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TOO overprotective? FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Oct 12th '12

granted, DD is only 4 1/2 months, i don't think my views will change. DH and i have agreed that we don't want anyone taking DD without one of us till she is old enough to tell us about it i.e. what she ate, if anyone spanked her, or touched her. does this seem unrealistic? with the exception of MIL watching her while we run errands (we live with MIL so its convenience and MIL knows our guidelines and follows them). my mother (and MANY others) say that when i say "no1 is taking her without me till she can fully talk", that my views will change when she gets around a yr old. that we'll be begging people to take her. i just don't get it... are we being too overprotective?

kr.r 1 child; Kansas City, MO, United States 8737 posts
Oct 12th '12

I don't think so, but maybe that's because I feel the same. Trust doesn't come easily or naturally for me.

user banned Due April 2; Georgia 7200 posts
Oct 12th '12

I feel the same way! The boys are 15 months old, and have been away from both SO & I at the same time twice.



1. When I got Mirena checked... Maybe a 45 minute trip all together (and SOs sister, a nurse watched them. They were 8 weeks old).



2. My friend & I ran to town to pick up some food, and left them with her mom. They were about 6 months old, not mobile, and it was during naptime.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55996 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" granted, DD is only 4 1/2 months, i don't think my views will change. DH and i have agreed that we don't ... [snip!] ... she gets around a yr old. that we'll be begging people to take her. i just don't get it... are we being too overprotective?"


I say no but I border helicopter parenting. lol



I don't leave my children with anyone but my immediate family. I REFUSE to leave them for any lenngth of time with my inlaws (I hate the monster in law and they wouldn't do as I asked anyway). I am a SAHM so I really don't have to worry about leaving them with anyone other than family and that is by my choice. My twins are now 4 and my son is 2. I have had a nanny but the girls were fully vocal by then and I was in the home 90% of the time. I had her because I was very ill and needed a hand with day to day activities.

October2011 Due August 5; 3 kids; Pennsylvania 8805 posts
Oct 12th '12

My son is almost a year old...nobody babysits him ..ever. im with him 24/7..i feel comfortable that way because I know his routine and nobody else does. (except dh of course) If my mom lived closer i'd trust her to watch him, but shes the only one i trust and shes not around.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
Oct 12th '12

i feel the same way. mil has been wanting to spank lo's hands since she was 6 months old. she hasnt gotten the balls to do it in my presence yet and i havent left her alone with her. im just waiting then b***h is getting a broken nose. again

Rita West TTC since Jun 2016; 2 kids; Auckland, New Zealand 7218 posts
Oct 12th '12

Wow that was something i hadn't even considered but you make a very good point... i don't trust either of our families, with the exception of my brother in law and his girlfriend, to pay attention to our guidelines on how we want our son raised, and was wondering how i'd approach the issue. that seems like a very sensible suggestion, what with the horror stories all over the news about child abuse and the like. i don't think it's overprotective at all, our job is to protect our children and if the way we do that offends people that's their problem. thanks for the suggestion! :-)

FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Oct 12th '12

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Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55996 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting SulleyNZ:" Wow that was something i hadn't even considered but you make a very good point... i don't trust either ... [snip!] ... job is to protect our children and if the way we do that offends people that's their problem. thanks for the suggestion! :-)"


At the end of the day, you are his parents. What you say goes period. Those who don't respect that don't get the privledge of enjoying the child. I told my monster in law that being a grandparent is a privledge and not a right. She didn't like that but, I don't care. lol

Heather Gmitter Due November 7 (boy); New Port Richey, Florida 21 posts
Oct 12th '12

I know.my son wont be going to a public daycare or being watched by.someone I do not personally know or trust until he can tell me if they were touching him. You cant trust people these days. Luckily my grandmother is retired and taking on the responcibility off watching him while I go back to work.

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55996 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting PooterButt'sMommy:" we let my parents take DD at about a month old (we were staying with them for a while and they were supposed ... [snip!] ... i weren't happy and agreed that until my mother learned to respect us as parents, she wouldn't take DD without me going too."


I don't let anyone drive my kids around except hubby and myself. I am a nervous nelly! lol

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting Not tellin:" At the end of the day, you are his parents. What you say goes period. Those who don't respect that don't ... [snip!] ... I told my monster in law that being a grandparent is a privledge and not a right. She didn't like that but, I don't care. lol"


ive had to tell her what i want goes end of story and she still runs her mouth. she actually told me that i cant breastfeed while dd has a fever. lol she had one for 4 days. what was i supposed to do let her starve. :roll:

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 3 kids; Colorado 21088 posts
Oct 12th '12

that isn't too overprotective. nobody watches my child unless they have my trust 100% & that is still rare.

FanGirl 2 kids; Tennessee 24395 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting SulleyNZ:" Wow that was something i hadn't even considered but you make a very good point... i don't trust either ... [snip!] ... job is to protect our children and if the way we do that offends people that's their problem. thanks for the suggestion! :-)"

glad to be of...help? lol. i've been told a lot of my thinking/choices with DD are too overprotective and unrealistic. i just tell them, "well, at least my kid will be safe, unharmed, and not kidnapped"

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55996 posts
Oct 12th '12
Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" ive had to tell her what i want goes end of story and she still runs her mouth. she actually told me ... [snip!] ... me that i cant breastfeed while dd has a fever. lol she had one for 4 days. what was i supposed to do let her starve. :roll:"


Why wouldn't you breastfeed while she has a fever? Breast milk is the best thing for a child while sick.