Cheated on anniversary day user banned
Jun 24th '14

The father of my unborn baby is married, claimed to be separated but I've found out that  he's not. i've always maintained that my kids have the same father because my fiance forgave me even though we weren't together at the time and he will step up to the plate with our little girl. Anyways, i found out in march that he wasnt separated at the time he knocked me up from snooping on his wife's facebook. In fact, they had just celebrated their TENTH anniversary on the 7th of this month around the same time that he was texting me non stop and i met up with him. He told me he wanted to see sonograms of the baby so I met up with him and we ended up hanging out for that whole day. I went on facebook this morning and again snooped and saw that they had celebrated their anniversary that day. His wife had pics of their wedding and everything and all her family members were congratulating him. i just sent him a bunch of messages calling him a low down dirty scum n***a for what he did and Im so embarrassed and ashamed that i let him keep playing me and his wife like this. His wife is on facebook raving about this man and what he does for her and their family and here I am pregnant with this p***e o* s**t's baby. I want to tell her so bad that her husband is scum and we're having a baby. Should i do it? Im not expecting anything from him because my fiance has already started claiming the baby as his but I want her to know what's she married to so should i?

Dont judge me because I've already judged myself pretty hard 

αͷtͷmnαƪ Hogwarts, .., United Kingdom 77414 posts
Jun 24th '14

I would let her know. How long were you and your fiance separated fore before you met him?

goatfajitas Due September 16; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; dirty 5 thirty, CA, United States 4013 posts
Jun 24th '14

I'm not one to cause drama, but, if I was that man's wife, I would want to know. 

bia. 4 kids; ., ., Portugal 102643 posts
Jun 24th '14

f**k yes I would tell her, wouldn't you want to know if your husband was f**king around, and made a baby with another woman? 

Mrs.Hart 'IBakeBoysOnly Due May 7 (boy); 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Michigan 3771 posts
Jun 24th '14

I'd tell her before she finds out on her own. This way will be easier and it's always best for the person to know.

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29912 posts
Jun 24th '14

If you don't want him to have a part of the babies life I prob wouldn't say anything. What happens if she forgives him and they decide they want to share custody of the baby? If that's something you don't want to happen and you want to just have your bf sign her bc then leave it be and walk away. Otherwise be prepared for the drama that will head your way. 

user banned Due October 23 (girl); 2 kids; British Columbia 384 posts
Jun 24th '14

Quoting мɑkɑnɑni:
I would let her know. How long were you and your fiance separated fore before you met him?



We were on and off a lot after the birth of our 2nd son but I think that our longest break was from June 2013 to Feb 2014 and that's when i met him. 

Nicola. 2 kids; Manton, MI, United States 13426 posts
Jun 24th '14

Yes because If I were the wife, I would want to know. 

I would get some text, messages and/or emails together. Just so you aren't contacting her out of the blue with accusations that you cannot back up. Give her some proof when you contact her.

That is pretty shitty.

Hasta Luego Click Bait 3 kids; 7 angel babies; I'll Never Tell..., WI, United States 4198 posts
Jun 24th '14

I would tell her. I absolutely would want to k ow if my husband cheated and fathered another child!!

αͷtͷmnαƪ Hogwarts, .., United Kingdom 77414 posts
Jun 24th '14

Quoting ChristinaLynne:
If you don't want him to have a part of the babies life I prob wouldn't say anything. What happens if she forgives him and they decide they want to share custody of the baby? If that's something you don't want to happen and you want to just have your bf sign her bc then leave it be and walk away. Otherwise be prepared for the drama that will head your way. 



That's not her decision. It's his baby, too. He has a right to be a parent to the baby and to be involved in its life.

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29912 posts
Jun 24th '14

Quoting BαtMαɳ:
I would definitely let her know. Try your best to keep from bashing the a*****e, give her the facts straight and let him sort out the mess.


I agree with this though. If you do it just stick to facts. Don't bash him also be prepared for what she's gonna say at first. It's not going to be nice to you. 

MinionMaker 1 child; ., LA, United States 871 posts
Jun 24th '14

She deserves to know. 

user banned Due October 23 (girl); 2 kids; British Columbia 384 posts
Jun 24th '14

Ok. First i'll ask my fiance what he thinks about it too so he can support me if and when shit pops off. 

ChristinaLynne 3 kids; Pancake, TX, United States 29912 posts
Jun 24th '14

Quoting мɑkɑnɑni:


That's not her decision. It's his baby, too. He has a right to be a parent to the baby and to be involved in its life.


He knows that the baby exists so how is that stopping him? I didn't say he didn't have a right to parent his child. She made it seem like she didn't want him to be a part of it and kept saying her fiancé would be daddy. So she needs to be prepared for all the what ifs that could happen which is why I said it. 

user banned 2 kids; I'm Hiding in, NY, United States 10528 posts
Jun 24th '14

Why are you hanging out with him for an entire day, while you're engaged? 

Tell his wife if you want. Then when the baby is born what are you going to do? I'm sure she will want proof (DNA test) and then you can't just go and put your fiances name on that child's birth certificate.