Ten ways to help your child give up the pacifier

Ten ways to help your child give up the pacifier

The pacifier seems to be a wonderful device if your child gets too fussy. However, as a parent, one must also realize that it could be disastrous if it becomes to become his/her best friend. If you are already trying to chalk out the solution, here are some really helpful suggestions that save the situation.

Taking away the binky early

Be it any habit, the earlier you intervene and break away the starting attachment, the easier it is. Taking away the pacifier early is also suggested as an effective strategy by doctors. This is sure that the baby will use various ways to protest against the act. However, it being a non vocal displeasure makes this transition easier and simpler and soon the baby forgets all about it.

Parent's speak

"I parted my daughter from her binkies when she was 3 months old and it was good to see that she was not too much unmanageable after that. She has no need of s*****g onto it anymore now was it long that she remember to have been using it on her initial days. I would say that it is much easier when you do it with a newborn than a toddler. This saved me huge fights which many of my neighbors have to deal with" - Anonymous

"We limited the pacifier to just the bedtime after our baby was five months old. This continued for another three months before we decided to take off the pacifier completely. She was a bit fussy about it initially but soon forgot and the normal regular routine got into place. It has been really easy on us and I would suggest all parents to do the same." - Anonymous

Going cold turkey

Being a parent is not easy and it feels bad when your baby cries day long for the pacifier. However, you know best that it's a much needed step and will be helpful in the long run. Saying "no" is the best option and this doesn't make you a cold parent but a responsible parent.

Parent's speak

"Making my boy realize that he is a grown up now was a lot easier on us. I made him promise that he would have to give up his toy after his third birthday and it was just a couple of time that he hoped to get it back. However, with the third denial, he was okay and never again asked for it." - Tiger555

I had been a little easy on my boy and let him use his pacifier till he was 3 months old. However, no parent would want to have a kid who has a flowing cheek at three years and we decided to make the thing disappear. It took a month till he asked no more for it but we were happy enough with the hard earned success." - AJ Anthony

"We thought that it is best if you can talk to your kid, make him realize and then taking a cold turkey stance. Come up with a plan that gives your kid a point to do away with the pacifier once and for all and make him stick to it." - Anonymous

"My son was so much addicted into pacifier that I thought he would even carry it to college. A week prior to his fourth birthday, I told him that this is the last birthday that he would be s*****g on his pacifier. I made him see when I had dropped the pacifier into the garbage bin and put it outside. He wanted it back but never went near the bin and in two days he was out of the habit. I am glad that finally he is pacifier free." - Jenny

Making it taste bad

Kids are highly sensitive to bad taste. Parents have used this method to paint the nails with something distasteful to stop the kid form s*****g it all the while. This could as well be your solution to take the pacifier away from the kid.

Parent's speak

"It has been 33 months and my boy was still bent of having his pacified put into his mouth at least on bedtime. Everything that we had tried had failed and we found it impossible to make our kid cry and waited for a day when things get goo by itself. However, when this didn't happen for long, our pharmacist recommended us with a non toxic but distasteful solution. It didn't take long when she decided that it was better to leave the thing alone." - Anonymous

Make the baby trade it

There will be various things that seem to be more special than the pacifier for a kid. Choose something that will not make the baby thing long for his/her final choice and this can end the addiction in the least fussy way.

"I made my daughter realize that her pacifier needs to be given up for newer babies being born and this is a sacrifice that all of us had done. She was ready after a few requests and I am glad that she had learn to stand up for a cause early!" - Anonymous

"My baby found the Easter Bunny more adorable than her habit for the pacifier. It worked very well and better than we had expected!" - Caroline's mom

"It was my sons third birthday and I wanted him to give away his pacifier. Santa really helped and he gladly obliged to giving it away for big boys toys in return. We were happy to buy him a bicycle instead! He did ask for his pacified for a couple of times more but once reminded about his trading toys, he has adapted well and no more tears are shed." - Anonymous

Make it a gradual process

Change is best achieved when it is gradual and slow. The first step will be to restrict the pacifier to certain times of the day (bedtime for instance) or to certain places (maybe the crib).

