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Surviving Your SO Support Thread Zoom Zoom Zoom! {MBRD} Due April 30 (boy); 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Bridgeport, California 27411 posts
Feb 18th '11

I decided to attempt this again since my last try didn

Zoom Zoom Zoom! {MBRD} Due April 30 (boy); 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Bridgeport, California 27411 posts
Feb 18th '11

I'll add my own story tomorrow.

DisneyMommy 34 kids; Florida 6301 posts
Feb 18th '11

Thanks for this!
I hope to be active in this thread if others will join!

Nastassja Makennah's mom TTC since Jun 2011; 1 child; Pittsfield, Maine 7784 posts
Feb 18th '11

24 my fiance and daughters father died 12/17/09



He passed away from factor 5 that he wasnt even aware of..its a blood clotting factor..a blood clot went from his leg to his lungs to his heart killed him with in an hour..



He left behind 2 children one is mine and one from his ex wife...



My daughter is now almost 2..



The state of maine lost the paper work when he changed makennah to his life insurance..we are fighting for makennahs right to half of the life insurnace..a pretty penny I might ad..Also part of his maine state retirement..I just want half..I dont want to take nothing from his other daughter just want what is makennahs his ex wife is being such a complete and total ass hole..she could do the right thing and split the money but were now 7000 dollars into a lawer..



I do get social security survivors bennifits because phillip was a worker..he had life insurance he had everything in place at 29 years old..I thank him every day for that..I just wish that the paper work would have been in line for the correct bennificiaries.I will fight for justice for Makennah as long as phills father wants to do so..If it wasnt for his families wonderful support in this im sure id have given up on that...

Nat ♥ 1 child; Mesa, Arizona 31402 posts
Feb 18th '11

I hope we can get this thread going! I will post an announcement and post in my threads trying to get others in here.

Nat ♥ 1 child; Mesa, Arizona 31402 posts
Feb 18th '11

To those who don't know me I will post my intro...




Hi! I'm Natalie! I'm 26 years old and I have a 23 month old son, Lee. Lee's father and I dated for a year and were married for 2 and a half years then got divorced. Then we started to reconcile after the divorce was final, we both decided we weren't ready to give eachother up and that we made a mistake. Well shortly after that I got pregnant. We were so excited! When I was 6 months pregnant, on Thanksgiving day, November 27, 2008, he had a heart attack. I couldn't get ahold of him all day on Thanksgiving, had no idea where he was. I thought maybe he had gone to his mothers house and she filled his head with lies (she hated me and came between us many times and he would then get upset with me because she would get under his skin). Then when I still hadn't heard from him the next day I started driving around to his friends houses and other places he may be. The last place I looked was where we worked together. His truck was in the parking lot and I was so relieved! He worked in IT and I figured he probably had some big issue he was working on. I got my keys and unlocked the door and when I walked in I found him sitting at his desk in his chair. He was hunched over and I knew he was gone. To this day it was the most horrifying and devastating thing I have ever seen. It still makes me choke up when I picture it.



I was so lost afterwards. I literally didn't know how I would move on. With the help of my family I started to piece my life back together. I had my son and that was the greatest gift Rick could have left me. He reminds me of Rick everyday. So in a way its like he's still with me. I love him dearly and will always love him. No one will have what we had, it was unique and only for us!



Now I am in another relationship with someone who has made me feel alive again. I never thought I would find love again and I have. He cares about my son dearly as well. Its incredible.

user banned London, United Kingdom 31683 posts
Feb 18th '11

This is such an awesome thread.

Nat ♥ 1 child; Mesa, Arizona 31402 posts
Feb 18th '11
Quoting **milfshake[HOAR]**:" This is such an awesome thread."


It really is.



I had a lot of support from women on here like the I'm sorry, prayers, etc. Which I appreciated so much but I didn't really have anyone who knew first hand what I was going through.



I just want to help other women like me! I love Steph for making this thread.

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5428 posts
Feb 18th '11

This is great!



