaus:
Judge much? 

It's "really scary the way people live their lives" yet you are pregnant by a married man and were also sleeping with your boss.

Getting an std check was good,not bc he's gay, but because it sounds like you are both promiscuous.



Just noticed that.

Pot calling the kettle black, much??

12wksnsingle Due April 29; United States 204 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting ♡ Frodolicious ♡:
Basically, from what I'm gathering from your post:

Gay=Bad
Gay=Pedo
Gay-Unsafe
Gay=STD loaded
Gay=Promiscuous
Gay=Inadequate
Transgender=Bad

Wow. You seriously need some therapy or something. 


I said that guy was promiscuous because I personally know him. He sleeps with basically every guy that is interested in him. I think he's inadequate simply because of what he's doing to his own family. I don't think transgender people are bad though. I actually feel really bad for her. I was just explaining why he was married. Neither is being gay but I'd have not been with him if I knew he liked men nor would I have if I knew what he was doing to his own potential marriage.

☆ The Flash ☆ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Quahog, VA, United States 7288 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting 12wksnsingle:

I said that guy was promiscuous because I personally know him. He sleeps with basically every guy that is interested in him. I think he's inadequate simply because of what he's doing to his own family. I don't think transgender people are bad though. I actually feel really bad for her. I was just explaining why he was married. Neither is being gay but I'd have not been with him if I knew he liked men nor would I have if I knew what he was doing to his own potential marriage.


You wouldn't have been with him if you knew he was gay, but you have no qualms sleeping with a married man? 

Giiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirl. 38 Your priorities are messed up. 

Oh, and maybe his wife is having it rough because she figured out her husband has been sleeping around. So, you helped in making her life hell. But you feel BAD for her? Not bad enough to not sleep with her husband. 

12wksnsingle Due April 29; United States 204 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting Klaus:
Judge much? 

It's "really scary the way people live their lives" yet you are pregnant by a married man and were also sleeping with your boss.

Getting an std check was good,not bc he's gay, but because it sounds like you are both promiscuous.



He actually lied to me about that as well I found out he's been planing to marry her awhile before and that many at my job had congratulated him. He made me believe he was not with her any longer.

I'm not promiscuous. I have only had a few sexual partners. It was not a smart idea to have a relationship with someone I worked with I realize that was a huge mistake and I won't do that again.

12wksnsingle Due April 29; United States 204 posts
Dec 31st '14

Quoting Bentley's Mommy <3:
You got tested specifically because he sex'd a man? Because having sex with a man means you caught something? Lolololl.




No I didn't get tested because of that I got tested shortly after I got pregnant. And I was clean. I want to get tested again to make sure. I'm not homophobic I could care less I'm way more neutral. It's just everything has become too much.maybe when he grows up and matures more things can work.

☆ The Flash ☆ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Quahog, VA, United States 7288 posts
Dec 31st '14

So, a month ago you'd had no contact with him and he wanted you to abort, but now he's supporting your decision??