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Don't Ask Me
Written by: Rita Moran
Please, don't ask me if I'm over it yet
I'll never be over it
Please, don't tell me she's in a better place
She isn't with me
Please, don't say at least she isn't suffering
I haven't come to terms with why she had to suffer at all
Please, don't tell me you know how I feel
Unless you have lost a child
Please, don't ask me if I feel better
Bereavement isn't a condition that clears up
Please, don't tell me at least you had her for so many years
What year would you choose for your child to die?
Please, don't tell me God never gives us more than we can bear
Please, just tell me you are sorry
Please, just say you remember my child, if you do
Please, just let me talk about my child
Please, mention my child's name
Please, just let me cry.
I'm A Mother
To the outside world
I'm not a mother
I have no children clinging to my arm or running to greet me or throwing tantrums in supermarkets aisles
I'm not even a mother on paper
BUT I AM
In a silent world of "I love you's" and absent cuddles
My little one is
she'll always be my baby even as the years go by
She won't grow like other girls in height, strength and mind but she'll grow with love, that I can give even though she isn't in sight
So please don't think of me as a single or married woman but as a mother with a sleeping baby for that is what I am
These have helped me heal and I hope they will help others who have suffered from a miscarriage aswell.
I do not know who wrote these but I love them.
Here is my favorite one-
God gave me an angel to carry and love,
If only for a moment's time;
I loved, nurtured and cared for her soul,
But it wasn't in His design.
My angel wasn't ready to join this earth,
To be born into the world's ways;
So she was taken to heaven to wait some more,
And now I must pass the days.
It's often hard to look past my pain,
And see the greater scheme;
When all I want to do is hold,
That child of my broken heart's dream.
I know someday when the time is right,
I'll be given my angel again;
She'll be born so healthy and full of life,
With fingers and toes of ten.
She'll have vibrant eyes and cheeks of rose,
And a cry of heaven's sweet song;
I'll cherish each moment I have with her,
No matter how brief or how long.
I'll thank the Lord for blessing my life,
And I'll savour the gift He's sent;
For I know each child is truly His own,
And my angel is one that He's lent.
I didn't think that I could feel
so much for a life yet to pass
I didn't think that I could feel
so sad, so fast.
I didn't get to hold your hand
or see your precious face.
I didn't get to feel you move.
I didn't even know your name.
I didn't get to see your daddy cuddle you in his arms.
Little one, I wish I could have kept you from harm.
I didn't get to comfort you, as you began to cry.
I didn't get to give you life - I often wonder why.
I sit here and think about
why we had to say goodbye before hello.
Why a life was taken before it really began
why God decided it was your time to go.
I'm your mama, little angel,
and I'll always be.
You were loved and cherished from the start
now, please look down on me.
When you wonder the meaning of life and love
Know that I am with you
Close your eyes and feel me kissing you
In the gentle breeze across your cheek
When you begin to doubt that you shall ever see me again
Quiet your mind and hear me
I am in the whisper of the heavens
Speaking of your love
When you lose your identity
When you question who you are
Where you are going
Open your heart and see me
I am the twinkle in the stars
Smiling down upon you
Lighting the path for your journey
When you awaken each morning
Not remembering your dreams
But feeling content and serene
Know that I was with you
Filling your night with thoughts of me
When you linger in the remnant pain
Wholeness seeming so unfamiliar
Think of me and know that I am with you
Touching you through the shared tears of a gentle friend
Easing the pain
As the sunrise illuminates the desert sky
In that breathtaking glory, awaken your spirit
Think of our time together, all too brief, but ever brilliant
When you were certain of your destiny
Know that God created that moment in time, just for us.
Dearest Mommy, I am with you always
Little Angel of heaven I am your mom
I have been waiting so I can hold your hand
Your heart beat was like traveling horses
running in a field of sand
Your little body was growing inside me
reminding me and telling me that we are family now.
Why did you leave before I got to see your smile.
I pictured all our days together what do I do now.
what are his reasons did I do something wrong somehow.
Why has God taken you so early in your life
Little Angel of heaven I feel like a part of me is gone
please give me a sign that will help me move on.