My name is Megan and I am 27 years old. I have three children. Kaedin will be 7 in less than a month, Mckenzie is 4.5 and Karson is 2. I met my husband my senior year in high school when I was at homecoming. It was literally love at first site and my husband was cute but not someone you would normally say that about. We dated for 2 years and we got married on Jan 4, 2003. I was 19. I had our first child just before my 21st birthday and the other two followed. We were connected at the hip. I think others thought we were annoying we could spent every moment of every day together. I never thought I could live without him. There were several odd things that happened before my husbands death that I believe prepared me for it in a way. I won't get into those for now.
On July 13, 2010 my husband was ill. We were all a little under the weather. My son had been attending a drama sort of camp in downtown Seattle and my husband slept down stairs so he could get a good nights sleep which in the almost 8 years of being married he never did. I woke up around 5 in the morning to what I thought was loud snoring. I headed downstairs but as I left our bedroom I realized the shower was on and it was coming from the bathroom. I remember smiling and thinking aww he is so tired he fell asleep in the shower. I was wrong! I couldn't wake him I shook him and shook him. He was breathing but obviously very distressed heavy breathes. I called 911 and they arrived and removed him from the bath and intubated him. I had to turn the tv on in my room loud for the kids so they didn't hear anything. I'm so thankful they slept with me that night. I wouldn't want that image of there father in their head. They rushed him to the hospital and I followed with my youngest because we were both sick and they were worried it was meningitis. The doctors warned me he was gravely ill. I knew very early on this was it. They didn't have to tell me. His body was shutting down. His blood stopped coagulating, he was on dialysis and he was cold. On July 14, 2010 at around 5:30 I decided to pull the plug. He had severe brain damage and he couldn't breathe on his own. I will never forget watching the life drain out of him after they did that. I know it was the right thing he died immediately. There was no struggle. I had peace through this whole thing. A supernatural peace. I know God has been with me through this and I can't imagine going through this without him.
Through all of this I have become very close with his best friend. I never imagined falling in love with someone else let alone so quickly. I couldn't imagine anyone every wanting to take on my crazy life. He is wonderful and he loves me and loves the kids. It's nice because the kids have known him their entire life so it's nothing new.
Everyone has been supportive although I really thought I would have more help than I do. I had an overwhelming response early on. My husband was very loved and had nearly 300 people at his memorial, which was a giant bbq and celebration it was great! My FIL has gone a little cooky. He has accused me of things that weren't happening and said things that were just down right inappropriate. We don't agree on parenting so it makes it hard. He thinks he should see the kids multiple times a week and I just can't deal with that.
I have learned that we all grieve differently and everyones timing is different. Never judge someone else's situation even if you have been through it because everything is different for every individual!
I look forward to talking with you ladies!!

seattlemama3 *NMD* Due December 16 (girl); 19 kids; Spokane, Washington 5428 posts
Feb 18th '11

I forgot to add just in the last few weeks we found out my husband died from liver failure due to a virus called coxsackie b2 it is fairly common but there are only 2 other reported cases of it manifesting itself in the liver which is deadly. The other cases were newborns!

Nastassja Makennah's mom TTC since Jun 2011; 1 child; Pittsfield, Maine 7784 posts
Feb 18th '11

my fiance was also very much loved he had over 300 people at his memorial..



where he wore his new england patriots jersey..then he was cremated.



he was a big sports person..I couldnt have ever stuffed him in a monkey suit for his funeral..it would have been so unatural for him..



sometimes I still feel like im cheating on phillip or that I shouldnt be happy or date its really really hard..

I had a BabyBumpBelly 1 child; American Fork, Utah 34389 posts
Feb 18th '11

Awesome thread mama! I will add later.

Zoom Zoom Zoom! {MBRD} Due April 30 (boy); 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Bridgeport, California 27411 posts
Feb 18th '11

I'll write the complete story of my husband's death later, probably after the girls go to sleep. But he died as the result of a heart attack that should have been prevented as he had seen a cardiologist just a few weeks before for symptoms that suggested there was heart trouble. He was in the process of deploying, and had just touched down in Kuwait. He died all the way across the world surrounded by strangers.
Our first daughter was eleven months and I was five months pregnant with our second child. They are now one and two.

Zoom Zoom Zoom! {MBRD} Due April 30 (boy); 18 kids; 1 angel baby; Bridgeport, California 27411 posts
Feb 18th '11
Quoting Nastassja Makennah's mom:" my fiance was also very much loved he had over 300 people at his memorial.. where he wore his new england ... [snip!] ... for him.. sometimes I still feel like im cheating on phillip or that I shouldnt be happy or date its really really hard.."


I still get pissed off like it is his fault when I have a problem in relationships, like if he had just listened to me he wouldn't be dead and I wouldn't have to start over.

Nastassja Makennah's mom TTC since Jun 2011; 1 child; Pittsfield, Maine 7784 posts
Feb 18th '11

just seems like all our stories are some what similar in nature..