Oh hunny... it is not your fault... I am so sorry. Please give your boy a hug from me. :(
Get some family counseling. All you guys go together. :oops:
Quoting Kalith:" I.. don't really know where to start. I haven't lost anyone but right now I'm in such a f**king mess ... [snip!] ... of anything major? Idk.. Idk idk idk idk idk. I f**king hate myself so much right now, all this shit I've put my kids through."
First off, this IS NOT your fault, stop blaming yourself. How old is your son? Glad that he felt safe to tell you. Is the other boy still around? How long did this go on for?
I am so so sorry mama :-(
Its not your fault. No one would expect this to happen. No one suspects another child. You are doing the right thing. You are getting him help. You aren't letting this get hidden. You are helping him. And you are holding it together for your son when he needs you the most. You are exemplifying what a mother is. We can't always prevent bad things but its when things fall apart we have to put them back together. I think it would be a good idea for you to see a counselor also.
It's not your fault... you can't be monitoring everything they do at all times. Has the other boys family been approached about this? Someone needs to figure out why this boy did this to your son...
My heart is breaking for your little guy. I definitely suggest some counseling.
I'm so, so sorry you guys are having to go through this. :( It is not your fault.
Quoting Mama T;; FFS:" It's not your fault... you can't be monitoring everything they do at all times. Has the other boys family ... [snip!] ... out why this boy did this to your son... My heart is breaking for your little guy. I definitely suggest some counseling."
This is not your fault. I'm so sorry. :(
You had no way of knowing. A 9-10 year old fellow boy...how could you have even guessed?
You're getting him the help he needs. At the age of the other boy, contacting the police is likely to get HIM the help he needs, too.
This is not the end of the world. It isn't. If you can forgive yourself, it will help your son forgive himself for "letting" it happen, too. And he needs to do that.
Counseling is the best thing for the BOTH of you right now. Separately, and together. Seriously. You have a session for yourself. He has a session for himself. And then you should have a session together. Work it all out.
The same thing happened to my brother and it ate my mom up inside.
Its not your fault please dont blame yourself...
Quoting Meg ♥ [Gleek]:" This is not your fault. I'm so sorry. :("
It's not your fault, momma.
Don't blame yourself for the other parent's mistake.
You do the best you can, and that's all any child asks for.
He has your love and support, and what more could you give him?
That's all he needs, and he's lucky to have such a loving mother.
Just keep doing what you've been doing.
You're doing great!
And don't let his father's past destroy you.
As long as he's good to the kids, there's not much you need to worry about.
If anything arises, take his ass to jail, babygirl.
If you need someone to talk to, I'm online pretty much 24/7.
Quoting TTC a BabyBumpBelly:" First off, this IS NOT your fault, stop blaming yourself. How old is your son? Glad that he felt safe ... [snip!] ... son? Glad that he felt safe to tell you. Is the other boy still around? How long did this go on for? I am so so sorry mama :-("
He said it went on for a few weeks, he doesn't really remember how long though. He's 10 now, he was 7-8 at the time. The other boy used to bully him at school towards the end of our time living there... he's not around any more, we're at opposite ends of the country. He said.. ughhhh.. he said tha a part of him might have liked it and he hated that, he felt guilty! and that was part of the reason he didn't tell me, he also thought I'd be mad at him! Then he just sobbed in my arms for a good hour. :cry:
Ok lets look at the bright side. Your a good enough mom that he felt safe telling you something...that's incredibly hard to talk about for a victim. Thats the biggest deal because now he can begin to heal. You made a counseling apt which is great! And sometimes it takes tragedy to form strong bonds...this is a fresh start for you and him..self hatred will only take away from him right now. Try to stay positive and help your boy heal.
Stop blaming yourself....concentrate and be the best mom you can be now:)