Parent's speak

"I started by allowing the pacifier at bedtimes and after a couple of months, I said that it was the last pacifier that he is being bought. Since binkies get lost easily, it just took another month before it went missing and as promised, this was his last binky. The first couple of nights was a bit troublesome, but he slept well from the third day." - Anonymous

"I would suggest parents to start slow and gradually start weaning from nap time. He has been okay with the transition after some initial battles. Taking it away while he is asleep will make him forget easier. It worked for me!" - Anonymous

"It was easy to take my daughter's binky firstly limiting it to special occasions. I never allow it anywhere outside the house and after a weeklong of lost sleep, she got acquainted with it." - Anonymous

"Always start slow when you are trying to take away your baby's precious possession - his binky. The best shot could be the nighttime battle and once you have won it and made him sleep without the pacifier in the mouth, the rest of the things would naturally follow and would be an easy process." - Dufrain

Sabotaging the pacifier

It is common safety instruction that pacifiers shouldn't be used after it shows signs of breakage or wear. However, altering or sabotaging the shape/material of the pacifier can also make it an unsatisfying experience for the baby. The best trick will be to poke a hole at the tip and lopping off the rubber part.

Safety information: This is a dangerous trick and can cause choking hazards when the small pieces break off. It is better if you try with a one-piece pacifier. Regularly check for signs of tearing and make sure that the baby is not affected in any way.

Parent's speak

"I had poked a small hole on the tip of the sucker when my baby was a year old and as expected, it didn't serve his purpose as before. He soon got tired and gave it up within a week." - Anonymous

"I had intentionally poked a hole on top of the binky but a day or two after, my baby started complaining about a sore tongue. When I examined, I found out that he had resolved to chew the binky as s*****g was no more satisfying. This had cut the plastic and the sharp edge created has cut his tongue. I immediately got a new binky and though that it's better to wait till the childhood habit takes care of itself.

A binky fairy could be a replacement

A powerful and exciting cousin to the tooth fairy, the binky fairy could as well be a suitable apparition that the baby will fall trick to. The transition to making his/her life pacifier-free gets easier this way.

Parent's speak

"My baby was intelligent enough to understand that his binky will have to be given up to the binky fairy such that another newborn baby could use it. He agreed to it and gave it up gladly!" - Anonymous

"We told our daughter that she would be given any toy she wants if she gives up the binky to the tooth fairy. We made her understand that binkies were for small babies and not for grown up girls and she was eager to grow up and wear her school uniforms! To our surprise, she had placed it on the front steps before going to sleep and never wanted it back." - Leila

"My daughter was addicted to her binkies and this was the only trick that was feasible. We told her stories about how binky fairies took away used binkies to give it to new born babies for about a week when she accepted to have all her binkies at one place for Tinker bell. The next morning she found a pink Barbie and she is more than happy to have helped a cause!" - Anonymous

"We have had four daughters and were almost sure that the youngest one will keep her binky till she got married! However, her older sisters helped by telling her stories about binky fairies and one fine day she got all her binkies at one place to be taken away for smaller babies. This story worked well and it was the most adorable moment of her life." - Anonymous

Make your baby lose it

The first step will be to tell your baby that it is the last of binky that you are ever going to buy. In a week a normal baby will lose it somewhere and never make any efforts to get it found again! As promised, it will be just a couple of sleepless nights that you will have to bear with.

Parent's speak

"My son lost his binkies every other day and it was really a frustrating job finding it out from the mess. One day, I decided not to help and it was just a week before he realized that he was doing well enough without the binkies. Problem solved!" - Anonymous

"I would suggest making your child lose the pacifier on purpose. Once he/she loses it, find it and dump in a place which will be inaccessible. Throw them away and try replacing a substitute if your baby makes a big fuss out of it. My baby didn't really cry although he was a big binky junkie. - Anonymous

"I was upset to see my son using a binky even after his fourth birthday and one day more out of anger, I threw off his binky into the trash can where he will not be able to find it. I never confessed to have done it myself but staged that the binky was lost and I was not going to get a new one until this one is found. He was acting desperate for the first week but gradually he appreciated the occasion and has never asked for another binky ever." - Anonymous

"My daughter was obsessed about her binky and asks it every minute she was home from daycare. However, before she turned four, I decided it to be time and hid it. The trick was that I even asked her to help me find it, obviously not looking into the trash can! Finally, I said that it was time that I complete my chore before going back to searching again and it would be good if she would go and lie down. She asked a couple of more times before she automatically had her sleep. Magically, the next day onwards, she didn't even ask for her binky and I was so overwhelmed!" - Christine

Read and apply

Story time could be of huge knowledge for kids and make the baby realize the importance of giving away the binky at some point of time. Reading them out stories about binkies can work wonders for your kid and they will themselves realize the much necessary change.

