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Motherof 4 Due May 21 (girl); 3 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 10 posts
Mar 18th '11

First of all, my family is EXCITED about the new addition, so that doesnt have anything to do with it. So all of the rude and off the wall comments are not necessary. It surprises how cruel people can be these days. FYI a friend is helping me by hosting it, but im just purchasing and preparing everything. Its not like im asking any of you SOBs to help with anything!

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" First of all, my family is EXCITED about the new addition, so that doesnt have anything to do with it. ... [snip!] ... by hosting it, but im just purchasing and preparing everything. Its not like im asking any of you SOBs to help with anything!"


Dont listen to them. You deserve to enjoy a shower. Its an exciting part of pregnancy and to have to miss out because someone has a stuck up opinion is silly. I missed out with my first so if I have another I'll be helping out with my own.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McButterpants:</b>" For your fourth child?! Uh, yeah, ... [snip!] ... that this is my last child, so i havent had the experience of having a baby shower, so I think your comment was extremely rude."


Doesn't matter it's tacky. Sorry, it is. You can be tacky if you want to, though.

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" First of all, my family is EXCITED about the new addition, so that doesnt have anything to do with it. ... [snip!] ... by hosting it, but im just purchasing and preparing everything. Its not like im asking any of you SOBs to help with anything!"


Cry me a river.

3Air Force Brats 3 kids; Portales, NM, United States 1538 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" First of all, my family is EXCITED about the new addition, so that doesnt have anything to do with it. ... [snip!] ... by hosting it, but im just purchasing and preparing everything. Its not like im asking any of you SOBs to help with anything!"




I'm not being a b***h, but you asked for opinions, and you recieved them. You shouldn't ask a question then get pissed off because people have answered you.

Obviously, you YOURSELF had doubts about if it was truly okay to throw your own shower based off the title of this thread. So why get pissed off, when some of us are indeed letting you know that we don't think it's okay.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" did you have a baby shower? if so how was your experience with it? I'm really just curious becasue mine ... [snip!] ... the experience. The OP is on her 4th child. Why should she miss out on this? I think its mean to think she doesn't deserve it. "


I had two with my first, my mom threw one my step mom threw the other. The one my stepmom threw sucked the one my mom threw was awesome. It's not about what she "deserves". A shower is something thrown for you, a gift, not something you're entitled to just because you got yourself knocked up for a fourth time.

Motherof 4 Due May 21 (girl); 3 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 10 posts
Mar 18th '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:</b>" If it's a gifts optional, or gifts not necessary shower, then yes. But I don't think it is...."</blockquote>



Exactly how do you know that...did u plan it? Its not about the gifts I would just like to experience a baby shower with my last child, is that such a crime?

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" First of all, my family is EXCITED about the new addition, so that doesnt have anything to do with it. ... [snip!] ... by hosting it, but im just purchasing and preparing everything. Its not like im asking any of you SOBs to help with anything!"



You're the one who asked for opinions. Don't get all butthurt because not everyone agrees with you.

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:</b>" If it's a gifts optional, or gifts ... [snip!] ... u plan it? Its not about the gifts I would just like to experience a baby shower with my last child, is that such a crime?"


You asked for opinions. And no, I didn't and wouldn't plan my own shower lmao.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:</b>" If it's a gifts optional, or gifts ... [snip!] ... u plan it? Its not about the gifts I would just like to experience a baby shower with my last child, is that such a crime?"



A crime against ettiquete, yeah.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" I had two with my first, my mom threw one my step mom threw the other. The one my stepmom threw sucked ... [snip!] ... something thrown for you, a gift, not something you're entitled to just because you got yourself knocked up for a fourth time."


how would you feel if no one wanted to throw you one? I know what that feels like to have people really not care and it sucks. I think every mother deserves to enjoy their pregnancy and if a shower is something she feels is important she should do it. Who ever said you cant give yourself a gift :) I think all showers are gift optional anyway so its just like any other party where gifts may or may not be given.

Motherof 4 Due May 21 (girl); 3 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 10 posts
Mar 18th '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommyof4!:</b>" First, I would say that throwing your own shower isn't the way it should work, BUT, if this is your 4th ... [snip!] ... ever thrown you a shower.. I'd do it, and be proud!!! I wish you'd had one with your boys, but you deserve it even more now!!"</blockquote>




Thanks I really appreciate that, people are really being rude an its starting to really hurt my feelings.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" how would you feel if no one wanted to throw you one? I know what that feels like to have people really ... [snip!] ... a gift :) I think all showers are gift optional anyway so its just like any other party where gifts may or may not be given. "


If no one wanted to throw me one I would assume no one would really be interested in coming either.



I have no issues with gift optional parties :D But traditional baby showers are to shower the mom with gifts, and if the mom is the host AND the guest of honor she's asking for gifts for herself. And that's rude.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" If no one wanted to throw me one I would assume no one would really be interested in coming either. ... [snip!] ... the mom with gifts, and if the mom is the host AND the guest of honor she's asking for gifts for herself. And that's rude."


if someone came to your shower without your gift how would you react? would you make them leave? requiring gifts is way more tacky than having a part in throwing your own shower:?

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Motherof 4:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommyof4!:</b>" First, I would say that throwing your own shower ... [snip!] ... Thanks I really appreciate that, people are really being rude an its starting to really hurt my feelings."


do what makes you happy. I think the majority of people who say the are tacky or rude either have had a shower thrown for them or don't really care about them. If its something you care about experiencing then theres nothing wrong with it. Theres so much worse things you can do in life. A baby shower is to celebrate a new life with family and friends and maybe get some gifts. I dont care if people think its not good etiquette to be a part of throwing it.