stillbirth certificates kim661 TTC since Aug 2007; 2 kids; Missoula, Montana 187 posts
Jan 17th '08

I just got this story.....

Stephanie Gray keeps memories of her son, Noah, on a shelf in the family's Modesto apartment, complete with picture books, a plaque with little footprints and a candle that is often lit.
The only thing missing is a certificate acknowledging his birth. She and her husband, David, received only a death certificate after Noah was stillborn Sept. 21, 2002.
"We had dreams, hopes, everything for this baby, and in a blink of an eye, he was gone," Stephanie Gray said.
Under a new law, effective Jan. 1, parents of a stillborn can receive a type of birth certificate through a county office of vital records or the state Department of Vital Statistics.
California, which is calling the document a "Certificate of Still Birth," joined 20 other states that issue the documents to parents who request them. Formerly, any kind of birth certificate was denied these parents because the pregnancy did not result in a live birth.
In California, a fetus must be beyond 20 weeks of gestation for the parents to receive a certificate. The cost for that document is $20.
An estimated 26,000 stillbirths occur in the nation each year, with birth defects, infections or accidents with the umbilical cord among the most common causes. Often, all appears well within days of delivery.
Nurses couldn't hear heartbeat
Supporters of California's Missing Angels Act say the certificates are a tangible memento after a grieving mother. According to the Arizona-based Mothers in Sympathy and Support Foundation, which supported the laws in different states, the documents also are a genealogical record and help the parents to heal.
Gray, 25, said her first pregnancy was going well, then at six months she had episodes of premature labor pains. During each stay in the hospital, she was given drugs to stop labor and sent home, she said.
Everything appeared to be fine during a checkup three weeks before her due date. When she and David went to the hospital for the delivery two days later, however, nurses who put a monitor to her belly couldn't hear a heartbeat.
An ultrasound determined the boy had died.
"I just remember yelling and screaming; it was like an out-of-body experience," Stephanie Gray said. "It's like someone else stepped in, and I lost it."
Stephanie gave birth to the 5-pound, 14-ounce Noah at 12:40 a.m. and pulled herself together to spend precious time with him. For seven hours, the parents held Noah, caressed his brown hair, bathed him and dressed him.
Noah had his father's hair and chin dimple, and long fingers for playing the violin like his mother. Stephanie snipped a lock of his hair and took his footprints as keepsakes.
The cause of death was never known, although their doctor said the placenta was small and might have stopped providing oxygen.
When the funeral home gave the parents a death certificate, Stephanie said, her first thought was about getting a birth certificate. She called the hospital and was told she didn't qualify for one, she said.
In 2002, a state bill to officially acknowledge stillbirths failed to pass, because of fears it could weaken abortion rights and foul up the state's birth records.
Senate Bill 850, sponsored last year by state Sen. Abel Maldonado, R-Santa Maria, was amended to alleviate the concerns. The stillbirth certificates will be issued only to parents who ask for them and they are not counted as live births.
Parents need to request a form
Gray said she wrote letters to Gov. Schwarzenegger and state legislators, urging them to approve the California law. She said her desire for a certificate is part of dealing with the worst crisis of her life.
She didn't want to eat, see people or look at young children, she said. She went on to have two boys, Cameren, 4, and Jayden Noah, 2.
The parents said the Stanislaus County clerk-recorder's office in downtown Mo- desto wasn't aware of the new certificates when David inquired early this month. Stephanie was able to get assistance from the Department of Public Health office at 820 Scenic Drive, which also handles birth records.
Dr. John Walker, county public health officer, said the health department will issue a Certificate of Still Birth for local parents who who had a stillbirth after Jan. 1.
Parents need to submit a request to the state Department of Vital Statistics for stillbirths before that date. Stanislaus County public health can give parents the request form, which must be completed and mailed to the state office, or parents can call the state vital statistics office in Sacramento. Certificates will be issued even if the stillbirth occurred many years ago, the law says.
Stanislaus County had 51 stillbirths in 2007 and 50 in 2006. As of Tuesday, three people had requested the new certificates, officials said.
Stephanie Gray said she was told it'll take 12 weeks to get the two certificates she ordered, one for framing, the other for Noah's baby book. On holidays and his birthday, the family has celebrated Noah by going to Monterey or taking a boat ride under the Golden Gate Bridge to throw flowers on the water.
"I am not in so much pain as before," Stephanie said. "I think of him but don't hurt as bad as I did."

