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Koda&Kenzie&Kylie's Momm 19 kids; Moncton, New Brunswick 1137 posts
Mar 18th '11

I think its alright for you to throw your own.. I personally havent done so.. but I've also not had a baby shower.. with my first 2 there were complications restricting me from attending.. however with this one I intend on having one... this is my "surprise" baby because my tubes were tied I do not need gifts but the would be welcomed .. I mean I did give all my stuff away as I thought I was done having kids

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting sratrat:" if someone came to your shower without your gift how would you react? would you make them leave? requiring gifts is way more tacky than having a part in throwing your own shower:?"


People did come to my shower without gifts. Gifts' aren't REQUIRED but are EXPECTED at showers.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" People did come to my shower without gifts. Gifts' aren't REQUIRED but are EXPECTED at showers."


so you expected gifts. you dont think thats tacky?

babygagalover Due April 14; Kentucky 11 posts
Mar 19th '11

i throw mine with my hubbys help and honestly it was soo funn. best thing i suggest is making food that requires the oven to avoid standing so long u dont want ur feet to hurt before ur guess arrive i opted to buying sandwhichs from subways my hubby bought hawiann punch added limeade and spirte with ice chips , perfect mix lol,

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting sratrat:" so you expected gifts. you dont think thats tacky?"



Expecting to recieve gifts at a baby shower? Uh, no, LOL, that's what showers are FOR. Especially since I never conveyed in any way that I was expecting it.

It's like expecting to hear music at a concert :lol:

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" Expecting to recieve gifts at a baby shower? Uh, no, LOL, that's what showers are FOR. Especially ... [snip!] ... Especially since I never conveyed in any way that I was expecting it. It's like expecting to hear music at a concert :lol:"

Actually it's a little more like throwing people out of your birthday party because they didn't bring you anything. At least they showed up, huh? And if you didn't 'convey in any way' that you were expecting gifts, how could you expect them? I mean, you didn't tell anyone to bring gifts, so how could they know?

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" Actually it's a little more like throwing people out of your birthday party because they didn't bring ... [snip!] ... you were expecting gifts, how could you expect them? I mean, you didn't tell anyone to bring gifts, so how could they know?"


Baby showers, historically, are to bring gifts to a new mother for the baby. It's something everyone knows, it's tradition. Baby showers are gift-giving events. There is NO way around this.



"Unsurprisingly, the celebration of a new child has been popular for time immemorial. Through the years, it has always been tradition for friends and family to bring handmade gifts to the new family. "
http://www.babybunch.com/content/baby-shower-planning/history



No matter what the baby shower history is, the baby shower of today is a supportive and generous event toward new or expectant parents. With all the current trends toward "unisex" items, it is hard to buy the wrong thing!
http://ezinearticles.com/?Baby-Shower-History&id=300331



The modern baby shower started after WWII during the baby boom era and evolved with the consumer ideology of 1950s and 1960s. In other words, baby showers in the mid-twentieth century not only served an economic function by providing the mother-to-be and her home with material goods that lessened the financial burden of infant care, but purchased

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" Baby showers, historically, are to bring gifts to a new mother for the baby. It's something everyone ... [snip!] ... opens her gifts and passes them around for her guests to view (Clarke 2004). http://www.randomhistory.com/2008/11/01_baby.html"

Okay, but you just tried to make yourself sound so unselfish by stating that you didn't tell anyone you wanted gifts. Then you tell everyone here that you expected gifts BECAUSE you didn't tell anyone you expected them. I'm sorry if I'm being dense here, but WTF!?!?

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" Okay, but you just tried to make yourself sound so unselfish by stating that you didn't tell anyone you ... [snip!] ... here that you expected gifts BECAUSE you didn't tell anyone you expected them. I'm sorry if I'm being dense here, but WTF!?!?"


I was saying it's impolite to ASK for gifts. Again, a shower is a gift giving event. Everyone and their brother knows what a baby shower is traditionally for. It's unspoken yet understood. So to expect gifts at a traditionally gift giving event is a no brainer.

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" I was saying it's impolite to ASK for gifts. Again, a shower is a gift giving event. Everyone and their ... [snip!] ... is traditionally for. It's unspoken yet understood. So to expect gifts at a traditionally gift giving event is a no brainer."

And yet, a person shouldn't 'expect' things to be handed to them. I mean, I think there's some merit to both sides of this argument, but you're simply not making sense. You're better than people that specify what they want, because you didn't TELL people you expected gifts? Doesn't that just set yourself up for disappointment anyways? lol

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" And yet, a person shouldn't 'expect' things to be handed to them. I mean, I think there's some merit ... [snip!] ... they want, because you didn't TELL people you expected gifts? Doesn't that just set yourself up for disappointment anyways? lol"


I said a person shouldn't expect someone to throw them a shower :lol: I never said you should expect gifts at a shower :lol: I never said I was better than anyone, I was stating what is traditionaly proper etiquette.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 19th '11

And, no, at my showers while I epected to recieve gifts as it is customary at a baby shower that there are gifts: I was neither dissapointed in the gifts that I recieved (which, btw, I didn't register for :wink:) nor was I dissapointed that some people didn't bring a gift.

Ohgee Due October 1 (boy); 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Campbelltown, Australia 1035 posts
Mar 19th '11

i threw my own baby showers nothing wrong with it in my opinion....

Jamie Josaphine. ♡ TTC since Jul 2010; Iowa 459 posts
Mar 19th '11

I always thought you had a baby shower for your first kid.. and have always found it rude and selfish for someone to have multiple showers for more than one baby. You've never thrown one so I think that's okay, just be prepared for the negative side, people will think you don't need one since you have 3 others. All in all, its up to you hun!

lilsoph 2 kids; 1 angel baby; somewhere, MI, United States 4537 posts
Mar 19th '11

OP i didnt have a shower with my first but i wouldnt throw myself one... if someone decides to throw me one, which i doubt will happen, then YAY i will be the happiest girl ever... but i wouldnt go out of my way to throw myself a baby shower JMO