would be so nice to stay home all day.
I wish my husband was able to pay for everything and I could just sit at home.
People that stay at home with their kids and complain drive me crazy- that would be such a blessing to me.
I would much rather stay home than have a boss.
My husband should pay all the bills and I can stay home with the kids and shop whenever I want.
Ughh I wish I could sleep past my 5:30 am alarm for work.
were all thoughts of mine as a working mother. Boy was I naïve.
a working mother, I had family that was able to watch my son. My day would
typically run like this…
up and get ready for work. Drop my son off at my parents house. Drive to work
with music deafeningly loud (as it helped me to get in the zone). Spend 8 hours
at work conversing with adults, working, answering to a boss, etc. Leave work.
Pick up child. Go home to throw a quick dinner together. Try and get a load of
laundry done. Muster up SOME energy to play with my toddler. Lay on the floor
half dead because I was so tired. Bathe toddler. Kiss him and send him off to
house was typically clean because in between waiting for the noodles to boil
and the chicken to be done, I was picking things up. In between washing my hair
and shaving my legs, I was wiping down the shower walls. I had to multitask at
every level of the day. My thoughts before I fell asleep were how I could
organize better. The days all blended together.
and a half months ago, I left work for my maternity leave with the intention of
never returning. We were moving away for my husband’s job. We had no longer had
childcare available, and day care wasn’t an option. I could not wait to spend
my days doing as I pleased.
that time, I have adjusted into my role as a stay at home mom and wife. It was
a very big change as I was always working full time, and I was the breadwinner.
I worked in mills. I worked hard, doing physical labor next to all the men. I
loved getting paid, being around adults, and feeling accomplished. I felt like
I contributed a lot in our family.
I have days that I miss my old job and my old routine.
have an energetic and humorous almost-4 year old that chases and plays with our
1-year old Old English Bulldog pup. I have a crazy, loud, needy 10-month old
that gives mommy a run for her money when she is trying to finish the simplest
task. I don’t get to shower most days until 9pm, when the house is asleep and I
count the grocery store clerk as much needed adult time. I look forward to the
mailman’s quick stop, the spam emails and a random bill collector’s call. They
are all signs of the adult world, which I often forget I am a part of.
days I drop the ball on dinner, and we’re stuck eating a quickie pizza or some
boxed dinner. I run clothes through the dryer two and four times when I REALLY
don’t feel prepared to handle a load of laundry.
I do get to wake up with the tiny faces full of love that I created. I get to
watch my 10-month old learning how to feed himself, and his lap, and the dog. I
do get to pay dinosaurs and trucks with my almost-4 year old. I do get to teach
him how to write letters and how to sound out words.
I have days that I feel like I don’t get very much done, and I feel a pang of
guilt in knowing I don’t bring home a paycheck, I know I am doing a lot. I am
raising humans. I am teaching them about life. I am taking care of my husband’s
every need. I am balancing our money out between bills and food so there is
something extra my husband can have (because although I thought my day would be
filled with shopping sprees, it isn’t, and I wouldn’t want it to be).
Working mothers don't have fairies that clean their house and make their days easier, while stay at home mothers aren't sitting around all day reeling in the benefits.They have entirely different responsibilities, but each is equally important and misunderstood.
Are you a working mom or a stay at home mom? Would you prefer something else?