**Inspirational words for parents of special needs children* S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Apr 6th '09

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away...because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss. But...if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland
Written by : Emily Perl Kingsley 1987

I'm so glad that we finally have a special needs forum!!:D
I thought maybe we could use this thread for some hope and inspirational words for parents who are new to this forum. Feel free to add whatever you wish ladies!

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Apr 6th '09

Very VERY true :wink:

♥Manda♥ Sunnydale, CA, United States 29485 posts
Apr 6th '09
Quoting Suzie S. BAMF [GDS]:
☆Mrs. Mathers☆ 3 kids; Greenway, OH, United States 26554 posts
Apr 6th '09

that is such a wonderful way of putting it.
it actually made me tear up.

The Blue Heart 3 kids; Australia 9165 posts
Apr 6th '09

brilliant..........Very well written.

Samma[GDS] 2 kids; Willis, Texas 5193 posts
Apr 6th '09

I love that you made this post again. It's so true, just because it's different from your dream doesn't mean you should squander the wonder of the new experience.

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Apr 6th '09
Quoting Sammma [GDS]:
Bryson~N~Jaxson's Mommy 2 kids; Tennessee 262 posts
Apr 6th '09

Here is a poem I thought all would enjoy.

A meeting was held quite far from earth
It's time again for another birth
Said the angel to the Lord above
This special child will need much love
His progress may be very slow
Accomplishments he may not show
And he'll require extra care
from the folks he meets down there
He may not run or laugh or play
His thoughts may seem quite far away
In many ways he won't adapt
And he'll be known as handicapped
So let's be careful where he's sent
We want his life to be content
Please Lord, find the parents who
Will do a special job for you
They'll not realize right away
The leading role they're asked to play
But with this child sent from above
Comes stronger faith and richer love
And soon they'll know the privileges given
In caring for their gift from heaven
Their precious charge, so meek and mild

Bryson~N~Jaxson's Mommy 2 kids; Tennessee 262 posts
Apr 6th '09

Here are a few more poems that I really love. The last one is my favorite I just love it. Enjoy and please feel free to share with others.:D

My Child
My child has some special needs,
but that's part of God's design.
I just need to remember
that God's will is best, not mine.
My child is not a burden,
he's a blessing from above.
Sometimes we face a struggle,
but our lives are filled with love.
Put Jesus at the center,
and forget your selfish ways.
The Lord will surely bless you,
and will help you through your days.

I Am The Child

I am the child who cannot talk.
You often pity me, I see it in your eyes.
You wonder how much I am aware of - I see that as well.
I am aware of much - whether you are happy or sad or fearful,
patient or impatient, full of love and desire,
or if you are just doing your duty by me.
I marvel at your frustration, knowing mine to be far greater,
for I cannot express myself or my needs as you do.
You cannot conceive my isolation, so complete it is at times.
I do not gift you with clever conversation, cute remarks to be laughed over and repeated.
I do not give you answers to your everyday questions, responses over my well-being, sharing my needs, or comments about the world about me.
I do not give you rewards as defined by the world's standards -
great strides in development that you can credit yourself.
I do not give you understanding as you know it.
What I give you is so much more valuable - I give you instead opportunities.
Opportunities to discover the depth of your character, not mine;
the depth of your love, your commitment, your patience, your abilities;
the opportunity to explore your spirit more deeply than you imagined possible.
I drive you further than you would ever go on your own,
working harder, seeking answers to your many questions with no answers.
I am the child who cannot talk.
I am the child who cannot walk.
The world seems to pass me by.
You see the longing in my eyes to get out of this chair,
to run and play like other children.
There is much you take for granted.
I want the toys on the shelf, I need to go to the bathroom, oh I've dropped my fork again.
I am dependant on you in these ways.
My gift to you is to make you more aware of your great fortune,
your healthy back and legs, your ability to do for yourself.
Sometimes people appear not to notice me; I always notice them.
I feel not so much envy as desire, desire to stand upright,
to put one foot in front of the other, to be independent.
I give you awareness.
I am the child who cannot walk.
I am the child who is mentally impaired.
I don't learn easily, if you judge me by the world's measuring stick,
what I do know is infinite joy in simple things.
I am not burdened as you are with the strifes and conflicts of a more complicated life.
My gift to you is to grant you the freedom to enjoy things as a child,
to teach you how much your arms around me mean,
to give you love.
I give you the gift of simplicity.
I am the child who is mentally impaired.
I am the disabled child.
I am your teacher.
If you allow me, I will teach you what is really important in life.
I will give you and teach you unconditional love.
I gift you with my innocent trust, my dependency upon you.
I teach you about how precious this life is and about not taking things for granted.
I teach you about forgetting your own needs and desires and dreams.
I teach you giving.
Most of all I teach you hope and faith.
I am the disabled child.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Apr 7th '09

Just some videos I wanted to share!

These made me cry....

People with Down's have dreams too...
Father's of children with Down's...
They're not really down...

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Apr 10th '09

This is a news piece about aballet class for children with DS!

http://www.msnbc. 3032619/# 30144540

*LiNdSaY* [GDS] Due July 7; 1 child; North Carolina 1922 posts
Apr 20th '09
Quoting Suzie S. BAMF [GDS] DSMC:
S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Apr 20th '09
Quoting *LiNdSaY* [GDS]:
LuLii 1 child; Miami, Florida 24 posts
Oct 25th '09

i love the Poems that have been posted i actually wrOte themdown so i can hang in my room so whenever i feel a little down i can read them because they lift my spirit =)

Sweet lullaby Dearborn Heights, Michigan 30436 posts
Oct 27th '09
Quoting Suzie *Stop Abuse*: