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Boogers mommy {{EBFB}} 1 child; Texas 15428 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting barefootmama'sTTC:
user banned 18 kids; Intercourse, Alabama 21308 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:
spacey mcpants TTC since Nov 2011; 252 kids; Beaufort, South Carolina 39646 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting tantric☮lemons:
user banned 18 kids; Intercourse, Alabama 21308 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Sharonblueyes{EBFB}:
Hathor +3 Due April 22; 19 kids; Ontario 5700 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Amber && 2 spawnz:
spacey mcpants TTC since Nov 2011; 252 kids; Beaufort, South Carolina 39646 posts
Mar 30th '10

*sigh* Now I'm being told i have no right to feel violated to have had two nurses elbow deep in my vagina at the same time. Because it was "what was best for me."



I need to get out of that thread.

Boogers mommy {{EBFB}} 1 child; Texas 15428 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Z is a Death Eater:
Hathor +3 Due April 22; 19 kids; Ontario 5700 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Z is a Death Eater:
spacey mcpants TTC since Nov 2011; 252 kids; Beaufort, South Carolina 39646 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Boogers mommy {{EBFB}}:
ANT0911 18 kids; Oklahoma 9608 posts
Mar 30th '10

I think this is an amazing thread for mamas who have had this happen!
OP-What made you think of creating a thread like this? I've never stumbled across anything like this. Kudos to you for helping support mamas who have been through something very traumatic especially during or after delivery!
I can honestly say that my birth experience wasn't that bad. The only part that killed me was the doctor seemed to constantly have her fingers in my VAG when I was pushing. She kept sliding them up and down the side of my vaginial area(hard to explain. sorry :oops:). She said she was doing that because I needed to be stretched. I have never felt a burning sensation like that in my life. The thing I'm most grateful for is that she didn't cut me she let me tear(sp?). I only had a 2nd degree tear which only required a few stitches I believe. Don't really remember how many it required. The one thing that really bothered me was when I got to the recovery side( I passed a clot the size of a plum right after delivery) the nurses were constantly coming in my room lifting my pants to see my vaginal area and pushing on my pelvic to check on my bleeding. I asked them not to at one point because it was EXTREMELY painful but they said it needed to be done so I didn't say anything. The one thing that really pissed me off was the fact all of the nurses were constantly telling me what I could or couldn't do with my daughter. I BF'd for the first 2 weeks because at 2 weeks the doctor gave her a bottle but a birth I wanted to give her a paci(she still BF'd even though I did that) and the nurse told me to take it away and to never give it to her again especially if I was going to BF'd. I honestly hated how when I was pushing people we constantly coming in and out of my room leaving the door open but atleast the curtain was closed. After she was born(after she was cleaned up) I decided to try and get her to latch well the nurse wouldn't let me do that on my own. I had the position and everything right and my daughter almost had it and the nurse comes over, grabs my breast, starts squeezing it and flopping it around with my dad in the room. I told her to stop because my dad was in the room and I could wait until he stepped out(which was 5 minutes later) to try again. I just feel I was manhandled especially when she was born and it came to BF'ing. I hated the after birth experience in the hospital and parts of my delivery. I honestly plan on trying a waterbirth next time I have a child. I want no drugs/no interference. I want a relaxing/calming experience. In the hospital I was constantly stressed because of all the paperwork, questions, being checked, door being opened and closed just everything. I know this might be all over the place and might be hard to make sense of and I'm sorry. And to some it may not be traumatic but it really bothered me at points and I wish I could go back and do it all differently. Don't get me wrong I loved my doctor up until the fingers in the vaginal area while I was pushing. Between sliding them and telling me to "push her fingers out" it was horrible. :cry:Thanks for letting me share. Sorry it might be really long and confusing. No one knows this either. I acted like everything was fine after my birthing experience but not everything was fine!

Lillianna's Mama{EBFB} 1 child; Arkansas 1982 posts
Mar 30th '10

All these things make me so afraid to have a birth in the hospital since I've had so many bad hospital experiences as it is. It really sucks that I have no other choice but to be in a hospital. You are all strong women for being able to talk about what happend to you and acknowledge that it wasn't "okay" and that those "professionals" violated you.

Courtney Allison 1 child; Kansas 56 posts
Mar 30th '10

Hey everyone! I don't have a horrible birth story BUT i am seriously tramatized by it.



I went to the hospital a week before my son was due (due date Aug 28) I went the 21st for my appointment. Everything went well and i was told that i was taking in too much "sodium" so i should cut all salt out of my diet, due to swelling.



Monday August 24th i went into the hospital, i have having contractions every 2-3 min and it was extremely painful. My legs were hurting real bad and my feet felt like pin needles. I went and registered for the hospital in case i had to stay and got a room to be checked. I was checked and my water wasn't broke and i wasn't dialated. I was having hard contractions though. So the nurse (the best one i had) took my temperature and checked my blood pressure. My blood pressure was really high so i ended up having to stay. Tueday, i had the WORST nurse in history. I had to get 2 ribbons on my cervix, a pill on my cervix and i got pitocin to induce my labor ALL OF WHICH FAILED!! I wasextremelyexhausted! I was frustrated with my nurse. Lunch time came, i was starving and my chart said i could eat considering the lack of progress with my labor so my nurse says she's going to call my doctor. does she? NO! (my door was open and my mother watched her walk to another patients room) she came right back and told me he said i couldn't eat, then she checked my cervix which she did already 4 min before, literally. She put her entire hand to see whether the pills or ribbon was still there. she was insane!! i told her off something FIERCE!! she was ticked off and didn't come back to my room the rest of her shift. 10:15ish my dr comes into my room to ask me how i'm doing. I was pissed to the max at my nurse. I had another one after her but shewasn'taround much because "i didn't need much assistance and there we other women who needed her more" So my old nurse took my blood pressure cuff off before she left, i don't know why. My dr said that for that entire time there was no blood pressure reading, which was why i was in the hospital in the first place. So he checked it. I ended up almost going into a STROKE!!! i guess i had a pre existing condition or something like that. So i got a brief 5 min to prepare me for a c section. My son was born at 11:20! I had 2 epidurals back to back, not the dr's fault either. My whole team was wonderful from that point on. Never made a decision until i gave the ok. The same nurse ended up coming back and i told her to leave my room and give me another nurse. It was because of her negligence (and the other nurse) i had to have a c section! UGH! At least i didn't have a stroke and my son was fine!!

Viktorya 3 kids; Michigan 40087 posts
Mar 30th '10
Quoting Courtney :):
Courtney Allison 1 child; Kansas 56 posts
Mar 30th '10

I'm sorry you had a horrible nurse too!! I know all nurses aren't like that but it does seem like the BAD outweighs the GOOD! UGH! deal with the pain? seriously, let me shove my hand up their vagina into their cervix and see if they don't complain either! some people are really insensitive to other's needs. I'm glad to hear you filed a complaint. I talked to her that day she came back in my room and seriously let her have it! lol and i almost felt sorry for her. I wasn't your age, but i did get looks for being married so young and having a child. I'm 21 and my husband is 20 and people always said the craziest things to me so i know you went through some rough comments!

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26911 posts
Mar 31st '10
Quoting Amber && 2 spawnz: