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Thanx user banned
Apr 10th '14

Got my answer

Ronnie RadKat 4 kids; Arizona 23349 posts
Apr 10th '14

The next step is following through on the threat/ ultimatum 

user banned -, -, United Kingdom 75061 posts
Apr 10th '14

Pack your stuff and leave. 

Thus far, you've shown you use empty threats. He knows you won't be serious until you actually do something about it.

Ultimatums don't keep a man. 

user banned Nassau, BA, Bahamas 5125 posts
Apr 10th '14

I would like to think you're not the gold digger we all think you are. If you're seriously unhappy and he isn't changing, get outta there. You live once and pregnancy isn't a reason to stay with someone you aren't happy with.

ElleCole+triplets Due June 9 (girl); 5 kids; 3 angel babies; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 33265 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting lise. ෆ:
Pack your stuff and leave. 

Thus far, you've shown you use empty threats. He knows you won't be serious until you actually do something about it.

Ultimatums don't keep a man. 


Amen sista

Pole lizard Due July 1 (girl); 2 kids; My house, VA, United States 1611 posts
Apr 10th '14

Empty threats are useless. What exactly is your husband doing/not doing that you need to threaten him?

Neisha Sade Due July 30 (boy); 2 kids; ACWORTH, GA, United States 350 posts
Apr 10th '14

I agree with everyone else. You need to leave if you are unhappy. 

Pole lizard Due July 1 (girl); 2 kids; My house, VA, United States 1611 posts
Apr 10th '14
Quoting Mommy Sparky:
Children are not bargaining chips....


Exclamation

mommy_of_kalynn_n_zinnia Due April 14 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; United States 170 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting ♥ Tatiana..:
My husband is not responding to ultimatums anymore. I told him to get his shit together or I'm leaving and he'll never see his daughter again. That use to work but I think because I haven't actually followed through with it he doesn't take it serious anymore. I don't know what more to do except actually do it and show him that I mean business. What should be my next move?? Divorce? 


My ex husband did that but i was gettin beat n i told him stop or ill leave well it stopped for a week and then he hit me again id already had my oldest girl kalynn she was almost a yr old and i moved out n went to his moms n stayed a few days it drove him crazy he stopped for a long time the did it again so i packed up n left gotta divorce

Riley+Abby 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 2423 posts
Apr 10th '14

Well, it depends. What are the problems you have with him?

Your child should never be used as a bargaining chip, though. Unless he is abusive or criminal in his actions, you have no right to make that threat.

user banned Due December 13; 1 child; Colorado 489 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:
Ultimatims only work if you follow through. So yes, the next logical step is to do whatever you said you would. However, if you think there might be hope of reconsiliation, I wouldn't jump right to divorce. I might try living separately (while still together) or a trial separation altogether. And counselling...most definitely counselling to get to the root of the issues. 


We have been living separately but it's been so hard working and taking care of my baby. I've been begging him to do better but it's taking longer than I need. He isn't agreeing to counseling which is part of the reason why I left 

Riley+Abby 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 2423 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting Not Kayla:
I would sleep with my husbands best friend, but that is a hot topic with people on here. I don't want no trouble.


 See, I'd do that, but his best friend is such a weirdo...                                                  

user banned Due December 13; 1 child; Colorado 489 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting Ronnie RadKat:
The next step is following through on the threat/ ultimatum 


I will. I won't be answering any of his calls to see the baby for a while 

Riley+Abby 2 kids; Toronto, Ontario 2423 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting ♥ Tatiana..:

I will. I won't be answering any of his calls to see the baby for a while 


Oh, that's just lovely.

Is he abusive? Is he involved in anything criminal? Or are you just pissed off at him? Because if that's the case, then you have a serious problem.

user banned Due December 13; 1 child; Colorado 489 posts
Apr 10th '14

Quoting Not Kayla:

Do it. That's not trashy at all. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.


You're annoying