Dear lovely Mommy I am your Little Angel
holding your hand now.
place your hand over your heart and feel it
I am there our heat beating together as one.
My body is so strong now and bathed
with the spirt of God.
I will always be your family
until the end of time I give you my word.
Dear lovely Mommy I am sorry I had to leave so soon
but there are plans for me here in heaven and you
will be so proud of me when your time comes to.
Picture the brightest light when you close your
eyes at night you will see a glimps of me
smiling as I watch over you tonight.
You will go on Dear lovely Mommy I want you to
stay strong. Time will pass like a summer storm.
Dear lovely Mommy you did nothing wrong this
is just the way it has to be you will someday understand
I am still hear and never to be gone
listen for my laughter in a glorious song.
You will meet me some beautiful day at the pearly gates
of heaven dont you cry because I did not die.
Thank you Mommy for giving me life
I am so happy here in heaven.
"A Lament for My Baby"
I never got to hear you laugh
you never saw me cry
didnt get a chance to say "Hello"
you never said "Goodbye"
I didn't think that I could feel
so sad, lost and forlorn.
I never knew God chose his Angels
before some of them were born.
Your life was short yet special
I shared it all exclusively
I felt you breathe, I felt you kick.
You were alive inside of me.
Every baby is an Angel
and every angel is divine
God needed one in heaven
He came down and took mine
And although we are not together
we're not really apart
for you'll always occupy a space
deep within my heart.
Time has begun to ease my pain
It's only some days now I cry.
When I wish I could have said "Hello"
and heard you say "Goodbye"
Tears In Heaven by Eric Clapton
It makes me cry everytime I hear it..
But it makes me feel a little better to.
I found this written by a woman on another web site. I have it posted at my desk and am carryig a copy in my purse, too. Prayer to my baby My little baby who lives in heaven, Forever I will remember your name. You will never come. My dream is done. I'm on earth and you are in heaven. Give me this day my daily strength. And forgive me when I get angry As I try to accept those who have babies before me. And lead me not into pain and sorrow, but deliver me from unhappiness and help me to have faith. For you are my baby, myangel, my love, now and forever. Amen.
i'm not sure where this came from, my mom told me my aunt wrote it when my brother was born stillborn..
when god calls little children to dwell with him above. we mortals sometime question the wisdom of his love. for no heartache compares to with the death of one small child, who does so much to make our world seem wonderful and mild. perhaps god tires of calling the aged to his fold.so he pics a rosebud before it can grow old.god knows how much we need them ,so he takes but a few. to make theland of heven more beautiful to view.beliving this is difficult still some how we must try. the saddest word mankind knows will always be goodbye. so when a little child departs. we who are left behind must relize . god loves children ,angels are hard to find.
i have always loved that poem, no matter where it came from.
here is a poem they gave me at the hospital it helped me out some
How very softly
you tiptoed into my world
Only for a moment you stayed
but what an inprint
your footsteps have left upon my heart
R.I.P Lester Micheal Stanton
Hi everyone. I'm new to the site, and just found thisspecific forum.I have 2 children, 17 yr old daughter, and 11 month old son. Four months after my son was born, Ibecame pregnant again...this time, twins.Two months into the pregnancy, I miscarried. I had no idea it would hit me as hard as it did. I consider myself to be a pretty "strong" woman, and I can usually handle anything that comes my why. This......this I couldnt. I'm sure you all feel my pain. I have never writte a poem in my life...but, I had a million thoughts going around in my head, and one night I sat down and put them onto paper. This is how it came out...(reminder...I am NOT a poet, please dont think it sounds stupid.)
I'll never know... (by Karie J.)
I'll never know if you were a boy or a girl,
or what I would have named you.
I'll never know what sports you liked,
or your favorite toy, old or new.
I'll never know the color of your hair,
or the beauty in your eyes.
I'll never be able to tickle your belly,
or pinch your chubby little thighs.
I'll never see your "first day of school",
or the drawings to hang up.
I'll never be able to kiss your boo boos,
and bandage them all up.
