Double Jeopardy 1 child; 1 angel baby; Seattle, WA, United States 19389 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I'm not really an option anymore. Our baby which is tied to both of us has made him/her (in turn, me) a priority and a permanent person in his life.


No. You're not a priority to him. Never will be. If he chooses to be in the baby's life then the baby will be a priority to him, not you. Get it straight home girl. You need to learn to live in reality, not your little dream world.

♡KRT♡ Due October 21 (girl); 1 child; United States 725 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I'm not really an option anymore. Our baby which is tied to both of us has made him/her (in turn, me) a priority and a permanent person in his life.


The baby he paid to abort right?

°•♡Alice♡•° TTC since Jun 2013; 1 angel baby; Wonderland, VA, United States 3693 posts
Nov 10th '14

I think I'd just slip my ultrasound to her and let her figure it out lol. 

user banned 2 kids; I'm Hiding in, NY, United States 10528 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I'm not really an option anymore. Our baby which is tied to both of us has made him/her (in turn, me) a priority and a permanent person in his life.


Nope not even close. He can be a part of the baby's life if he so chooses. He ain't got shit to do with yo ass 

Kailea Michelle TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Sarasota, FL, United States 1012 posts
Nov 10th '14

Grabbing my popcorn :)

user banned Due June 19; TTC since Sep 2014; USA, US, United States 686 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting P&H +1:
He goes back to you because you let him. If you said no, he'd just find someone else instead. He isn't going to leave her for you. Your his easy option. He still even tells you he doesn't want a child. When the baby comes, I bet he doesn't come to see you anymore, because he won't want to have to play daddy


I've said no, many times and he still talks to me and cares about me. I know about this stuff. I go to bed every night telling myself I'M DONE, NO MORE and yet I'm back where I left and I hate it. My cousins who I've told about him and his infidelity are begging me to leave him and stop but it's not that easy. I've tried, I'm still trying and my last hope is the baby. He doesn't have to marry me, or be with me (I would love that though) but I want him to acknowledge our child and me as the child's mother. I'm only 9 weeks pregnant and when I tell him I didn't get the abortion next week, he'll have a few months to prepare. If he decides that he doesn't want anything to do with us, then I'll take the legal approach and raise my child on my own.

Kailea Michelle TTC since May 2014; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Sarasota, FL, United States 1012 posts
Nov 10th '14

Tbh, I think this chick (even if it a chick, we don't know) is looking for attention. I don't even believe the story. All this is drama seeking attention is quite pathetic. But if you really are pregnant by trapping this dude, I feel sorry for you and for that child. 

Pumpkin King 4 kids; Halloweentown, .., United States 7539 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I've said no, many times and he still talks to me and cares about me. I know about this stuff. I go to bed every night telling myself I'M DONE, NO MORE and yet I'm back where I left and I hate it. My cousins who I've told about him and his infidelity are begging me to leave him and stop but it's not that easy. I've tried, I'm still trying and my last hope is the baby. He doesn't have to marry me, or be with me (I would love that though) but I want him to acknowledge our child and me as the child's mother. I'm only 9 weeks pregnant and when I tell him I didn't get the abortion next week, he'll have a few months to prepare. If he decides that he doesn't want anything to do with us, then I'll take the legal approach and raise my child on my own.


Even if he chooses to acknowledge the child, he does NOT have to acknowledge you.  At all.

user banned Due June 19; TTC since Sep 2014; USA, US, United States 686 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting Ⓞoℊiℯ ℬooℊiℯ:

He can be involved with the baby and not you if he wants.


I'd be okay with that. If he's involved with the baby then he's acknowledging that I'm the baby's mom. And any stand up father would want to have a good relationship with his child's mom and I believe that he'll be a stand up father

Pumpkin King 4 kids; Halloweentown, .., United States 7539 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I'd be okay with that. If he's involved with the baby then he's acknowledging that I'm the baby's mom. And any stand up father would want to have a good relationship with his child's mom and I believe that he'll be a stand up father


What do you even mean by that?  When a woman has a baby there's generally no question as to who it's mother is...

:)mommyandmore(: 2 kids; Dayton, TX, United States 1943 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I've said no, many times and he still talks to me and cares about me. I know about this stuff. I go to bed every night telling myself I'M DONE, NO MORE and yet I'm back where I left and I hate it. My cousins who I've told about him and his infidelity are begging me to leave him and stop but it's not that easy. I've tried, I'm still trying and my last hope is the baby. He doesn't have to marry me, or be with me (I would love that though) but I want him to acknowledge our child and me as the child's mother. I'm only 9 weeks pregnant and when I tell him I didn't get the abortion next week, he'll have a few months to prepare. If he decides that he doesn't want anything to do with us, then I'll take the legal approach and raise my child on my own.


I highly suggest seeking therapy for your personal issues. It's quite obvious you are so needy for attention that you don't care how you are treated. This dude is a POS and you are okay with it as long as you are still receiving some type of affection. That's really sad and unhealthy. Get help. Being this desperate is not cute or endearing. It's pathetic.

user banned Due June 19; TTC since Sep 2014; USA, US, United States 686 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting BαtMαɳ:


Exclamation You really have NO idea how this baby mama stuff works, bro. 

And I agree with OB. This reeks of bullshit. 


I don't? I know some people that have multiple babies with their baby daddy that was in separate relationships. I know some people that have broken up their baby's dad's relationships by telling the girlfriend she was pregnant again meaning they were still f**king around. It happens.

Pumpkin King 4 kids; Halloweentown, .., United States 7539 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I don't? I know some people that have multiple babies with their baby daddy that was in separate relationships. I know some people that have broken up their baby's dad's relationships by telling the girlfriend she was pregnant again meaning they were still f**king around. It happens.


You are manipulative and selfish.  Gross.

:)mommyandmore(: 2 kids; Dayton, TX, United States 1943 posts
Nov 10th '14

Quoting CollegeGirl ♡ #9:

I'd be okay with that. If he's involved with the baby then he's acknowledging that I'm the baby's mom. And any stand up father would want to have a good relationship with his child's mom and I believe that he'll be a stand up father


What in the hell makes you think that? Are you blind or simply in denial? This punk cheated on you, is still cheating on his girlfriend, is immature, controlling and wants you to abort your child. Why do you keep insisting he's a great guy? Obviously he is not and the sooner you realize it, the better. You seriously need a reality check.

ChibsTelford Empire, AL, United States 398 posts
Nov 10th '14

OP, not only are you psychotic, desperate, and have 0% self respect, you're f**king nasty too.