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School Absences Lyla & Maxwell's Mommy 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Wisconsin 1576 posts
Mar 10th

My daughter is in kindergarten this year and seems to catch every illness going through the school Very Sad  We received a letter from her school today that says her absences have been excessive and if they continue they may require a medical letter for each absence.  My daughter has genuinely been sick for each and EVERY day she’s missed. She’s caught up on her work and her teacher said she’s a top performer.  I’m so annoyed, do they want to us to send her to school sick?!  She missed 6 days first semester and 3 so far this semester. 

Do you all think it’s too many days too?! 

We’re due in April and had planned to have her come the day after to spend time with the new baby at the hospital but now I’m worried we’ll get in trouble or something. Embarassed


♥Jessie♥ Due November 1 (girl); 4 kids; 2 angel babies; Idaho 14562 posts
Mar 10th

Honestly, to me that does seem like a lot of absences. Our state has regulations that the schools have to follow regarding absences and you have way surpassed them. It may seem like it isn't much but they are stuck following rules too. If she is sick you'll just have to get doctor's notes from this point forward. It sucks but they are in just as awkward a position as you.

Lyla & Maxwell's Mommy 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Wisconsin 1576 posts
Mar 10th

Quoting ♥Jessie♥:
Honestly, to me that does seem like a lot of absences. Our state has regulations that the schools have to follow regarding absences and you have way surpassed them. It may seem like it isn't much but they are stuck following rules too. If she is sick you'll just have to get doctor's notes from this point forward. It sucks but they are in just as awkward a position as you.


She’s just had a rough year adjusting to all the germs I think.  I’m a stay at home mom so it’s new to her poor system. Plus she had noroviris and influenza A which took days to recover from. In the future I guess we’ll just send her once her fever breaks, instead of waiting the 24 hours.  

The letter doesn’t require a doctors note yet which is good.  I don’t take our kids in unless it’s absolutely necessary. I’m just incredibly annoyed but understand the schools position. I looked online and our district allows 20 excused per calendar year but requires a doctor’s note if the child goes over 15. 

Cake and Cats 1 child; Virginia 964 posts
Mar 11th

I had this issue one year with my daughter. If she is sick she is sick, point blank. Wait the 24 hour period before you send her back for her sake and to prevent other children from getting sick.. 

This is out of your control, you keeping her home is best for her and the right thing to do. If it becomes more of an issue you will have to take her to the Dr more to be able to document what she is not at school

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2009 posts
Mar 11th

It does seem like a lot of days to have off. But if she’s sick, she’s sick, there’s not a lot you can do about it. Just carry on as you are and if you come to the point where they start asking you for a doctors note then that’s just what you’ll have to do. If she is actually sick when you say she is, then there won’t be a problem getting a note for her. 
Like someone else said, they have rules that they have to follow, and if your reasons for her being off are genuine (proved with a doctors note) then they won’t have a problem. But unfortunately I’m sure they have a lot of parents that keep their kids off a lot to take on holidays etc that just say their kids are sick and it’s because of them that they have to do it. But if your reasons are genuine then they’ll see that and there won’t be an issue.

LittlebuttsMamax3! 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Asheville, North Carolina 17335 posts
Mar 11th

We had this problem in kindergarten too. It was silly because they harp about not sending them sick and waiting 24 hours after a fever but then freak when they miss too many days. I just started bringing her to the doctor every time. Which everytime it was just a virus that had to run it's course and cost me $20 but it made the school happy so whatever. 

I talked to them beforehand and there was no issue with her missing 1 day when we had her sister also. 

Drew90 Due December 28; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Hodgdon, ME, United States 7343 posts
Mar 11th

I had this issue my senior year of high school and even after getting doctors notes they tried telling me they weren't going to let me graduate, even though I was passing all my classes and stayed caught up on my assignments. 

Lyla & Maxwell's Mommy 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Wisconsin 1576 posts
Mar 11th

I just think it’s silly. She’s in kindergarten and has never been in school before, of course she’s going to be sick more often.  Also, it’s been an awful year in our community for the stomach flu and influenza which certainly didn’t help. I’m going to talk to the principal tomorrow but I’m sure it will be fine. It just caught me off guard to get a ‘preformed’ letter like that. 

Thanks for for your input ladies! 

.casper. 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Neverland, NJ, Christmas Island 2009 posts
Mar 12th

Quoting Lyla & Maxwell's Mommy:
I just think it’s silly. She’s in kindergarten and has never been in school before, of course she’s going to be sick more often.  Also, it’s been an awful year in our community for the stomach flu and influenza which certainly didn’t help. I’m going to talk to the principal tomorrow but I’m sure it will be fine. It just caught me off guard to get a ‘preformed’ letter like that. 

Thanks for for your input ladies! 


It’s possibly just an automated letter that gets sent when a child has so many days off. I wouldn’t worry about it! Im
sure they’ll understand when you tell them it’s her first time around all the bugs! We’ve been lucky with DD and DS1 because they very rarely get sick, however my youngest starts school this year and he catches EVERYTHING going. So we’ll have similar problems!