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CIO is better for your child? Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Jun 21st '12

This stems off a Facebook post I saw today.



It read:
"I don't think I will ever be able to do the "Cry-It-Out" method! My heart can't handle hearing my precious baby girl screaming and crying for her mommy. ....But I know it's for the best and both she and I will be happier in the long run."



So do you think CIO is for the best? Do you think it makes children (or parents) happier?



Do you think non-CIO children are spoiled or clingy?



I don't think so. I am strictly non-CIO. I have never let Jo just cry. And if she is crying for some reason, I'm holding her in my arms while she cries. I can't see how anyone can ignore their child while he/she is crying, especially when they're calling for you.
Jo is one of the happiest kids I know and she has never CIO before.

Kimb3rly 827 1 child; Buckeye, Arizona 4857 posts
Jun 21st '12

if he gets a booboo and cries i'll comfort him, but if he was bad and doing it because he didnt get his way, then he can cry to me all he wants...after a point i will calm him down though....it works for me

1inpink3inblue Due December 7 (boy); 3 kids; Switzerland 13391 posts
Jun 21st '12

I CIO when it comes to bed time, but not before 6 months. After a couple of weeks they don't cry when you put them to bed though. If one of my kids is crying for another reason then I hold them.

DaniellaEllaElla Due August 5 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Greenville, NC, United States 15131 posts
Jun 21st '12

I believe it varies from child to child.

MaMa x4 ✌ Due January 19; 3 kids; Japan 1225 posts
Jun 21st '12

Hell no. The only time I will "ignore" my child crying, is during a temper tantrum. Even then, he'll get a love so he knows Mommy still loves him.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Jun 21st '12

we practice a modified cry it out. It works for us, and I do think in the long run it's better. I don't ignore her needs. DD is an incredibly happy child and smiles all the time, she is not lacking nurture.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Jun 21st '12
Quoting Joshie's Mama!:" if he gets a booboo and cries i'll comfort him, but if he was bad and doing it because he didnt get his ... [snip!] ... because he didnt get his way, then he can cry to me all he wants...after a point i will calm him down though....it works for me"


Yeah I take back my original statement. I do let Jo cry when has been bad, but never "just because". But I'm like you, if she cries over a certain amount of time I'll calm her down and talk to her about why she got in trouble.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Jun 21st '12
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" I CIO when it comes to bed time, but not before 6 months. After a couple of weeks they don't cry when you put them to bed though. If one of my kids is crying for another reason then I hold them."


The child the Facebook post refers to is 5 months old.

Kimb3rly 827 1 child; Buckeye, Arizona 4857 posts
Jun 21st '12
Quoting Minion:" Yeah I take back my original statement. I do let Jo cry when has been bad, but never "just because". ... [snip!] ... But I'm like you, if she cries over a certain amount of time I'll calm her down and talk to her about why she got in trouble."


yep exactly!

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Jun 21st '12
Quoting A❤T=P[Bun in th Ov:" we practice a modified cry it out. It works for us, and I do think in the long run it's better. I don't ... [snip!] ... run it's better. I don't ignore her needs. DD is an incredibly happy child and smiles all the time, she is not lacking nurture."

What is a modified CIO?

My Little Bessie 4 kids; 2 angel babies; United Kingdom 27582 posts
Jun 21st '12

I know for my kids once they reached 2 then CIO was the only way to get them to go to bed and go to sleep. I think it varies from family to family. My son is 18 months old and sometimes if I put him down when he is over tired he will cry for a few minutes and then go to sleep, most of the time he has stopped before I even reach the bottom of the stairs. It works for us, all of my kids happily sleep with the light off, in fact my 2 year old (nearly 3) will shout at me to turn the light off if I don;t do it straight away and they all sleep through the night with no problems. If they have a nightmare and wake up crying I go in and comfort them, calm them and then leave them to go back to sleep.

ෆ Mαgicαℓ ℓove ෆ 3 kids; Amsterdam, No, Netherlands 1662 posts
Jun 21st '12

My friend just told me that someone she knew, let her 12 month old
son cio for a loooong time. She said that he was crying
so long, that oxygen stopped going to his brain, and that
he has to learn everything he learned in the past 12 months
again. He just started walking before this happened too.. :$

Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
Jun 21st '12

It depends on the age of the child.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Jun 21st '12
Quoting Minion:" What is a modified CIO?"


pretty much how it sounds. Ferber has a lot of "rules" and guidelines. I do not follow them all or strictly adhere to the traditional CIO method.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
Jun 21st '12
Quoting Magical Love:" My friend just told me that someone she knew, let her 12 month old son cio for a loooong time. She said ... [snip!] ... that he has to learn everything he learned in the past 12 months again. He just started walking before this happened too.. :$"


Oh my god! That's awful! I didn't know that was possible. Another reason I'm glad I don't CIO.