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Inlaws Owen'sMama14❤ 1 child; nonya, TN, United States 572 posts
Apr 4th '14

My SO came home tonight and told me his mother said she didnt like me. This is not a surprise at all. I'm quiet.at her house becauze i knew from the start she didnt like me. It pisses me off because ive never done or said anything for her to dislike. Im good to her son. She is intimidating and doesnt make me comfortable so i keep to myself. I could be the b***h she thinks I am and not let her see grandson but I will not stoop to her level. SO is also PO as well. I need her or any of his stuck up side of his family in my life. I assume she is mad because my SO "christian"step  g ma said something about being unmarried and having.sex and to her to mind her bussiness before i knew she was his step g ma

msmall89 United States 28 posts
Apr 4th '14

Funny. I too go through this situation. Like you I have never said anything or done anything disrespectful regardless of whats been said and done to me. My couselor the other day suggested I call his mother and ask her to meet with me in a couple of days that way you ask her about what her issues are while she has time to think about it and cant snap right at you ya know? Just a suggestion I have been dealing with this for a long time and its painful to go through it makes things very awkward.

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
Apr 4th '14

My mother in law doesn't like me and I am not fond of her either by the way she treats me. She is my husband's step mom, so he doesn't like her either, his real mother passed away when he was 14, and his dad shortly remarried and her children are very favored. She clashed a lot with my husband as a teenager, and I think she takes it out on me that she doesn't like my husband. She has told me she doesn't like me when I do nothing but try to be nice. We lived with them for a little bit and I was very pregnant with a 2 year old and always took care of the house work, while her real son's girlfriend did nothing, and go figure my mother in law adores her. I am in the process of cutting her out of my life. After living with her, she degraded me and I went into severe depression that I am still dealing with. They are welcome to see my kids ( not like they really do anyway) but my husband will have to be there because I refuse to constantly be reminded of how she made me feel. And that way she can't gossip about anything I say to the entire family! Seriously, other family members tell me things, omg...

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8124 posts
Apr 4th '14

My in laws don't like me. They said all kinds off awful things about me and our dd. They were terrible about our wedding. The great thing is they can't figure out why on earth I don't like them?! I personally no longer care. I'm not in competition with dh's parents. Last time his mom was really rude I told her well you can't pick your family, but you can pick your spouse. Dh picked me not you. 

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting Boobo&bugs:
My in laws don't like me. They said all kinds off awful things about me and our dd. They were terrible about our wedding. The great thing is they can't figure out why on earth I don't like them?! I personally no longer care. I'm not in competition with dh's parents. Last time his mom was really rude I told her well you can't pick your family, but you can pick your spouse. Dh picked me not you. 


Hey, I live in Duncan! Annoying SC in laws. 

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8124 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting thewarmth:

Hey, I live in Duncan! Annoying SC in laws. 


Lol! My in laws are Midwesterners! 

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting Boobo&bugs:

Lol! My in laws are Midwesterners! 


Awh man. 
Well trust me, redneck mils are baddddd

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8124 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting thewarmth:

Awh man. 
Well trust me, redneck mils are baddddd


Oh they maybe Midwestern but they are for sure rednecks! I had no idea rednecks had spread out so far lol.

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting Boobo&bugs:

Oh they maybe Midwestern but they are for sure rednecks! I had no idea rednecks had spread out so far lol.


That is so frightening. I love Simpsonville. I have an aunt and uncle live in one of those huge neighborhoods over there. 

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8124 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting thewarmth:

That is so frightening. I love Simpsonville. I have an aunt and uncle live in one of those huge neighborhoods over there. 


We've only been here for a year, but so far we're enjoying it. 

dreadluck Due September 3 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Canada 295 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting thewarmth:
My mother in law doesn't like me and I am not fond of her either by the way she treats me. She is my husband's step mom, so he doesn't like her either, his real mother passed away when he was 14, and his dad shortly remarried and her children are very favored. She clashed a lot with my husband as a teenager, and I think she takes it out on me that she doesn't like my husband. She has told me she doesn't like me when I do nothing but try to be nice. We lived with them for a little bit and I was very pregnant with a 2 year old and always took care of the house work, while her real son's girlfriend did nothing, and go figure my mother in law adores her. I am in the process of cutting her out of my life. After living with her, she degraded me and I went into severe depression that I am still dealing with. They are welcome to see my kids ( not like they really do anyway) but my husband will have to be there because I refuse to constantly be reminded of how she made me feel. And that way she can't gossip about anything I say to the entire family! Seriously, other family members tell me things, omg...