Parent's speak

"The Little Bunny's Pacifier Plan worked well with my daughter and it was not long before she decided to let go. From the house to the room and finally to the chair, the pacifier moves out of the life of a baby. Entertaining read too" - Anonymous

"A book called Binky Ba Ba Fairy will be a good recommendation and helped my child egt out of his 2 year old habit." - Robin

"Binky was an entertaining read for both me and my baby. She gradually understood what it is for and how grown up kids need to act different. The book did more good than my requests could have. Better still, she listened to it on bedtime and this helped her sleep without her pacifier. I am a happy mom!" - Jolly LB

"It was customary for her to listen to bedtime stories while s*****g on her pacifier as she went to sleep. Normally, this took a matter of some minutes as she is a fast sleeper. However, it was time that she gave up her binky and what better if Tinker bell or Santa Claus themselves demanded her to do so! The book by Elizabeth Verdick, Pacifiers Are Not Forever was a good read and soon she understood herself to be a grown up and I didn't require to tell her actually. I would really suggest this book to all parents looking to get their babies on track before this bad habit ruins anything else." - Anonymous

Here are some other books to consider for the "giving up the pacifier" solution

Baby's Binky Box, by Jennifer Ormond, illustrated by Curt Walstead

Binky, by Leslie Patricelli

Bye-Bye Binky, by Brigitte Weninger, illustrated by Yusuke Yonezu

Bye-Bye, Pacifier (a Muppet Babies book), by Louise Gikow

I Want My Pacifier, by Tony Ross

No More Pacifier, by Ricki Booker, illustrated by Selena Kassab

No More Pacifiers, by Melanie O'Brien, illustrated by Amanda Enright

Pacifiers Are Not Forever, by Elizabeth Verdick, illustrated by Marieka Heinlen

Letting normal routine take its course

Nature always does its job and it is change that nature gradually fosters. The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests providing babies with pacifiers at bedtime in the first year as it limits the risk of the development of the Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). However, there are also many potential reasons that can cause health problems after the binky is banned.

Kids without pacifiers have lesser risk of ear infections.

If your child has been using pacifier for a long time, it can cause mouth and teeth problems.

If your child already has language and speech problems, continuing to use the pacifier could make the problem worse.

However, not all parents think the same and believe that it is best to make the child realize when it's time to give up the pacifier for better gifts and indulgences.

Parent's speak

"Responsible parents are often triggered by the question about how to make their baby get rid of the pacifiers. Experts always suggest to get it done as early as possible as compared to suggested to let them have it as long as they want and a time will come when they themselves will act like grownups. Relating to this, I would like to add that my son gave it away at 28 months and I didn't have to ask it to him at any occasion. Once he had given it away, he will never want it back and even finds it to be yucky when he sees other kids using it!" - Cindy

"It is sometimes better to wait till the growing baby decides to give up his/her binky on their own. No adult has a binky of his own and this suggests that the habit never lingers more than childhood. When a baby, the binky is the comfort item and makes them feel safe and have a good sleep. It's just okay to have it to them as long as they want. Soon they will be ready to brave the world with other faculties." - Anonymous

"My boy is five years and his binky is the dearest of things. Both I and my husband see nothing really wrong in it as he has it only at nighttime, helping him sleep better. It just the same as taking milk bottles as long as they want. As they gradually learn to talk, walk, read, count and interact with other kids, they will also learn to live without their binkies. Let the baby enjoy his age and do what is just natural to him. It's not a good thing either to make your child grow up faster and learn the rules of the modern society." - Mama

"Kids need a pacifier of their own like grown up teenager need a MP3 of their own. It helps them relax and do what is just normal to their age. My daughter threw her binky into the trash can when she was four and none of us played a part of her doing so. Don't try to hurry and kids will learn and adapt on their own. The binky is just a thing of comfort and doesn't need to be taken away." - Pamelon

"My daughter is just two and still has her binky. We have decided many times about taking away her toy but our pediatrician advises against it. He suggested that if the baby is still s*****g it, it's fine to have it in her mouth. One should be concerned if she starts chewing it but there is really no sign of it still. We are sure that she will eventually give up the binky and turn to the Barbie. Of course no school going kid has a binky in her mouth." - Anonymous

Being careful about your wishes

Sometimes, it is just child to suck. A baby sucks on a pacifies because he/she needs to and making them give up the habit will only meant that they turn to thumb s*****g or licking to something more toxic and health risking. You certainly would not like to carry them in the blanket all the while. Also, it is obvious that the habit will not persist into adulthood as no one goes to school with a pacifier in the mouth! So wait and everything will turn out to be just fine.

Parent's speak

"My son was used to binkies from the start. We had tried many things and even the binky fairy stories. Even Santa Claus and the birth of another baby sister didn't change her habits. However, when everything failed and he had already turned five, I had to forcibly take it away. It was disappointing to see him begging and giving the best arguments a 5 year old can think of in favor of a return but I was determined to stay put to my decision. But this counter attacked. Now he is into s*****g his thumbs in place of the binkies and this looks weird. I must have won the battle but a bigger war took roots." - Anonymous


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