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mommyof4+1! 5 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 587 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" do what makes you happy. I think the majority of people who say the are tacky or rude either have had ... [snip!] ... family and friends and maybe get some gifts. I dont care if people think its not good etiquette to be a part of throwing it. "


agreed

Motherof 4 Due May 21 (girl); 3 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 10 posts
Mar 18th '11

I appreciate all the comments, but some are just rude! Its really not about the gifts I have everything thats needed. I just want to experience a babyshower...is that soooo wrong?

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 18th '11

Will someone please look up Emily Post? I'm on my phone and can't link. But seriously...

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" Will someone please look up Emily Post? I'm on my phone and can't link. But seriously..."


I really dont care what some lady that died 50 years ago thinks about baby showers lol



eta: I found this online. I think it brings up some good points on how times change, so what is considered appropriate will also change. http://www.101babyshowerideas.com/etiquette-emily-post.htm

CARIBOO 1 child; Washington 1044 posts
Mar 18th '11

I think people that think having a baby shower for you 2nd 3rd and 4th child is tacky and rude are stuck up and snobby it's really how you look...I've never been to a shower that was gift mandatory but I always brung one.One of my friends had 3 kids in 4 years and had a shower for all of them..I brought a gift to all of them....I think of baby showers more as birth day parties really so is it tacky to throw your child a birthday party every year..I don't agreed I don't think a baby shower is for the first time mom and blah blah blah it's an event about the baby for the baby not the mom JMO.And if no one can throw the shower for you go ahead and throw it. Who cares

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 18th '11

Wow it's so super great to be attacked... Anyways, Emily Post has long been the go-to person for etiquette issues, which is exactly what this question was; a question of etiquette. I quote 'Is it appropriate to...' kthxbai.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" Wow it's so super great to be attacked... Anyways, Emily Post has long been the go-to person for etiquette ... [snip!] ... etiquette issues, which is exactly what this question was; a question of etiquette. I quote 'Is it appropriate to...' kthxbai."


no one attacked you lol

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 18th '11

I love how that's the only part you have a comeback for.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" I love how that's the only part you have a comeback for."


i added something to my last post. Go back and read. Thats not the only thing I have a comeback for. Look back through the whole discussion. Good job jumping in and getting all butt hurt over nothing.

CARIBOO 1 child; Washington 1044 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" I love how that's the only part you have a comeback for."

Etiquette in 1922 is irrelevant:cry:

TwoTimesThePink♥ 34 kids; Washington 15367 posts
Mar 18th '11

I threw my baby shower for my twins. I don't see any problem with it.

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 18th '11

Who's butthurt? I'm having fun. I love the rush of a good debate.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting BubbyAndShmee:" Who's butthurt? I'm having fun. I love the rush of a good debate."


you said you were getting attacked lol sounded a little butt hurt to me. If you want a debate you should put more thought into your posts. Maybe go back and read what people have said already. Or go back to when I had quoted you. I added a link you might find interesting.

CARIBOO 1 child; Washington 1044 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" I appreciate all the comments, but some are just rude! Its really not about the gifts I have everything thats needed. I just want to experience a babyshower...is that soooo wrong?"

It will be stressful to plan it yourself but really I did mine anyway because my family are terrible planners. but you deserve to have a day to to celebrate your daughter...I think it all depends on the people and their attitude as I said..I went to 3 baby showers in 4 years for the same friend and I wasn't thinking she wanted the gifts or couldn't provide..I was just thinking I'd be there to celebrate her kids lives with her.And bring something for the baby not once did I think of it as a gift for the mother to be honest.It's not wrong it's your last baby and a GIRL after 3 boys.Have fun!

SlinksterCool TTC since Jul 2011; 17 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 2070 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" you said you were getting attacked lol sounded a little butt hurt to me. If you want a debate you should ... [snip!] ... back and read what people have said already. Or go back to when I had quoted you. I added a link you might find interesting. "

I did read it, and thank you for educating me, but I still think that throwing your own shower is a little tacky except in small circles, like family only. It just screams 'give me stuff' to me... That's just me though, and to each their own. Sorry, kidding and butthurt sound a lot alike without any intonation.