Kim~lovinmygirls♥ 69 kids; North Battleford, Saskatchewan 5431 posts
Jan 17th '08

im too lazy to read it all, but I wish that Canada would send out stillbirth certificates!!! It makes me mad, I didnt even get a death certificate!!

ღSandraღ 35 kids; New Jersey 2100 posts
Jan 17th '08

well im really surprised that they are even charging that much for theCertificate of birth resulting in stillbirth! Mine is only $4 and additonals are $2.

Pey and Trista's mommy Due January 5; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Houston, Texas 42508 posts
Jan 17th '08

I did not get a actualy state birth certificate because they do not give them for still births but the hospital issues me one for free. The hospital I go to is wonderful. Both of my experiences were good (not the situation of course) and they took really good care of me. With Ginger I had a grrrreat nurse. The lady in charge of the mi/c packagees and pics is great too. Every time I talk to her she is willing to meet me somewhere to talk but I just talk to her on the phone. I think certificates in these horrible circumstances should be free.

Jan~mom of 3 hoping for 4 TTC since Jul 2009; 18 kids; Taylor, Michigan 13259 posts
Jan 17th '08

I had a death certificate for my angel, which seemed a little strange to me since she was dead before she was born, but i guess thats just policy in michigan, i can get a copy of it if i want, but the hospital was wonderful and they had a certificate they make up for still births thats made like a birth certificate complete with a seal, it was really special to know that there are people out there that care about what we have gone through and try and make things a little better in our darkest times.

mommy6 6 kids; Illinois 148 posts
Jan 18th '08

i think that it's good to have one. i mean just becouse the baby was boen still does'nt mean that it was'nt born. i 'll have when and if this dysplasia takes the life of my lil girl.. befor or after birth. i like to see them stop me..

.Lyns.Sarah's.Mommy. 17 kids; Tularosa, New Mexico 5854 posts
Jan 18th '08

I didnt get a birth or death certificate.....

but on i got an Affirmation of Life Plaque....

that is all I need.

Mrs. C ♥ 35 kids; California 17903 posts
Jan 18th '08

I remember being so upset that Xander only got a death certificate. I remember the nurse in L&D told me that parents were trying to pass a law that would allow the parents of still born babies to still get a birth certificate. I think I am going to subit for one. Before reading the article I thought that they had to be born after the new year.

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Jan 18th '08


ღSandraღ 35 kids; New Jersey 2100 posts
Jan 19th '08

Hey ladies check out this site to see if ur state participates in the missingangelsbill! I think it brought some peace of mind to me!

~Muffybabe~*LSM* 18 kids; Australia 839 posts
Jan 20th '08

In Aus, we are given a death certificate and have the option of getting a birth certificate... we still have to register their birth but a certificate is our choice, it is the same as my other boys birth certificate, just has stillborn written on it! we also got one of the special ones, its beautiful, I got the same one for my second son, (alive and happy) but missed out by about 3weeks for my third boy which is a shame because i was really looking forward to having all of my boys certificates being the same! I think its wrong that stillborn babies aren't recognised EVERYWHERE!

ღSandraღ 35 kids; New Jersey 2100 posts
Jan 20th '08
Quoting Muffy.babe85:
CountryRose25 18 kids; Indiana 1207 posts
Aug 24th '09

A nurse (not my midwife) made sure to give me the extra paper with her foot print. I never got a hand print. I doubt I will get any type of certificate. They did not even call me about the autopsy results. We had to call them in order to go over them. They did however make sure to send me a bill. Very nice. The funeral home was wonderful and got us a bunch of mementos to keep though.