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Lady Anon Due December 25 (girl); 1 child; Davenport, Iowa 4610 posts
Sep 24th '12
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" I'm going to take LO to a public pool for the first time....what should I put him in? Also for you moms ... [snip!] ... you moms who don't vax that young or at all...do public pools creep you out? I feel like that chlorine should kill w/e but idk"


Yes, pools scare me bad. They are nasty to me, rguardless of chlorine.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Sep 24th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Laurnabeth:</b>" Yes, pools scare me bad. They are nasty to me, rguardless of chlorine."</blockquote>




He was so excited..he kept dunking his face in the water tho -__- and making himself choke over and over...then he would laugh and try to dunk again....crazy baby! I had to hold him up and away

kKay. Veneta, Oregon 4957 posts
Sep 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lil*Mama*Bear

kKay. Veneta, Oregon 4957 posts
Sep 25th '12

Is taking pictures of a toddler while they throw a tantrum shaming? I say it is. And anytime my son gets upset I would not be worried about a camera in my hand. Someone posted on fb their so laying on the ground with a horrible sad look on his face. She is supposed to be an attachment parent who is all John and mighty, but I think this is wrong! Just want opinions on this situation.

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Sep 26th '12

Why did they say they were taking pictures? what was the purpose of doing that?

kKay. Veneta, Oregon 4957 posts
Sep 26th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" Why did they say they were taking pictures? what was the purpose of doing that?"</blockquote>




They just said this is what my son has been doing I think he's hitting terrible twos.

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Sep 26th '12

poor kid :(



i think the only time it would be a possibility to record it would be for a professional to show them behaviour you were concerned about.



i definitely think it is shaming and self pitying to post videos or pictures to other people. Whilst we all moan and vent about things, there is no need to publicly show a tantrum over the internet. Then child may be too young to understand, but the adult should know better.



Alot of people are AP with infants, but somehow change the rules once their child is one or whatever. Personally my high needs kid and my personal situation meant i found parenting very hard in the toddler years, but my belief system has always remained AP and unconditional even though my actions might not have been. I guess the difference is that my intent is still positive parenting and i feel terrible for being a mean mommy. Whereas some people seem to think that once their child is 9/12/18 months that they are now too big to be listened too intently anymore and they begin the controlling and punishment stuff.

kKay. Veneta, Oregon 4957 posts
Sep 26th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" poor kid :( i think the only time it would be a possibility to record it would be for a professional ... [snip!] ... months that they are now too big to be listened too intently anymore and they begin the controlling and punishment stuff."</blockquote>




But even the act of taking pictures. Your kid knows what you are doing as you hold a camera or phone to take them. That can be more upsetting. I'm sure he doesn't care and probably never will that it was posted, but he knows they we're taken. My son is almost one and knows when I'm taking a picture.

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Sep 26th '12
Quoting lil*Mama*Bear
kKay. Veneta, Oregon 4957 posts
Sep 26th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" Yup, my psychopath ex used to follow my son around with a camera all the time and that was it. It was ... [snip!] ... they're upset (or anytime really if they should be interacting with you or getting help) is a camera shoved in their face. "</blockquote>




I take lots of pictures, and he usually likes it. But if he gets upset I stop and fix what's wrong. If he needs a hug or to be moved to a different area/activity whatever.

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Sep 26th '12
Quoting lil*Mama*Bear
dream 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Linz, Ob, Austria 59820 posts
Sep 26th '12
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" Yup, my psychopath ex used to follow my son around with a camera all the time and that was it. It was ... [snip!] ... they're upset (or anytime really if they should be interacting with you or getting help) is a camera shoved in their face. "


oh that's my MIL .. always with the camera in her hand while watching Finn. She would take pictures of everything and develop 95% of them. I mean, at least she had good intentions. She was taking pictures of "normal" things, but it was still annoying. She has 10 photo albums full of just my son from his first 12 months!

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
Sep 26th '12
Quoting lil*Mama*Bear
Sofie+#2 2 kids; Sheffield, So, United Kingdom 7799 posts
Sep 26th '12

I see people post minute long videos of their kid tantrumming with a 'lol look at x*x how mardy is she!'
I'm like, turn of the f**king camera and comfort the poor kid! THAT is shaming.

B Turner Due August 31; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Carlisle, OH, United States 3762 posts
Sep 27th '12

Its the first time ive ever left ds with anyone and left for more than an hour. Its been almost 2 and im freaking out. He is breastfed but doesnt take bottles or anything but loves food so we are hoping he will be ok. This is a good test since im not far away. He is almost 10 months. I just hope he will still trust me when i get home.