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..... . 1 child; Atlantic City, New Jersey 53 posts
Mar 18th '11

i think it depends on how far apart your children are and their gender. also if they are all with the same father then that can depend too. idk im with pregnant with my second and having a baby shower mainly because my ex's mom threw my last one and my ex won't give me any of my son's baby items..... but to each is own. every baby should be celebrated. if not a full blown baby shower at least a diaper shower or something small with gifts optional.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" If everyone was as excited as her, she wouldn't need to throw her own :twisted:"



Seriously, throwing your own shower is an act of "look at me!" desperation.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" Haha I know, I don't think thats really a reason, just being the devil's advocate."


lol i know. I dont mind a good debate. I think the OP should go for it. Have gifts be optional. Maybe throw it with a friend of hers and they can plan together.

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" i asked this question last time we spoke about this. What are your feelings on registries for baby showers, weddings etc? "


Like for multiple showers?
With your first, its fine.
If you wanna throw a party for your 2nd, 3rd, 18th, whatever.....then don't do a registry, tacky as hell, you should be happy you're getting presents no matter what they are.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting mrsUSAFwife:" I personally, would NOT attend a shower thrown for herself, by herself. I personally see NOTHING wrong ... [snip!] ... cake, cookies, sandwhiches..whatever) But I would NOT be attending a shower where the pregnant lady threw it herself. Sorry."


I agree. I don't reward rude and tacky behavior. And throwing a shower for your freakin' fourth kid is rude and tacky.

Stephrae :) TTC since Dec 2010; Illinois 259 posts
Mar 18th '11

wow are u serious?
well i think u should have one! its no ones choice but yours, and i dont think its tacky! its your first girl(: and your happy about it!! :)
Everyone on here are being rude, i saw do it! And i agree with some other posts, maybe have gifts optional, and ask a friend to help it for you
either way you should do it!

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" i asked this question last time we spoke about this. What are your feelings on registries for baby showers, weddings etc? "


I think they're fine BUT ONLY if someone ASKS you for the information. Registry information should never be included in an invite or given out without inquiry.

Motherof 4 Due May 21 (girl); 3 kids; Greensboro, North Carolina 10 posts
Mar 18th '11

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McButterpants:</b>" For your fourth child?! Uh, yeah, it's rude with your first child it's just absoloutly horribly tacky with your fourth."</blockquote>



I dont think its tacky at all, if you would have read the whole thing I believe I said that this is my last child, so i havent had the experience of having a baby shower, so I think your comment was extremely rude.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" Like for multiple showers? With your first, its fine. If you wanna throw a party for your 2nd, 3rd, ... [snip!] ... whatever.....then don't do a registry, tacky as hell, you should be happy you're getting presents no matter what they are."


yea, im not a big fan of them either way. I'm really curious what the other girl think...dont know her name lol. She thinks throwing your own is asking for gifts. So she should be against registries as well.

The Mrs 3 kids; Texas 2653 posts
Mar 18th '11

You plan your own kid's birthday party... why would their shower be an absolute no no and sooo different? Not everyone's birthday parties consist of super fun activities... some are just food and let's open presents. That seems more tacky than this would be. IMO it's more about the baby shower experience than the gifts... if those are even necessary. Looking back at my second child's baby book and seeing the empty section for "my baby shower" makes me kinda sad. It almost makes me want to fib for him ;)

3Air Force Brats 3 kids; Portales, NM, United States 1538 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" If everyone was as excited as her, she wouldn't need to throw her own :twisted:"


I don't agree with this. Everyone is SUPER excited about my baby, but I'm not having a shower, I'm on the other side of the country. How is someone supposed to throw me one?

( I don't care, I hate baby showers anyways, I hate being given gifts. Why should someone else buy clothes, diapers, ect for MY child...but I have NO issue buying stuff for other's babies, or going to baby showers? oxymoron? lol)

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting mrsUSAFwife:" I don't agree with this. Everyone is SUPER excited about my baby, but I'm not having a shower, I'm ... [snip!] ... diapers, ect for MY child...but I have NO issue buying stuff for other's babies, or going to baby showers? oxymoron? lol)"


If that's true for her, who would attend if she threw her own? Yes, I have an answer to everything!

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" I think they're fine BUT ONLY if someone ASKS you for the information. Registry information should never be included in an invite or given out without inquiry."


did you have a baby shower? if so how was your experience with it? I'm really just curious becasue mine was so horrible that I wouldn't even call it a baby shower. Thats why i plan on doing it myself with my mother or best friend next time. Its fun just to have the experience. The OP is on her 4th child. Why should she miss out on this? I think its mean to think she doesn't deserve it.

3Air Force Brats 3 kids; Portales, NM, United States 1538 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Stephrae :):" wow are u serious? well i think u should have one! its no ones choice but yours, and i dont think its ... [snip!] ... And i agree with some other posts, maybe have gifts optional, and ask a friend to help it for you either way you should do it!"


Everyone on here is NOT being rude. She asked for opinions and are getting them. Our opinions CAN'T stop her from throwing her own shower. LOL

3Air Force Brats 3 kids; Portales, NM, United States 1538 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" If that's true for her, who would attend if she threw her own? Yes, I have an answer to everything!"


Oh, I know what you are saying, but saying that no one is excited can be VERY wrong. Just saying that's all :P (good point though lol)