omg EXACT same situation with mine! I could have written that right down to the step mother/treats her kids better/loves her real sons gf ect. Can you imagine treating your children or their partners like that!?

thewarmth 3 kids; South Carolina 14438 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting dreadluck:


omg EXACT same situation with mine! I could have written that right down to the step mother/treats her kids better/loves her real sons gf ect. Can you imagine treating your children or their partners like that!?


Omg I know. If my husband had children before me, I would accept them as my own! Not to mention my husband's mother had just DIED. I have always stood up for her, even against my husband when he gets mad at her. Her own kids treat her horribly and I have stood up for her to them! And she doesn't like me. She took her son's gf out for dinner for her birthday and bought her some boots, they have never even gotten me a birthday card in the past 5 years I have been with my husband lol. 

Owen'sMama14❤ 1 child; nonya, TN, United States 572 posts
Apr 4th '14

She has been dead set on not liking me from the start. I've tried to talk and be sociable but when I do they her and her husband look at me like im a dumbass, they have some of subtle smart ass comment to say, or they just ignore me. I did have drama with my SO step dads mother, SO is not close to woman. He made a  sweet post on fb it was innocent we were not having sex at this point and she called me a wh**e. So yes I defended myself. I do not feel welcome or liked by any of his family I've meet .except 3 aunts.  I also feel like she doesnt give a shit im pregant with her sons first child and her grandson. He said she never ask to be sure everything is goin ok. I  honestly have no use for his family and do not plan to act like i do . When my child grows up and asks why I nevet go to nanas with him she can explain it. My SO said we should keep the baby away bit i wont sonk to her level bit she makw an effort to visit him instead SO bringing him to her. 

Boobo&bugs 2 kids; Simpsonville, South Carolina 8124 posts
Apr 4th '14

Quoting Stephanie Pardue:
She has been dead set on not liking me from the start. I've tried to talk and be sociable but when I do they her and her husband look at me like im a dumbass, they have some of subtle smart ass comment to say, or they just ignore me. I did have drama with my SO step dads mother, SO is not close to woman. He made a  sweet post on fb it was innocent we were not having sex at this point and she called me a wh**e. So yes I defended myself. I do not feel welcome or liked by any of his family I've meet .except 3 aunts.  I also feel like she doesnt give a shit im pregant with her sons first child and her grandson. He said she never ask to be sure everything is goin ok. I  honestly have no use for his family and do not plan to act like i do . When my child grows up and asks why I nevet go to nanas with him she can explain it. My SO said we should keep the baby away bit i wont sonk to her level bit she makw an effort to visit him instead SO bringing him to her. 


I finally realized after a few years that it wasn't actually me they didn't like. I could have been anyone. ANYONE!! And it would not have mattered. Thy we're going to hate anyone their son/brother brought home. At a certain point the problems are really all theirs and have nothing to do with you. I think your reache that point to. I will travel to see them once a year. They also live 8 hours away so I can get away with this. I would not spend more time than you want to with them. Just because they are family does not mean you need to have your child around them all the time.

Owen'sMama14❤ 1 child; nonya, TN, United States 572 posts
Apr 4th '14

She has been dead set on not liking me from the start. I've tried to talk and be sociable but when I do they her and her husband look at me like im a dumbass, they have some of subtle smart ass comment to say, or they just ignore me. I did have drama with my SO step dads mother, SO is not close to woman. He made a  sweet post on fb it was innocent we were not having sex at this point and she called me a wh**e. So yes I defended myself. I do not feel welcome or liked by any of his family I've meet .except 3 aunts.  I also feel like she doesnt give a shit im pregant with her sons first child and her grandson. He said she never ask to be sure everything is goin ok. I  honestly have no use for his family and do not plan to act like i do . When my child grows up and asks why I nevet go to nanas with him she can explain it. My SO said we should keep the baby away bit i wont sonk to her level bit she makw an effort to visit him instead SO bringing him to her.