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Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" If it's your fourth kid, I don't think you should have one at all! But that's just my opinion."


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First girl or not.

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Pro~Love:" So the first child is more important than the others? To me baby showers are about celebrating the birth of another life... not about the gifts..."


If it's a gifts optional, or gifts not necessary shower, then yes. But I don't think it is....

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" If it's your fourth kid, I don't think you should have one at all! But that's just my opinion."


its her first shower though. She didnt have them with her 3 boys.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Pro~Love:" So the first child is more important than the others? To me baby showers are about celebrating the birth of another life... not about the gifts..."



If she wants to celebrate a new life, she can do so without it being a gift giving event (ie. a welcome home baby party). Showers are to shower the mother with gifts. There's no way around that.

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" its her first shower though. She didnt have them with her 3 boys. "


Yeah, which is odd....like why now?

♥JNC Due February 13; 1 child; Atlanta, Georgia 345 posts
Mar 18th '11

there is nothing wrong w/ throwing your own baby shower.. its just better to have someone else do it for you, so you can just sit back and relax, and enjoy you and your LO's special day!

*DuhLeetEd* fd, ny, United States 5390 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" If she wants to celebrate a new life, she can do so without it being a gift giving event (ie. a welcome home baby party). Showers are to shower the mother with gifts. There's no way around that."


In my family it's to shower the family with love. So it depends on how you look at it.

mommyof4+1! 5 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 587 posts
Mar 18th '11

First, I would say that throwing your own shower isn't the way it should work, BUT, if this is your 4th kid... and no one has ever thrown you a shower.. I'd do it, and be proud!!! I wish you'd had one with your boys, but you deserve it even more now!!

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Fatty McButterpants:" For your fourth child?! Uh, yeah, it's rude with your first child it's just absoloutly horribly tacky with your fourth."


lol here we are again in another baby shower debate:twisted: I'm well aware you think its tacky but why does the amount of children she has have to do with it?

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" Yeah, which is odd....like why now?"


maybe no one ever threw her one. So now, with her last child, shed like to have one.

The Mrs 3 kids; Texas 2653 posts
Mar 18th '11

Girl, if it's between this or no shower, do it! Everyone should get to experience a baby shower. And it's your first girl and it's been a while since you had a baby. Could your SO ask a friend/family member if they would help him throw one for you? That may be a little easier. But if that's not happening and you need/want a shower, go for it. Every baby needs some diapers :)

Mrs. Dexter Morgan 18 kids; Massachusetts 37806 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" lol here we are again in another baby shower debate:twisted: I'm well aware you think its tacky but why does the amount of children she has have to do with it? "


Honestly, here's my take -
You have a shower with your first because you are a 'new mom' and people shower you with gifts because its a new thing for you and very exciting.
When it's your fourth kid, its not at all exciting, you're obviously supporting 3 kids and can pay for your own baby shit.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59395 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting sratrat:" lol here we are again in another baby shower debate:twisted: I'm well aware you think its tacky but why does the amount of children she has have to do with it? "


:twisted: It's tacky period to throw your own shower, the ammount of children comes into play because it's no one else's responsibility to help provide for you continuing to pop out kids.

sratrat 1 child; Surprise, Arizona 13558 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting Mrs. Dexter Morgan:" Honestly, here's my take - You have a shower with your first because you are a 'new mom' and people ... [snip!] ... When it's your fourth kid, its not at all exciting, you're obviously supporting 3 kids and can pay for your own baby shit."


even with someones first they may be able to afford everything. So just becasue someone can afford it means they cant have a babyshower?

ChaCha ♥s Her Boys 67 kids; Arizona 1061 posts
Mar 18th '11
Quoting The Mrs:" Girl, if it's between this or no shower, do it! Everyone should get to experience a baby shower. And ... [snip!] ... may be a little easier. But if that's not happening and you need/want a shower, go for it. Every baby needs some diapers :)"


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Girl you need to put a foot up someone's butt and tell them that you deserve a baby shower and want someone to co-host it with you. That way you can split the cost. I'm sorry no one's offered to throw one for you! :(



Tips: Dollar Tree has a huge selection of colored plates, napkins, etc, so that's a nicely affordable option for your tableware.



They also have coordinating balloons, ribbon and streamers. So there's some of your decorations, too! They also have just about anything you'd need for baby shower games, so that's pretty cool too!



Party city has some seriously cute stuff, but it's so pricey. So if you've got a good quality printer, I'd design and print my own invitations to help cut costs there, too.



Walmart has affordable party subs. That's all my girlfriends and I use for baby showers/parties. A few of us will make a side or two, like pasta salad and provide some chips and dip. Aside from beverages, that's pretty much all you need by way of food (besides the cake!).



Ignore the haters and have yourself a long awaited, well deserved baby shower! Good luck mama! :)