I'll never see your graduation,
or your homecoming dance.
I'll never see your first crush,
and when you hold their hand.
I'll never see you walk down that aisle,
whether it be a tux or a beautiful gown.
I'll never see your children,
though I would have loved to have them around.
I'll never know which career you chose,
or see that first promotion.
I'll never see your first new home,
or the joy of knowing you accomplished it on your own.
I'll never see you grow wise with age,
or learn from your mistakes.
God must have needed you, that's for sure,
for something of importance.
I'll never know these things,
that I would have held so close.
Could this be a blessing in disguise?
Now....I'll never know.
I love the song "precious Child"- I'm not sure who it's by...but here is the song . It makes me tear up everytime.
my husband and i had twins last year, brianna and allan, they were born alive at 20 weeks, though they only lived minutes we got to hold them for a short time. we were blessed to have them through invitro. although it was only for a short while, we will always cherish those few precious moments that we had with them. i keep a picture of them by my bed so they are always the first thing i see when i wake up in the morning and the last when i go to bed, we buried them together and had kenny chesneys song played, who youd be today. i feel like that song was wrote for them. may they rest peacefully together until we meet them again.
Life ain't always beautiful by Gary Allan had been helping me through my recent miscarriage. I'm trying to stay positive and roll with the punches. Some days it's rough, and others I can still count my blessings..hope it helps others who are suffering as well..
Life ain't always beautiful
Sometimes it's just plain hard
Life can knock you down, it can break your heart
Life ain't always beautiful
You think you're on your way
And it's just a dead end road at the end of the day
But the struggle makes you stronger
And the changes make you wise
And happiness has it's own way of takin' it sweet time
No,life aint always beautiful
Tears will fall sometimes
Life aint always beautiful
But it's a beautiful ride
Life aint always beautiful
Some days I miss your smile
I get tired of walkin' all these lonely miles
And I wish for just one minute
I could see your pretty face
Guess I can dream, but life dont work that way
But the struggles makes me stronger
And the changes make me wise
And happiness has it's own way of takin' its sweet time
No, life aint always beautiful
But I know I'll be fine
Hey, life aint always beautiful
But its a beautiful ride
What a beautiful ride
I want to thank everyone who has shared their poems and the songs, they have helped me a lot. I found out on Feb 11th that my baby was no longer there. I don't know when it stopped growing or why but God taught me to have Faith in Him through all of this.
I know this poem doesn't rhym but it was written by a dear friend of mine when she heard the news about our loss. So I thought I would share it with everyone else.
When your mommie and daddy got the news they were so happy
to have finally been blessed with a little miracle like you.
Your mommy talked about you everyday, keeping up with every memory
in every possible way. Each week a new picture she took to show the world
how fast there little angel was growing. I have never met someone so carefull
with what she did. You didn't get to taste pepsi or coffee because your mommie
was so thoughtfull of you. Your daddy had to leave not long after the news of you had come
he's in the air force and is a brave man. I know you would have grown to be so be so proud of
him as he was of you. Your mommie and I are very good friends and I to fell in love with you
from the very beginning. Then all the sudden something sad and tragic happend, God had called
you back home to live with him. We all miss you so much already, but you will never be forgotten.
God must have needed another angel to help light up his wonderfull beautifull night sky.
Though your not with them anymore I know you will come daily and whisper I love you in
your mommie and daddy's ear. I ask one simple thing of you, I know you are still quiet small
but could you ask God to make you a special angel to help your mommie and daddy to get through
this pain they never thought they would see? Be there at night when mommies up late thinking of
you. Be there when daddy's at work thinking of you. Be there when it feels like noone else is.
Be there when God blesses them with your brother or sister and help to calm and relieve all
there fears. Before I let you go I ask one last thing, please tell God thank you for sending
you to be with them for the little time you were here because to them you will always be loved and adored.
I cant wait to meet you in Heaven one day and to see the smile on your mommie and daddy's face
when they finally get to hold and see the little miracle they made!! Tell my dad I said hi and I
love him, and tell God how we all cant wait to meet him.
Mrs. Nita Jo