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sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" I was saying it's impolite to ASK for gifts. Again, a shower is a gift giving event. Everyone and their ... [snip!] ... is traditionally for. It's unspoken yet understood. So to expect gifts at a traditionally gift giving event is a no brainer."


So are you against people throwing their own birthday parties too? You had said before they are different but both are traditionally gift giving events.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting sratrat:" So are you against people throwing their own birthday parties too? You had said before they are different but both are traditionally gift giving events. "


The MAIN thing in a birthday party is not gift giving, a shower that is (traditionaly) the main focus. Honestly, I think it's a bit rude to throw your own birthday party. I think it's rude to throw any event (with the exception of a wedding) where you are the guest of honor. It's very attention whorish.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" The MAIN thing in a birthday party is not gift giving, a shower that is (traditionaly) the main focus. ... [snip!] ... it's rude to throw any event (with the exception of a wedding) where you are the guest of honor. It's very attention whorish."


for a special day I think its ok to want a little attention. I am a very shy person who doesn't even like attention but on a special occasion I might. I think your view point takes the fun out of life a little. I can understand where your coming from but you should loosen up.

Ohgee Due October 1 (boy); 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Campbelltown, Australia 1035 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Jamie Josaphine. ♡:" I always thought you had a baby shower for your first kid.. and have always found it rude and selfish ... [snip!] ... be prepared for the negative side, people will think you don't need one since you have 3 others. All in all, its up to you hun!"


every child is different why doesnt the 2nd or 3rd baby deserve a baby shower??? its about the baby to be not the mummy.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting sratrat:" for a special day I think its ok to want a little attention. I am a very shy person who doesn't even ... [snip!] ... I think your view point takes the fun out of life a little. I can understand where your coming from but you should loosen up. "



LOL My parents banged etiquette into my head (even to the point of showing me how to properly make a guest bed :shock:) it's just my defualt setting.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Ohgee:" every child is different why doesnt the 2nd or 3rd baby deserve a baby shower??? its about the baby to be not the mummy."


It's about the baby but the baby's not here yet? :lol: Noooo, baby showers are for the mommy. If you want to celebrate the baby, wait until the baby is born :wink:

Ohgee Due October 1 (boy); 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Campbelltown, Australia 1035 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" It's about the baby but the baby's not here yet? :lol: Noooo, baby showers are for the mommy. If you want to celebrate the baby, wait until the baby is born :wink:"


i guess we all percieve baby showers differently. when i threw my baby showers they were never about me they were about the baby 2 be. that being said i didnt expect gifts for myself and never asked anyone for anything it was more of a celebration of the baby on its way. i never looked at it as a party for me.
although with my first i recieved twice the amount of gifts i recieved for my 2nd but thats cos i had 2 baby showers for my first and she was spoilt rotten.

Motherof 4 Due May 21 (girl); 3 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 10 posts
Mar 20th '11

I really appreciate everyone's opinions, I wasnt looking for anyone's approval. I really just wanted to see where others views were. I really just want to be able to experience a baby shower with my last child. The shower is going to be a family gathering, with a few close friends...about 20 ppl. Im really emotional with this pregnancy, bc Im away from my family, they live in GA and I stay in NC. So the majority of the guests will be members of my boyfriend's family.